I was posting in "The Lonely Thread" for a while, but realized that most of my posts were just me complaining about my ex girlfriend and not necessarily about the fact that I was lonely. This thread will probably never go anywhere, which is fine, but if it does that works too. But I looked through similar threads and didn't find any quite like this one..but if there is one feel free to point me in its direction and I will probably just revive it. Anyway, I'm supposed to Skype my ex-girlfriend tonight for the first time in 3 months. We're trying to be friends, but right now I don't think we are doing a very good job at it. I'm trying to convince her (and myself for that matter) that I'm over her, but honestly I don't think I really am. It was my first real relationship, so it's been a bitch to deal with the break up. Sometimes I think it's getting better, other times I feel like we just broke up yesterday. Most of the time I wish we had never met so that this wouldn't be my emotional state right now. So is anyone else currently going through a breakup, or the aftermath of a breakup, or just months later still thinking about their last significant other? Are you trying to be friends or are you just straight up erasing them from your life? Want to complain about it or feel sad and wallow about it?You can make your own thread, or you can just do it here. Whatever floats your boat.
I want to know why people try to stay friends, I think it is more still having feelings and not wanting to break up but maybe too stubborn or immature to discuss feelings openly. But I am also confused because if there is no trust and hurt feelings then how is being friends going to work? But on the other hand if there is trust, though interests and personalities just can't intermingle, then why? I don't have any recent follies. I am pretty good at communication when I want to be and have been with the same person for a few years.
Well in my case, we mostly broke up mostly because we were long distance with no real ability to set an end date for it. I'm stuck where I am for the next year right now because I'm trying to finish my master's degree. She is in a career that requires constant moving around, so she is never in the same place for a very long time. She isn't willing to give that up at the age of 23, and I think that's fair and I wouldn't ask her to. So we broke up instead of trying to force it to work. There were some other complicated factors in there, but since we aren't getting back together, they aren't exactly an issue really. But there was never any big blowout or hurt feelings or anything. We just made a mature decision based on the reality of the situation. Granted, I did the breaking up and she didn't want it, but I think as time has gone on she has realized it was the right thing to do. Being friends probably won't work though. She just texted me to cancel skyping because her friends at her current job want to take her out. I'm upset now a little. She will always pick other people over me.
Yea won't work man move on. You'll find someone else. Keep your chin up man I love companionship but also love seeing new women and personality and of course her body naked. Love that part so much. Let's Smoke About It.... http://forum.grasscity.com/index.php?/topic/1320164-Sade's-First-Grow-Green-Crack
Well if this was me, there are basically two options I would think of. One would be, you love her and cannot be without her in your life and she feels the same way. You figure out how to make it work, compromise. Its hard and theres sacrifice but its worth it. Or, You accept this path just isn't the right one and move on, go no-contact for awhile until you know in your heart your over the romantic feelings. Who knows, once your schooling is finished you might bump into each other in the future when you are both in a better place in your lives, or you might not. Stay open to what life has to offer you, its easier when your not constantly trying to stuff square pegs into round holes. Good luck man!
Do yourself a favor - cancel the Skype session, erase her from your life in every way, and try to wheel some other chicks.
Yeah I feel this. It's just real hard when I know she's out there. It's one of those things where I feel like I won't COMPLETELY move on until I meet a new person. All of these things are why I don't typically date This is probably what will end up happening. I erased her once and it was brutal. I'm trying to wean myself off of it right now. I guess I'll see which ends up being easier
Being in grad school also makes it harder because I don't have a lot of time to go out because I'm always reading and writing stuff, so then when my ADD pops up I have to force my mind to go different places. I need some adderall or something so I can actually focus on the readings
I think about my Ex a lot still, we broke up (her parents sabotaged our relationship) last year in July, we haven't spoken to each other since. But it's a lot easier to let go of someone who falsely accused you of domestic and child abuse, iced you out of your daughters life for over a year, jumping into a new relationship only 2 1/2 months after the end of yours. It's such a confusing situation for me because I never got any form of closure, and there is still a great deal of unresolved conflict and issues between us, unfortunately... she is the kind of person who simply ignores her problems until they go away, pretending they don't exist and instead creating an alternative reality. Currently I'm dealing with a messy ass child custody/visitation battle with her, with no end in sight, and no hope for me or our daughter.
Personally I would never keep one after the break up. Itd be too depressing to see what you dont have anymore Sent from my SCH-I535 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Damn dude that's a lot of shit to deal with from one person. I hope everything works out for you and your daughter. I feel you about the closure thing. My breakup didn't involve a whole mess of drama or lost feelings. The timing was just wrong for us since I'm pursuing my education and my ex is pursuing her career. We talked about trying again and then some shit went down and things were just kind of left up in the air so I have no idea what she thinks about the situation or how she feels about me anymore and it's been really hard to let go since I constantly wonder if it could possibly work out someday in the future. It's also hard letting go of someone when we didn't fall out of love, I just gave in to the realities of our situation. Sent from my SCH-I535 using Grasscity Forum mobile app