I've started seeing this guy who lives in Fort Collins, CO. I'm in Nebraska. He's told me pretty much everyone he knows uses pot, says he used to but doesn't anymore. I find it hard to believe that everyone around him is using but he's not. Because most people will follow the crowd and he'll say he'll call and then doesn't so I figure he forgets to because he's high. It pisses me off some because it makes me feel like getting high is more important than talking to me, that was the case with a previous guy. No I've never tried marijuana and won't now because I work in healthcare and get randomly tested if I so much as mention alcohol. This guy and I have discussed me possibly moving to CO in a year or two if things work out between us. I'm concerned that since everyone he hangs out with uses pot and I don't that we won't have anything in common or really get along except for this guy. That'll all they'll do when they get together is get high and I'll be stuck in either another room or outside the house cause I'm not really a part of the group that they just tolerate my being there. The last guy I tried dating used pot and he broke up with me because I wouldn't try it, so I've got a fear that this guy will do the same, so I told him that after I moved to CO and got an ID there, since I'll be able to buy more then with an out of state ID, that I'd hit as many dispensaries as I could and buy as many edibles as I can. I have a weird phobia about smoking anything, that's why I want to go the edible route. I told him I plan to eat as many of the edibles as I can since I've heard they don't always taste the greatest, and get as much marijuana in my system as possible the first time. I figure it won't matter if I don't enjoy it, after that first time my body/brain chemistry will never return to how it was before so I'll have no choice but to continue using. I've told him I wish to be completely alone the first time I do this because I'll have to learn to deal with a bad high on my own eventually and I don't want to be made fun of for the way I act or things I say.
You never tried pot......but are making plans to move state and become a complete pothead just to keep someone you've just met recently happy.......not knowing if he even still smokes pot anyways. Umm sounds......Like one helluva adventure!!
Sounds kind of like you are uncomfortable with the whole idea of weed, so don't do it. Don't let some guy pressure you into taking edibles or smoking just because you are afraid he might not like you.
That idea could be dangerous if you have never done pot. I would highly suggest you start out with a moderate amount of edibles. Eating too many and being alone could end up in injury. Just make sure he does not make fun of you. That is mean. If this guy loves you, he will be very concerned for your well being if you decide to de-virginize yourself for pot. I know I would. I had to call 911 on a friend that took 3 hits off pipe. Cannabis is not for everyone. I wish you both the best of luck!
Trying to load up on edibles with zero tolerance to THC? Have fun with that.. Just one hit out of a bong my first time was enough to rock my entire world, any stronger and I wouldn't of enjoyed it! Be careful with edibles, even the most seasoned high tolerance consumers can get ported into another universe with the right edible dosage.
Wow. Why do you assume have to use cannabis? to make him happy, And to try and force yourself to "need" weed wtf. Also you said a couple years? But you are already thinking about stuff like this. . I think this crazy... Just go with the flow. Like if he loves you then weed will not be his priority and he would probably be worried about you wanted to force ur self to be a weed head. Like why this threads has "nuts" written all over it. You are stressing things you need not worry about. Oh shit you don't even know if H smokes anymore... Wf Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
mmm what? so you dont want too smoke but to stay in a relationship you're not so sure of, you're going to move to a brand new place and buy a bunch of edibles. im so confused. does that even make sense to you? if you're in a relationship with this man you should be able to talk to him about this and see what he says. if he has bogus answers then there you have it. dont quit your job and move out somewhere completely new to try and impress him.. and your body/brain chemistry will be fine. you do have a choice. stop being stupid yo talk to your manz
This...is a very very bad idea. Not meaning to be rude but, what are you expecting ? A sugar high ? I've been smoking cannabis on and off since 1982 and even I'm fearful of edibles. I'll be in Colorado in two weeks time and I don't plan on ingesting any edibles. There's a thread on these forums about someone eating an entire chocolate bar of edible after the first few squares of it didn't do anything. After it kicked in he/she regretted being so foolhardy. When I was in high school (before I started smoking cannabis), I would attend parties and get offered cannabis on occasion. I just politely refused and said..."No, thank you." This whole business of people getting high from second hand pot smoke is a crock IMO. I didn't get stoned until I actually inhaled and held it in my lungs for a few seconds. You can hang out with cannabis smokers without having to smoke cannabis yourself. And if they have a problem with you not smoking then...they're just not cool. I wouldn't want to be around people like that. That would suck.
I'm a bit concerned about you tbh. I suggest you do more research on the effects of cannabis, and pay particular attention to questions of anxiety and paranoia. I think you're a prime candidate because you're starting out from a kind of paranoid and negative place to begin with. Cannabis will exaggerate your thoughts and feelings, and a large dose even moreso. You already have a negative opinion of "pot" and "pot users" and seem to believe that it will permanently change who you are, and that it's going to turn you into an addict. That could make your first time a bit unpleasant especially if you eat too much edibles. You're just asking for trouble. Furthermore your concept of a healthy relationship seems very skewed. Why would you change yourself so drastically for someone? Why would you put your career at risk by using a drug you don't even seem to be much interested in and of which you disapprove? Why are you so certain this guy is lying to you about something like this, and if you really think that why would you want anything to do with him. I'm really perplexed by your post.
I never said I was against weed and didn't mean to imply I was.I've just chosen not to use because of my job which I hate anyway along with this town I live in. I've had more of a don't give a crap one way or the other attitude until a few months ago. I talked with this guy and he told me he has started smoking again. Yes I'm well aware that doing something like this to keep someone interested in me is stupid, but since I'm overweight ( am trying to lose) my options in the dating world are severely limitedit seems to either drug users or men old enough to be my grandad.
@[member="chaichai"] Girl, no ones implying your stupid or anything like that.....we just worry for our fellow bladies.
why do people insist on focusing their attention on the future? i swear, the majority of anxiety lies in expectations of the future. cut that shit out, you'll be much happier.
I said I know WHAT I'm doing is stupid and I know that, but why date a pot user and hang out with their friends who also use if I'm going to be the only person not using? Pretty soon it's just going to get boring for all of us when all they do is get high when they're together ( what else does a group of pot users do?) and I'm just sitting there like "I like chai tea."
Most stoners like to do what most other people do. They just do it stoned. Being overweight doesn't mean this one guy, and older men, are the only ones interested in you. Many, many men overlook perceived weight problems. Since you're trying to lose weight, why not wait it out until you feel confident enough to bag a man who you have more in common with? I don't understand why you're going to do something you know is stupid. It doesn't even sound like a fun kind of stupid.
the whole relationship aspect of this aside, going to CO, and eating a shitload of edible is an awful idea. If you dont wanna smoke your first time, then eat a small amount of edibles. There have been a few things in the news of inexperienced people eating a bunch of edibles and freaking out.
Feels like a troll. You've never got high but you wanna buy up all the edibles in Colorado?? Beak up with him and find a nice boy, those pot heads are nothing but trouble.
Eating a small amount will just mean it I'll take that much longer to build up my tolerance and I'll just get made fun of constantly for it. I'll eventually have to get used to being high/ stoned all the time anyway. I'm not going to break up with this guy, I'm getting too old at 28 to simply wait for the next one if I plan on having kids. I just don't see how someone who uses pot would want to hangout with or date someone who doesn't. Nice boys don't exist, you either have to be a playboy model, put out, or use drugs for a guy to like you I learned that a long time ago.