I have serious tendencies towards isolating myself. I feel like it's in my genes, just a fundamental part of who I am. I know some of my family is/was like this as well. I have always considered the most important time I have to be the time I have alone. It's always seemed sort of like the only 'real' time, everything else is stuff I do because I'm supposed to, and then I go home, where I'm by myself, and that's 'real.' For one thing, I just enjoy the freedom, the comfort. My friends in high school didn't understand how sometimes I just didn't want to do anything. I would rather not make up excuses, and the fact is sometimes, a significant amount of the time, I just don't want to do anything. It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone, and it wouldn't matter what it is, I just would like to be home. I moved across the country after high school. It was difficult making friends without being in school. This allowed me to sort of idealize a social life, using it as an 'excuse' for why I was alone, as if it were not what I wanted. But as time went on, I have made some friends. But still, what I really like to do is be home, alone. I do things occasionally with friends, and it's fine, I have a good enough time. But still, it feels like something I'm 'supposed' to do, then I get that done and get to go home. It's not that I'm some cold person. In fact, I am extremely empathetic. I tend to see very deeply into who people are, and feel a strong connection.So, with that there is certainly potential to get very close to me. And, it would be nice to have a few people who I truly, genuinely, deeply connected with. But as it is, I just tend to feel how I described. I sometimes wonder whether this tendency will just further my isolation. But my inner response to that is oh well, I like being by myself. I'm certainly open to, like the idea of, real genuine connection with another, and I sort of feel like real connection like that will just happen when it is meant to. But yea, are there others out there who have this tendency to isolate themselves? Who enjoy being alone? Thoughts?
I guess I probably should have put this in general...I just wanted to perhaps spark some conversation, whereas general seems to be more just joking around and one-liners and pop-culture...idk, but there's no 'hide' option on the thread...
I also like solitude from time to time, but I suppose everyone does. I might like it more then most 'socialites' do. But too much solitude makes me a depressed girl. It's important to get out there and involve yourself in others, just as it is important to having alone time. It's all about the balance.
I'm the same way, OP. I like occasionally hanging out, like for a few hours, but then the rest of the day I want to be home by myself. Everyone I know thinks I'm sad or lonely, but it's the exact opposite. The exception is if I'm dating someone. That person I can be around whenever.
I thought it wasn't a political.view? Isn't the philosophy of communism based around society? But your an isolationist Sent from my LG-E739 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
As an individual, I tend towards isolating myself. But still my ideal vision for society is communal sharing of everything, absolute equality in every sense, which does not necessarily imply that I enjoy being around people a lot.
Some people cant tolerate humankind. I dont blame you at all. I wouldnt talk to anyone if it wasnt for gc.
Get a girlfriend. Problem solved u will have all the problems u need in one person Sent from my ALCATEL ONE TOUCH Fierce using Grasscity Forum mobile app
You're just an introvert, like me. We deeply value genuine relationships with few close friends and rather not bother with small talk with new people... Introverts love to be by themselves, really enjoy they're own company, and are good at entertaining themselves. Talking to others for me does seem like a chore and when I don't do it my parents tend to frown upon that. Introverts are pretty normal people, just asocial(don't feel like socializing). Extroverts, are those outgoing people and, although they're fun to be around, introverts are more interesting than them since they have time by themselves to think and form precise opinions on many different things and topics. & I get what you're feeling, just wanted to give you insight about what little I know about how we kinda are.. I try to keep the very few friendships I have close, genuine, and honest so I don't feel like I've lost touch with people. It's also really hard for me to make new friends since I like really deep friendships and the only few friends I have now I have all known for at least 5 years, no new people. I probably only go out with friends like once a month, and I don't mind but at the same time I feel like I should mind which really bothers me. But after reading up on introverts and other related names for it, I see that we are normal, nothing special or bad :c Sorry about that rant!haha
I'm with ya on the introvertedness..I still get feelings while being st parties or social gatherings that I would rather be alone right now. That feeling itself manifests for a reason as well though, I inadvertently created it and now have to deal with it. I'm slowly learning to relax and let go of dumb thought tendencies when being around people. I really think to make the best out of it you've got to throw yourself in uncertainty, go head first with positive light and you'll be right where you should. I thoroughly enjoy being alone, but really were kind of alone all the time. Nothing changes just your surroundings, coping with it is the tricky part.
There is much more to life, than just society. People say "Get a life!" usually they mean it in the context of, go do something society approves of. For people like us, we know how to work society, we just don't get a kick out of it like "normal" people would. In truth, we have a thirst for life and truth. And no matter how much we try, it seems nothing is substantial for us. We need a natural environment, that has like-minded peace-seeking individuals in it, not some feigned artifical environment full of pretentiousness, presumptuousness, and superficiality. Lies do not satisfy us, and we are as honest as possible. We don't just read books, we read life and beyond. In a way, we even write our own books in mind, just to have others read it by our actions. Yes, I prefer to be alone, but only because it's my only other option that I can enjoy. Rather, if i chose to be around fake people, I'd just be disgusted with their inabilty to succeed in what they do rather than enjoy their company. Notice how most of them seem to be lacking? Fundamentals are essential in building foundations to life. If you lack basic insight, you will never succeed. A person is best having nothing, than having something and lose it with a deficit. And seeing the truth of our humble existence, make's us procede with the basic premise of our philosophy. Which is, "We are fallible man that will fade away, what glory is to be had, in a vain existence such as what the status quo provides?" That alone sets us on a path to transcend the world, and find true substantial peace.
I completely agree. People who wanna help all the time are the most fakest people around. Give me a person who's in the same page as me. Then somebody who already read the book. And needs u to be just like them. To live a depressing life just because u wanna change something that is naturally given. I'm a natural smoker. Never had any problems except for the people who. Act like there better than everyone else. But in reality they turn out to be the worst people in your life. Only to destroy it. Because there life is horrible. I rather smoke alone and be happy. Than bring in people into my life to make it worse. Sorry for the rant just tired of giving this ugly world of people a chance. I rather live in peace with real people. No time for the wicked Sent from my ALCATEL ONE TOUCH Fierce using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I've had a bit of time to ponder this a bit more, clarify things. Perhaps this is just personal and irrelevant to everyone, idk, lol, just felt like writing it out and may as well post it on the thread on the topic. The thing is, in a sense I love people. I really do empathize with people so deeply. I love the genuineness behind the façade, the real genuine emotions underlying the motivations and reasoning behind why people do what they do. I feel like I understand where people are coming from, in a way that's not just intellectual but deep in my being. In another sense though, it's like I don't like being around people. Like I said in OP, I always feel like it's almost a burden when I'm supposed to do something with people. In the time leading up to it, it's like 'damnit, guess I gotta go do this.' It's not even like I really have a bad time when I do. It's usually fairly pleasant. But it feels like this fake show I just have to get through. And then when it's done, there's a nice sense of relief that I get to go home. So it seems a bit paradoxical to me. I have this extremely deep empathetic connection with others, and a sense of love towards people. But on the other hand, just a real deep-seated desire to be alone. Real, genuine connections are great, of course. But even with real genuine connections, I still feel that no matter what alone time has always been, and will always be, extremely important to me.
Finding that middle ground is oh so important. I felt the same way before and sometimes get urges or 'in the back of my head' feelings. I always expected things to come to me, so I would watch, wait..listen. I knew things weren't clicking so I saw a spiritual lady I had met a while back and she said, basically, we live in duality and you are focusing to much on either side that's why you get the opposite feelings. Knowing you are one being, you must instigate that will, that subconscious whatever the term there is for it, to recognize and embrace the joint of the two, mother and father, left and right, top and bottom...breathe into your solar plexus area and out through your legs and back up to your crown. Something along those lines lol, it's always a progress, dive in and let go
Your respect toward individuals, is high. But no one gives you the same regard, which kind of shifts you away...
I enjoy being by myself, doing things by myself and all that jazz. I don't consider myself introvert or whatever label you want to put on it, but I can hold a conversation with people etc. I also don't have lots of friends. Just a select few I call friends to talk to and what not.