Just broke up with my girl. It was a long distance relationship and it really wasn't that bad but she felt it was, told me she was consistently sad and not happy. We broke up over the phone. Although we broke up, she was the most amazing girl I've ever known, and that says a lot considering I don't like most girls. Funny, joyful and pleasant to be around. I told her I still loved her. I know she still loves me. But for the moment, this is for the best. At least for her. I'm in pain, but its okay. (drinking a bit) It really sucks when you say good bye and you know you probably won't speak to the person ever again... Man. I really did love her, but I guess that wasn't enough. She said she felt lost lately. Lesson learned, make sure the person I love loves me back enough to keep fighting. Cause I hate giving up, especially over something like long distance. (We did see each other, its not like were in different countries). I just feel really hurt. In pain. I've never felt like this over a girl. Sorry for the depressing post. Just gotta vent.
Man up dude, You can't lose confidence. No matter how much you like someone it doesn't work out. Especially for me. You just need to look, find your interests and find people who enjoy them. You'll find the right gal.
Time heals all wounds. You'll look back in a few months or years and realize how dumb it was to get all upset about it. Trust me.
I don't want a smelly ass bitch though. And I know there are 'plenty of fish in the sea' but she was my GF and I really did put out effort. Its not like I didn't. I did everything I could. And it wasn't enough. And it just hurts.
The pain will be there for a while; don't expect some quick fix for it. Meeting other girls, alcohol, drugs, it won't work. Time will work. Do NOT let alcohol become a crutch. Spend time with friends, exercise, occupy yourself with activities. When it hurts, let it hurt. Its like filling a bucket with water, its going to spill after a while; let it. You have a ton of people on here to talk to, me included.
In 2000 I broke up with a gal, asked her mom out and then spent 11 years with her mom. In 2012 booted her and got as younger, smarter sexy model. Man I trade them bitches out, I dont need them, like me or get out bitch..
Insanity is the best cure. Whenever I'm question anything. I just talk to my self till I'm like "I got better things to think about", then comes a week of non-stop meditation, and self healing.
I know time heals all wounds. It just hurts cause I wasn't ready to give up and she was. The whole problem was the distance, despite me seeing her like 2 weeks ago. And she said its consistent sadness that increased after I left when I was down there to visit. Thing is... I don't get the difference between being single and in a RL, cause she didn't see me for awhile, we chatted for a while before even agreeing to meet. And we both liked each other at that point. I don't know what I'm really trying to say here. I'm just trying to understand her point of view but I really can't. Just feels bad cause I felt like I let her in and she just backed out. Kinda feel betrayed, if thats even the best word to describe how I feel. Lesson learned, like you say i'll look back and probably laugh. But right now, it really just sucks. I got drunk and passed out last night cause I was so distraught. Woke up at 5 am and still felt bad. Woke up today and felt a bit better, but I guess time will tell. Deleted my facebook, really don't want to see her posting and all that stuff. I'll go back when I've moved on. To the blades who offered real help, or advice, thanks. Means a lot.