How to get girlfriend to work out

Discussion in 'Fitness, Health & Nutrition' started by Bluntzilla420, Oct 2, 2014.

  1. So, I made a thread in another section a month or two back about how I wish my girlfriend was more active. I got some advice that mostly ranged from "Ask her to work out with you" and so on.
     
    Well, that hasn't worked out. No pun intended.
     
    I am in modest shape. I used to work out like 5-6 times a week but times are busier nowadays. However, my GF and I are about three weeks removed from moving into a house together. For the most part we eat pretty well, a lot of veggies and such. She is a vegetarian and is bigger than any vegetarian should be, and that kind of pisses me off. Yeah, she doesn't eat meat but she will eat cookies and shit at 10 pm. It's really unattractive to me after awhile ...yeah, we all get blazed and eat junk food here and there. But she does it a lot. It's like, fucking A.
     
    When we first met last November, she was a little slimmer but not too much. I would classify her as curvy, but it's gotten worse progressively over time and the shitty part is that her not wanting to take care of herself physically has somewhat made me unattracted to her (I never told her this, but I think about it a lot -- especially when we are fooling around or something).
     
    I have suggested doing activities together. We went on a bike ride today for about 9 miles, that was fun but you don't really get a crazy workout from a bike ride as you would jogging. I brought up that we should do different fun activities every night or almost every night, and she just said "Yeah ...don't know about that..." so I dropped it cause fuck it, ya know?
     
    I don't know what else to do. I love her to death but physical attraction is just as important as emotional attraction, and it's slipping away slowly and it's on my mind a lot. She wears baggy clothes because she is self-conscious and it just makes things worse. Shit, I'm a good looking guy and I work my ass off to be in good shape; I think I deserve something similar too.
     
    Help me ooooouuuuuttttttt (TL;DR: GF is overweight and doesn't try to get thinner, causing attraction issues in relationship)

     
  2. damn bro. sorry to hear things aren't workin out for you.
     
    got nothing new to add other than hope things get better for you
     
  3. What you just said in this thread say to her.
     
  4. maybe be honest? attempt my advice with the utmost care 
     
  5. I bought my girl and I gym memberships. She goes every week day with me and one of her girlfriends at 4am. That might work out for you too.  
     
  6. Tell her since you are planning to be long term(hopefully permanent) you worry for her health and that obesity can lead to a plethora of health problems from back/hip problems, to diabetes, to heart disease. Try to do it in a way that you come across as educating her about the risks of being overweight. Even if she does not qualify as obese yet tell her that you worry this behavioral pattern of eating cookies at 10pm will lead to that, but you understand because you like to smoke herbs too, and know how powerful of an appetite stimulant it is, but self control must be exercised.
     
    Also subtly drop the bomb around that you think lack of self control, especially gluttony, is unattractive. I'm guessing you also find her lack of effort to be attractive, unattractive.
     
    If she is unwilling to make the change you need to decide what is more important. Pursuing the exact same things in life as a couple or letting her do her thang and love her for who she is.
     
    My 2 cents man.  I've been in similar situations.  On both sides of the coin.
     
  7. Yeah be honest with her before you commit to a lease with her. Better be careful though she might get all hot looking and dump your ass .


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  8. Well in some relationships this does happen, one or both of the people start caring less about their image. Probably because they feel that they don't need to do their best to look good, especially without clothes on.
     
    My friend is actually in the same situation as you, he likes physical activity, eating good, and staying fit but his girlfriend is turning into a pig ever since they started dating. I hate to play the gender card here but it seems that girls do this a lot more often than guys.
     
    I understand that you don't want her to get offended or anything but if I were you I would address it calmly. I wouldn't say she is getting fat or anything, I'd just say that it'd be nice if you could join me on walks/jogs, bike rides, etc because it is a good way to spend time together. You also get some exercise and get to go out to enjoy nature and get some fresh air. 
     
    If the chick is too lazy to go out for some damn light exercise every couple of days she has a bit of a problem.
     
  9. "Hey, I have an idea, for every hour you exercise, I'll go down on you for 20 minutes."
    But seriously, don't go with the whole "Your fat, lose weight" approach. Be honest, but not in a way you say you don't like her being fat. Tell her that you want her to be more self confident, that you want to buy her nice clothes and be able to go to fancy places, but at the moment that she is so self concious about her weight that you feel that it's unfair to her to make her go out and dress up when she might not feel comfortable. Make sure she know's you'll be there with her the whole way. She probably feels self concious to go and do activities or go to a gym, so just buy more healthy foods, and maybe get some exercise equipment for your new house? Girls do tend to let themselves go when they get into a serious relationship, and unless you address it it'll just keep getting worse until you feel absolutely nothing towards her.
     
  10. #10 yurigadaisukida, Oct 2, 2014
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    Tell her how it is.

    If she loves you, then telling her she's fat and ugly should get her to work.out.

    If she leaves you for it then you are better off without her

    If you stop having sex because she isn't attractive, she will either leave you, or work.out. those are the two options really

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  11. #11 homestarstoner, Oct 2, 2014
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    buddy take my advice.

    if you arent happy with her, and she isnt happy doing anything with you, shes not the one.

    for your happiness, find someone that likes spending quality time with you. not someone that wants to stay home and eat.

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  12. Thanks for all the responses. What bothers me the most is that when I kindly bring it up, not even to alienate her but as a fact that I enjoy doing physical activities with a partner, she blew me off before I could finish the sentence. The funny thing is that when we started dating, she said that fatter guys used to hit on her and it was such a turn off. OH RLY?
     
    Sometimes we will watch something on TV or something with a comedian making fat jokes or something, and I will peer over at her to see if it's subconsciously (or consciously affecting her) and what do I see? She's on her phone or something, doing stupid bullshit. Sigh.
     
    Beauty is only skin deep, yeah yeah. Blah blah blah. Whoever said that was probably dating a fucking model.
     
  13. if it is affecting your relationship, and it seems like you are about to take a relatively big step forward, then you have to talk to her. and if she blows you off... then you need to more persistent. 
     
    maybe she needs to find something that she likes to do... i.e. not go for a run, but maybe do yoga or kickboxing.. or whatever gets her off the couch.
     
    and there's nothing wrong with having standards, but you have to lead by example first and foremost. 
     
  14. #14 IBALL904, Oct 3, 2014
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    You a better man than me cuz I'm not paying for gym membership for my girl especially when she wasted money on $500 purses. I told her stop buying too much $500 purses and use that money to pay for your own gym membership. The only way I pay for her membership is if she prove to me that she can workout at the park since it's free lol.


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  15. Tough situation...but you really gotta lay it out up front, tell her physical appearance is important to you. Hint it before actually saying "I want you to lose.weight so your more attractive and we're more balanced"

    Remember...women are different species. They typically think with their emotional side and you gotta lay it down slow and at the right time.
     
  16. #16 yurigadaisukida, Oct 4, 2014
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    maybe start checking.out the fit girls super obviously so she can see it.

    Then go for runs at the times the hottest milfs usually run.

    If she gets jeleous she may start running with you. If this happens, problem.solved

    If its clear she doesn't care that much, imagine what will happen when you are married and she thinks she can get away with anything from tthen on

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  17. #17 As Above So Below, Oct 6, 2014
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    Break up with her man. That relationship is going downhill fast! And I would never move in with her at this point, that is going to be a horrible, horrible situation. You know why she binges at night? Because she's not getting enough nutrients during the day, so when she smokes her body reminds her that she's not getting nearly enough nutrients. Ever try changing up your diet completely one day? It's good for a little while but then you get those sugar / salty cravings and then once you have that first bite of junk food / fast food, it becomes a binge because you just starved yourself of what you usually eat.
     
    It's very common for people who diet, and let me tell you, they fail a lot. You don't need to diet. That implies you will eat healthy for a while and then go back to the shit you were eating before. You need a life style change. 
     
    I've dated girls who were cool as fuck but didn't take care of themselves... I'm a good looking guy myself so I deserve someone who looks just as good. I want to show off my GF to my friends and family. Well not like show off like a prize you just won, but more like having pride about taking care of yourself.
     
    It's not like this is coming out of nowhere one day. This has obviously been an ongoing issue for months and you have been trying to be supportive about it and she's just shitting all over you.
     
    While I won't call her a bitch, she seems like she'll be a slob pretty soon. Especially with the way she binges, that's gonna catch up real quick!
     
    Usually if I have any doubts in a relationship or something bothers me a lot, like this obviously would, I just end it.
     
    If you're not going to take care of yourself like I do, then go be with another slob.
     
    End it man, and whatever you do, do not move in with her! Especially not a house!!!
     
  18. I think you should break up with her because she deserves someone who will love her for who she is and not dictate what she can and can't eat or what her body should look like.
     
  19. How sad for her :(

    I hope she can some how see this thread and not make the mistake of moving in with you.

    You need to find someone more shallow to match your mentality imho.
     
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    It's so much bullshit to think of it as shallow to not want to be with someone you dont find attractive. It is a perfectly normal response.
    "Baby I think youre ugly but your personality is okay"
     

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