So my girl friend does this thing where if were at a club or something and guys flirt with her she always like flirts back and basically uses him to get free drinks. I think thats a little messed up. What about yall? Do you do this or do you think its okay and harmless? Sent from my VS920 4G using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Yea it is a little messed up to flirt with other people while you're there.. but on the plus side you ain't paying for alcohol 😉
I assume youre a chick OP. your girl friend does that to get drinks. It's her call, not yours. unless you jealous and are lesbians for her...
Hahaha this reminded of a night where this girl was kinda drunk and we were flirting heavily at the bar. I assumed she was straight until her girlfriend showed up and was furious. She yelled at her like " every time you get drunk you suddenly want a dick!!! I'm getting sick of it!!" I just started laughing, it felt like a sitcom sent from my cellular device, for your eyes only.
Zowie, yeahhhh. We've been dating for over a year so a little of it is my call. We live together. Shmiiko, haha. I know! J, damn. No I'm aware she does it and I'm typically right next to her. So a gut doesn't get drunk and take it to far. But that's hilarious! Sent from my VS920 4G using Grasscity Forum mobile app
On August 3rd, you were threatening suicide. Did you ever get that worked out? Are you seeing a counsler for those thoughts? I am concerned for you.
Old school smoker, im seeing a therapist twice a week and ive started working out everyday. Im doing much better. The thought still creeps in my mind at least once a day but its not my only thought anymore. Thank you Sent from my VS920 4G using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I love going out to clubs and flirting with other women, even if my gf is there. We're in a somewhat-open relationship though. If it bugs you that much, talk to her about it but it's probably no big deal and she just wants free booze/attention.
I'm fairly certain this could be considered a form of exploitatin. Although there are two consenting parties and they are engaging in an implicit contract, it is pretty selfish and manipulative behavior on her part. I would say I feel bad for the guys, but they deserve to face the repercussions of their choices.
IMO it's implied that a guy goes to the club, buys chicks drinks and either gets lucky or strikes out. In this instance he struck out. His money could have been better served elsewhere, such as buying himself drinks.
This is basically what I was saying. It is a voluntary interaction between two people, and there is an implicit contract that the person buying the drink is expecting some kind of reciprocation in the form of conversation. Its not unreasonable for a person receiving the drink to become disinterested as they have no obligation to the provider. However, if a girl knows that she is not attracted or intersted in interacting with an individual and is simply using her own attractiveness to attain resources, then this is comparable to intentional exploitation. Similar to men who buy a woman a drink and then think she is obligated to spend the rest of the night with him (or even reciprocate with sex) - it is abusing a fairly well-understood implicit contract to create an intentionally one-sided transaction where only one party gains anything. But again, gender roles can be reverse here, and it is up to both parties in the end to be aware of possible exploitation.