i'm a guy and this is a female friend of mine. she invited me to a friend's party a couple days before and I said i'd come. the day before she tells me they are going for dinner at around 5 pm and she knew I worked until 5:30 so she said oh you can maybe meet us later at the bar. so then when I get off work I text her and say oh so when should I go to the bar to meet you guys and she says "oh sorry we are actually going for dinner at 7 forgot to tell you plans changed" and then I message her okay where and then she doesn't' answer until 8 pm and says oh just come and she doesn't give me details of where. so I get pissed and go do something else and tell her i'm not coming anymore bc she's wasting my time. she says I don't know why you are freaking out there s still lots of time to come out. I live kind of far so leaving my house at wish when everyone else has left way earlier doesn't make much sense and there would be lots of traffic. I think she just didn't want me to come anymore but I was pissed bc I think it's super rude to invite me then waste my time. now my question is should I mssg her and tell her i'm mad at her and what she did was really rude or should I just ignore her. she didn't even apologize tried to defend herself saying she forgot she was busy etc. since then she hasn't even said anything about it.
Very juvenile. OP needed to vent. Anyway, yeah you do have a right to be pissed. Imagine if you were trying to score some herb and your dealer did this to you.
haha well I thought so but how should I approach this. I did tell her already that i'm pissed and she defended herself of course begin shady and said okay well if you don't want to come still then have a good night. and I just said ok you too. she hasn't even said anything else to me since (yesterday). I was thinking of messaging her and telling her that I think she was begin shady and it was rude to invite me to something then keep me waiting around like that. I'm pretty sure she just didn't want me to come out anymore so she kept me waiting around so that I wouldn't come out. and i've been friends with her for 2 years now and this isn' the first time i've felt like she was begin a bad friend. what would you guys do just not contact her and see what happens or to mssg her and tell her how I feel.
The best thing to do is forgive her and take the high road. If she gets mad when you do this, she's not a good person
what? just forgive her and not bring it up again that she pissed me off and was disrespectful? I don't think she respects me or values the friendship much if she does that. we've been friends for 2 years now and I wouldn't treat my friends like that.
Hey man, i made an account just to reply to this thread, so Hey GC Anyway, i had a friend like this for a while to, she was this cute little mexican girl, and we were best friends for a while. Shit like this happened constantly. Like, we would be best friends, see eachother everyday for weeks, hang out and blaze all the time, then whenever she hung out with her other friends, it was like, "see you next year." After a while i realised that i was just kinda there to fill in the time when she had noone else to hang out with, which i was cool with, cause i really liked her as a friend and she was nice as hell. But the second she got a boyfriend, i never heard from her, not even a "how are you?" text, well anyway, after a while, we talked again and I started hanging out with them both and got to know this guy and he was cool and all, so we kinda became a little trio. So, I invited her round to chill at my place, and she brought him, which i was kinda allgood with, but really just wanted to chill with her. Anyway, we were all hanging out this one time, and then her boyfriend decided it would be a fly idea to rob my house. So all this shit went down, and i go to talk to her when hes not there and be like, "i already know you know this, but he rolled my place" and she pretty much gave me a look and told me that i shouldnt have brought him around, when i had invited her around and she brought him with her. So two years of friendship right down the drain with that. All the memorys of blazing and seeing shooting stars, going on holiday just me and her, me loosing my girlfriend cause she though i was cheating on her when we were only friends, and she just up and leaves cause she fell for a methhead. So what i'm trying to say, is it may not happen this way in your case, but if the situations the way i'm reading it, dont get too emotionally involved, because she'll fall for a guy, and that'll be that. Sorry for the depressing post guys haha
OP, don't worry about some bitch. There's plenty of pussy out there and she probably already had another dick on her mind for the night.
well I wouldn't care she's not my girlfriend and I just want to be friends. but you think maybe she didn't want me around bc she was trying to hook up with some guy? she jus teemed really shady and seemed like she changed her mind about me coming out and didn't' want me there.
Maybe she was busy? Latley I find everyone throws the word "rude" around for everything Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I've always thought about that, whether girls can be real good friends with guys. i have a feeling that a lot of girls keep guy friends around only when they are single and then ditch them once they are into a guy they want to date. she was out with her friends for dinner. too busy to text me to come out and tell me where to meet her? seems like she just didn't care.
I find most people don't anymore, should give her a reason to care, Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Listen man, if she isn't woman enough to give you the courtesy of details then why waste the energy trying to fill yourself in. don't be strung along by the bs actions of others. Sounds to me as if she wants to use you like a prop or somethin..I personally wouldn't waste the energy, you can find more things to do with your time..don't be a sucker..
She obviously didn't want you there. Take a hint. Chicks will do shit just to be nice i.e. inviting people to things. Probably didn't want you feeling left out since you didn't have anything else to do.
Just don't be as eager to reply to her in the future. Take your time. Let HER wonder if she fucked up... Because they will if you start giving them a colder should.