In my life's studies, I have found the strongest human instinct, the strongest human drive, is to find and keep a mate. To fall in love and to be loved by a significant other. Most humans I have encountered, seem to go into some sort of depressive panic if they do not have a mate. The drive to go get a mate is overwheming. They dedicate countless hours, money and energy towards it. Hardly anyone can look in the mirror and say "I love you". They must have that thought validated by someone else. Only the spiritual can stay alone for years and be happy. Mother Teresa seemed to be a prime example of this. I'm not asking questions about this. Just an observance.
Seems to be for some people. The primary instinct in nature would be survival, and the second is to reproduce. It's just if everyone starts haveing a fuckfest. Then the world will get overpopulated. And everyone will starve to death.
What you are describing is not instinct. There is nothing instinctual about monogamy. What you are picking up on is societal, not instinctual. There is great social pressure to be in a relationship. This is what you are noticing.
9 he didnt say monogamy, just a mate. in fact the fact that a good amount of men and women arnt to good at monogamy proves my point pretty well. women are pickier consciously or subconsciously they, are looking for the best provider or protector to mate with, essentially women are the ones keeping the population down based on their picky mating requirements. if all women acted like men we'd all be born, live, and die in a giant fuck pile. Supposedly mens instincts really only keep them interested in one women 3-5 years, long enough to have and a raise a child to point a single parent could provide for them, then instincts tell them to move on and make another kid. no matter how you slice it, looking for mates is instinctual. and the majority of the worlds species do it the same way we do.
He said find and KEEP a mate, Which I took to mean monogamy. Our instincts tell us to bang eachother, not to "find and keep a mate." That's the point I was trying to make. And to say that Mother Theresa is an example of someone who is celebate and happy, or was? Come on, she was miserable. That woman was obsessed with suffering. If she spent half as much time actually helping people instead of spreading her religious propaganda and publicizing it, the world would be a better place.
hunger is a more powerful instinct. more so than spreading the seed. people do extreme things in extreme hunger/starvation situations