rejection sucks

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by Sunny Jim, Oct 1, 2014.

  1. Sup blades
     
    So I've been texting this girl who I've known for a while back and forth for the last three weeks, and these have been substantial conversations. Like lasting over an hour. And she would always take the time to text me back. We hung out last Sunday, and things went pretty well. She made me a bracelet, gave me her number, and said that she definitely wanted to see me again.
     
    Today, she told me that she was going to be in town, and I asked her if she wanted to get some pizza. She said absolutely, but then like three hours later I asked her which restaurant she wanted to go to, and she gave me the "Ummmm, Idk" non response and didn't respond again. A little while later, I asked if she still wanted to meet, and she texted me back saying that she was hanging with another guy friend. She's mentioned this guy friend of her's before, but up until now, she's insisted that they were just friends. But...I can read between the lines. I'm clearly being rejected.
     
    Now, I can handle rejection, but I've known this girl since high school and she's always been nothing but sweet and kind to me, flirty at times. Basically, I consider her to be the ideal woman. But up until recently, she was in a relationship. I've probably idealized her throughout the years, but I live in a very small community, and I've run into her on a consistent basis throughout the years, so it can't be helped.
     
    Idk. This particular instance of rejection just gets to me.

     
  2. #2 -Martyr, Oct 1, 2014
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    This life isn't all about you. May seem petty, and it may seem heavy because of the disappointment, but this isn't that big of a deal. It's as you said, you idolized her and she either ditched you for a friend, or someone she was more interested in. This is the way of the world, and it's not necessarily wrong. Sucks when things don't go as planned, but whose fault was it for making a presumptuous plan? Always our own. That's why I play aloof for a bit when I make plans with anyone. Sometimes people mean it in the moment and other shit that's more appealing come up, or priorities and interests change. Jumping the gun with excitement gives you just enough momentum to make it to rock bottom in no time.
     
  3. You're right man. I was bummed for a while earlier today, but then I realized that I was presuming way too much. Life goes on. On to the next.  
     
    I also usually play coy when making plans with the opposite sex, as well. I guess I just got ahead of myself in this instance because this is a girl who I've been attracted to for years. But as you're saying, the sun doesn't rise just for me.
     
  4. Get off the texting and TALK TO HER
     
  5. #6 Space Cat, Oct 1, 2014
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    wat
     
  6. Stop texting her and call her!

    That's what I wad gonna say but he has a good point too.
     
  7. Genius.
     
  8. Find more than one girl to talk to. And don't let your emotions get attached to em. Shit changes quick, so be ready to hit the ground and regroup.
     
  9.  
    Everyone is gonna come in here and say that. but with good text game you can get a date with a girl. Definitely possible. Then you just have to not be an idiot and fuck it up in person lol.
    Talk to a few girls at once (not group chat -_-) so that you don't care when one doesn't reply or is taking forever. It won't matter because you 'll be distracted with the other ones and your indifference will show, and girls chase indifference.
     
    And talk to a lot of girls. Esp online. Talk to any hot girl on fb (make sure she is real AND isn't mutual friends with any else you talk to. Don't wanna be flirting with two girl-friends. It's not even wrong if you aren't together, and don't pretend that she is the only girl, but most girls find it a turn off because you are a "player". As if they weren't flirting with every other guy who messaged them too. They stay busy with their friends and with flirty guy convos until they find a guy who stands out. The guy who doesn't seem to care as much about her approval, for example.
     
  10.  
    Very well said 
     
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    She wants a real man.
     
    Perhaps you should become Homosexual. Get some butt, take a big one in the shitter suck a little cock.
    Fun Fun Fun.
     
  12. This post is definitely spot on.
     
  13. #14 Smokey Tha Bear, Oct 1, 2014
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    seriously though I agree with you :(
     
  14. yea OP you're leaving out that the charms made for you are friendship bracelets

    Sent from my~★☆Continuum Transfunctioner☆★
     
  15. #16 GreenBliss420, Oct 1, 2014
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    Uh, how old are you OP? Why would you get into this girl who hasn't done a thing for you yet? What has she done to deserve your affection? 
     
    You don't chase girls through text messages. If you liked her that much, you go up to here and talk to  her face to face. You don't say "I like you" but you make it clear that you do. You also make it clear that you also do have other things in life and this isn't the end of the world if she plays games. You'll just shuffle along to something/someone else. And if she flakes, this is exactly what you do. You just move along and find someone else you like more. You can't really justify getting this emotionally attached to a person who clearly doesn't care about you, can you? See what I'm saying? 
     
    I really hope one of these generations of young men flip the script that's in place now. Chasing girls through text messages, dealing with "ummmmm idk". You chase two to three girls a day, online and off, and in the end it won't really matter what any one or two of them say. You don't be rude, you don't have to get nasty, you just shut down and move along to someone else when the bullshit starts. If you were all doing that, this kind of problem would just naturally take care of itself and never come up anymore. 
     
    Smh...
     
  16. The best thing you can do is not texting her , not talking to her .
    Only respond with a few words sentences if she texts you first , if not - there is nothing you can do... the other dude made you , sorry ...
     
  17.  
    This made me decide to go buy coca cola.
    My teeth hate you though :)
     
  18. Using a straw helps :D


    360 joints in my body and not one in my pocket.
     
  19. Initially I was texting her through facebook. Our first phone conversation was over her house phone.
     
    I actually set up our first hangout via a live phone conversation (house phone). Texting is a way of establishing early interest without overplaying your hand, or appearing needy. I did in fact hang with her last night and it went well. More phone conversations will follow if things continue going well. 
     
    My last two relationships were initiated through text conversations, so I can personally attest that this is true (texting should only serve to establish interest in the early going, however), and that there is a definite art form to text conversation with the opposite sex. I actually did get to hang with her last night, and she had that other dude with her, but she assured me that they are definitely not an item. He just follows her from place to place. It was sort of implied that he was gay, but I didn't ask.
     
    She made the same bracelet for her last boyfriend. Really she just makes them for whoever she knows.
     
    She hasn't done anything for me directly, but as I've said, I've been friends with her for years. And in my opinion, texting is a perfectly legitimate method for establishing tacit interest early on, without overplaying your hand.
     

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