Hello GC, I'm 22 and he's 29. Since we got together we've been working to stay together. I told him I had trust issues but he said he was willing go work them out with me. A few weeks later I'm using his phone and he gets an email. So yea..I check it..I'm nosy. I saw online messages on a dating profile he had not closed by then; when confronted (says he forgot about it) but, then I was able to see the dates on the messages and caught him in the lie. No, we weren't official and had not moved in, together but it hurt me. And I didn't let it go, paranoia was raining down on me HARD. At the time I wasn't able to smoke because of a work situation..so the stress from our relationship was driving me bananas. Then I ended up losing my job after we decided to move in together. So we are currently living broke on 11.25/hr. No health benefits. I know this is a huge amount of stress but....I still NEED to have a romantic life. Also he works third shift, SO if anyone could just use their imagination for a second..see where I'm going? I'm not paranoid about him cheating anymore but now it's a different issue. Something I don't know how to help?? When we first got together it was only for the weekend but, they were FULL of sex. I thoroughly enjoy "love making" and being fucked until I have to beg to stop. Something else I brought up early in our relationship (we've been together 1 year now). He always said he would never have issues getting it up, and again I'm trying to be patient and understanding about his stress load. But, what about my needs? I'm still looking for work, but that's all I can do. I have been out of work for 6 months now... We haven't had sex in over 3 weeks. This is abnormal for me, while being in a relationship. I've asked what I can do to make him happy, or help him motivate himself. I mean I am literally open to anything with my partner and he knows it. But he just hasn't been as interested the past few months. I ask "why?" And it's just almost vaguely put "stress" and feeling physically tired from working the horrible 3rd shift job.... Am I being selfish? What can I do? I have no means outside of him right now, but I don't think it's fair. I'm willing to adjust my schedule and life pretty much to better suit US and he doesn't feel like putting in the EXTRA time I need from him. I'm so upset and horny. I'm sorry if this is too jumbled and complicated to read. But any feedback or anything would be nice. I have no one else to go to for advice/ or whatever. Thank you Slit tongues of the mockingbird, you will never speak the same.
You were reading his email weeks after getting together? Lol it would of ended there for me. You're both living on his 11.25 an hour? That's fucked up. You should probably get another job.
I've been trying to find a job. I'm not sure if there is a secret to getting a job at this point.. I don't have a car right now and everything in walking distance demands an online application. So going in to speak with someone I'm always told "sorryyyyyyy! It's online". I'm nosy, sue me. Slit tongues of the mockingbird, you will never speak the same.
Stopped reading when you said you read his emails.... Have enough respect for yourself and trust in your partner/self to not second guess yourself and end up snooping thru his/her shit... Cant do that. Prob shouldn't be will them/maybe anyone... just my .02...
I thought of that as well. Maybe I'm not ready.. I've brought it up to him too. And he says he loves me for the person I can become so he is willing to stick it out with me, grow with me etc. which is what I want...but again..when will sex come into play? Slit tongues of the mockingbird, you will never speak the same.
Give it time all I'd say get him baked up and maybe he will open cup to you nothing wrong with reading his emails I'd let my gf any day I'd give it a while see if he will come around you know I wouldn't beat around the bush tell him you need attention that's y people become a couples for love well at least for most Sent from my house.
Thanks Jugga, and you're right..that's why we got together in the first place. I'm going to see if he will come around, if not then I guess it's not meant to be? Slit tongues of the mockingbird, you will never speak the same.
If you think a relationship needs sex you are mistaken. My parents had me and my brother and never had intercourse ever again so 50 years+. how do I know? I had the bedroom next to theirs, I've never found a condom or anything of the sort. I have found hypodermic needles though a bit disturbing. Guy's get tired, not only is he pulling his own weight, he's pulling yours. I would be unsatisfied too and rather seperated. Do something he likes, other than sex. relationships arn't just sex. Go see a movie, Watch a baseball game on tv. Even if you can't afford luxery you can still take what you have and make the best of it. If you can't seek realistic pleasure, then you won't get satisfaction in life. Think outside the box. A relationship is like a family, you have to give it care, and support it. Or it's not going to work. People who can't handle a relationship. Can never stick to one. Because they're too stupid to know what to do with it.
Eh, your post makes you sound like you're unable to care for yourself and expect him to make you happy. Chill, masturbate, get a fookin job Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I don't know how to chill... Maybe that's the problem. Again, thank you ALL for your input. Helpful perspective. Slit tongues of the mockingbird, you will never speak the same.
You'll figure it out bakedpeach and oh about a bit ago man supported there woman nothing wrong with that. Sent from my house.
Honestly, I think you need to something spontaneous and pleasurable for him sexually to rekindle things. No man I know is gonna say no when you start giving him head, even if its unexpected. And assuming you know how to please him, there's a good chance he'll become much more interested in having sex with you. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I747 using Grasscity Forum mobile app