I have been smoking weed for a couple of years, my mom had no knowledge of it at all, and I wasn't willing to tell her, she was very anti weed, 21 years old by the way. Anyway, recently while she was helping me put a new TV in my apartment she found my stash, my lighters, my bongs and everything, since I was an adult she couldn't tell me how it was going to be, since it was MY apartment, so in shock she threatened to call the police on me and stormed out of the building. The next day when I woke up, the Nazi Virginia state troopers were at my door with a warrant, they took EVERYTHING, even my lighters, which I owned legally, and now I have a court date coming up and I will must likely be on probation, and my mom threatened if she ever found out I was smoking weed again, she would disown me. Well, if any of you can help me with this situation, it would be very helpful, I don't even know how to approach this, the only person on my side are my friends and my lawyer, but I just can't help but feel my mom's out for me, any help is appreciated.
Honestly, thats some crazy shit there. If my family member did that to me, jeopardizing my future because they thought they were teaching me a lesson my lesson in return would be cutting them out of my life. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Drop dat bitch like a bad habit. Just kidding, she is your mom... But tell her to stay the fuck out of your private business. You're an adult and deserve to be treated like one.
That's fucked up man. Getting busted is a shitty feeling. I'd try to ask her why she did it rationally, try to explain how weed really is, and if that fails, I guess it's up to you what you do next. I personally wouldn't talk to my parents for a looong time if they pulled that on me. As for probation, really just be glad that you didn't get jail time, that would be potentially catastrophic. But going through drug tests and not smoking isn't the worst, I did it for 6 months. After the first week you won't be as bothered by it anymore. But either way, hope everything works out. Good luck bro. Sent from my SGH-M919 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
What the fuck? is there no tattle tale law there? "I was at my nieghbours house and he had a marijuana cigarette while bbq-ing." And with that you can legally be searched?!! Fuck, tell the cops you were at you moms place and you saw some suspicious substances. Bam she's get her place tore up by the fuzz. Seriously that's a "broken" system in Virginia if that holds up in court...who the fuck knows what your mom thought she saw. And as if her un-qualified assertion can be cause for the police to have the power of the law behind them to go and investigate on private property lol, thats just fucked. Funniest line : ".......they took EVERYTHING, even my lighters, which I owned legally,...." Did they take your sugary food, xbox & comedies too? You can ask the court to get your shit back, it's still yours. Surely they wont feel giving your lighter back would enable you to recommit the crime lol Doubt the state attorney would put up a fight, as lighters tend not to get much at police auctions :/
He said he was in a apartment so chances are the manager that actually owns the property let the police search his apartment. If it was your own home they would be hard pressed to get a warrant
wow what a complete fucking bitch. that's some straight Skyler White shit. I'd probably go over to their place, let her know what's up, then never talk to her again. had she called a rehab facility or set up an intervention or something, it'd be equally blown out of proportion, but with better intentions behind it...calling the cops is literally doing nothing but fucking up some portion of your life for some duration of some with an associated financial loss, especially in a state like that...what a bitch, I am awestruck.
if this lady wasnt your mom i would have called her a fucking cunt. however, be that as it may, i will hold that in check. first: get a lawyer. second: dig up dirt on her. third: expose said dirt to her peers. fourth: laugh maniacally and wring your hangs together. kind of like seth green in the part of that austin powers movie where doctor evil was showing his son how to laugh like an evil bastard, where seth green is older {like 50} with that comb over he was sporting. you should really do step one though. you might just squeeze out of it.
I am a mom. In no way could I see calling the cops on my son esp. If he was 21. If you are working, not taking any money from the mom tell her that ycome by the house or meet her out but she is not welcome over at your house. Sounds like your mom is going to have to let go of some things.. boy she bought the pot kills line,hook and sinker..
If my mom ever did something like this to me, I'd go off on her and then never speak to her again. My mom isn't fond of weed, but she doesn't care that I smoke it. I just don't flaunt it to her, because she'd probably secretly worry about me if I did. Sent from my SM-N900V using Grasscity Forum mobile app
It's your mom. While it is totally fucked up, try and think of it from her point of view. I can't justify her actions, but I'm sure her seeing a bong and some weed to her was like seeing a syringe and unmentionables. I'm sure she was concerned and didn't know what to do or how to handle the situation.
This is a tough one. On one hand she was way out of line and you have the right to be angry, but on the other hand, sometimes people are misguided about weed and she could be the type of person to get really scared about her son going the wrong way in life and just reacted poorly out of love for you since she didn't know what else to do. I think it might actually be partly your fault tbh OP. Firstly you should have hidden your stash better so your mum wouldn't find it, especially if you had any kind of knowledge about her being the type to over react to things or be very anti weed. Secondly when she found the stash and threatened to phone the cops you you should have either moved your stash or disposed of it and then the cops wouldn't have found anything and she would look like a dick but your relationship would still be salvageable. As for how to proceed, you should look objectively at the situation and decide if it's really your mums fault for reacting the way she did and if it's your fault for not handling the situation better.