I'm just gonna lay out the situation straight up. It's hard to talk about. I'm not attracted to big girls. But my current girlfriend is big. We were apart for a time, but we have been together for years. Now, I've just never been into big girls, so it has never even been a thought on my mind. So when I first met her, which was from an online dating site, my first thought was that I wasn't really going to give it a chance. But then being directly confronted with that situation, saying I wouldn't give someone a chance because of something like that, seemed so obviously shallow. I wasn't comfortable admitting to myself that I wouldn't give someone a chance for that reason, so I did. I really grew to love her. I care about her so much. I love her in so many ways. And she loves me so deeply too, which I love. She really does have a really cute face and everything like that, beautiful really, but she is big. Significantly so. And I'm not 'into' that. But I love her so much, and I've been with her for a very long time, and it is very hard for me to imagine not being with her. So, do big girls, or girls that in some other way many guys would not find sexually attractive, simply not have options to date people? Not only because they can't get them, but because guys who aren't sexually attracted to that SHOUDN'T date them? SHOULD their options be limited, because you shouldn't date someone with traits you don't find sexually attractive. I mean, I've always heard people say you should look deeper than physical attraction. And yet everything I read, seems to say that whether or not you give someone a chance should be based on physical attraction. So what do you guys think? Is it wrong to be with someone whose body type you do not find sexually attractive? Or is it right to look beyond that, and love them for who they are as a person? Thoughts?
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Same boat bro. I grew up long ago and realized the old sayings are true. Beauty is only skin deep and all that jazz. I've had my fair share of petite little cuties and that was all fun. But I never "clicked" enough with em to make shit last for more than a year or two. Or just never got lucky enough to find the petite cutie that was also smart and funny and yaddayadda. Anyway been there dine that and on to the next petite cute one and so on and so on.... I was blindsided one day when a friend and co-worker, (bigger than I'd go for normally)someone who I got along with great, told me she was into me. I didn't want to be a dick so we went in a couple dates and had a blast together. We really compliment each other and I've never been happier. That was 5years ago and we're now engaged. But I will say this, I would love it if she lost weight but it's not a deal breaker. Those hot chicks usually don't stay hot for long. And eventually you get to the age where that shit really doesn't matter. Ultimately you have to live with the person. Getting along and having an enjoyable life is more important to me. Peace!
Shit same OP. Identical situation. Met my ex online,went to see her for the first time and I was kinda like ehhh, idk. I mean I was always kinda into bigger curvy chicks but I wasn't sure about this one but I gave it a shot. We had a decent relationship for like 4 months. And well honestly, I loved her body. Idk how big you're talking about but she was a nice big. Huge ass, double D's, nice and beefy all around Good in the sack. Only thing I really disliked was she had a bit of tummy fat but I can deal with it.
How big are all you guys talking? I'm into what many would consider 'big' girls, but not... fat ones. I mean my girlfriend is pretty petite, but I still weigh the same as her (I'm unusually skinny) so she has some decent curves. Certainly not a girl I'd lable 'big'. So again, what exactly is 'big'?
Yeah my girl is big as well. Really pretty face though and that counts equally with the body for me. I was banging her for a while but didn't want to get serious because of her weight, then I realized I was preventing a good thing from happening for superficial reasons. I still encourage her to lose weight, but overall our relationship is great and we love each other.
http://forum.grasscity.com/pandoras-box/1030416-curvy-girls-thread.html/page-228 This thread may also change your opinion
I didn't realise I was into big girls, or maybe I wasn't when I first started to date my current gf. But as I fell more in love with her, I also grew more attracted to her and am now what some would call a "chubby chaser". I like curvy ladies
I think its okay to be in the situation you're in, but personally, I like to be attracted to my lady.
if there was no emotional connection, it would be wrong of you to leading her on and building what you both think is a relationship. but youve admitted that there is more than just a physical attraction, so youre feelings for her have surpassed you not being "into" big girls. dont hurt her feelings, big skinny fat or skin and bones, shes still a woman, a human being. if for whatever reason the emotional connection becomes severed, the seperation will be based off that emotional pain. from your post op, i dont see much that says you arent attracted to her either physically or emotionally, jus seems like youre a little confused on what you are possibly attracted or not attracted to.