Let me just briefly explain the situation. I was with a girl for a number of years, we lived together, then broke up. We've been talking again recently, and with the way she is plus our past any time we talk it goes straight into an extremely 'lovey' way. Love, commitment, etc. However, after we broke up what she ended up doing was living with her friend. Well her friend and her fiancé are having a baby, and so they told her she had to move out. I don't know exactly how it happened cuz we weren't talking at the time, but somehow she says the only situation that was able to work out right was with a guy who is a similar age because she knows his mom, who owns the house. Now we started talking relationship-like again, and she's living with another guy. At first I was just like well idk that's a deal-breaker I can't handle that, and was just gonna end it, but now idk I'm just going with it for the time being. I mean, a big part of me feels like it's just straight up un-acceptable for a girlfriend to live with another guy. But she already lives there, moved in before we started talking, so what does that mean I just refuse to do anything because of her living situation? Is there any way you can say that it's acceptable for a girlfriend to live with another guy? What am I supposed to do, just tell her I'm not going to do anything with her until she finds another place to live? But a part of me does feel I should tell her that I want her to try to find another place. Just looking for general thoughts on the situation...can that be seen as a normal enough, acceptable situation?
If you like her, she has her own room, and isn't interested in him I dont see the problem. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Is she and/or had she ducked said guy? No? Don't trip. Yeee. Alright, tie your shoes, n start walking
Why are you jumping to such conclusions? He might just be a chill dude that has no interest in her at all, don't stress so much man, unless you know for a fact that he's really into her.
Does the guy she is living with have a girlfriend? What's he like? Make yourself known to him and have some trust in your girl. Y'all could move in together if you don't approve of her living situation. .................................................... I dont do drugs, I set plants on fire and breathe.
Exactly this. You should meet him and see what he's like. And you have to trust her also. If they aren't together by now and she's showing interest in you, seems like there's nothing going on between them and probably never will be. I totally understand, though. That's a tough situation. I wouldn't let the idea that she might possibly hook up with him stop you from being in a relationship with her.
Well I'm glad to hear others saying it's a reasonable situation...and you're also probably right in that I should go over there and check things out as well. I've actually been avoiding going there, because I don't like the situation and just don't even wanna see it. But it would probably be better for me to go over there...
not to be mean, but if you can not provide any housing assistance for her to live elsewhere then i don't think you have a say. if you are uncomfortable in any way about it then you need to let her know before moving on. if doubt is constantly in the back of your mind, you should stay away or maybe just not be so serious about things. if you can really deal and trust her then go for it. make sure that guy knows what's up though. get to know this possibly slick fella.
If you cant move her in with you and make her the queen of the castle then its you who needs to get their shit together. Man up dude!
Hey OP I mean if you two have been together for a few years and everything is good why don't bring it to the next level? If you and her both find love for each other then could she move in with you? Idk if you want her too but if your stressing about her livig with another guy why not have her move to your place?
I almost lived with a girl for my next year at college. Then when I asked to make sure it was totally platonic she said "Well idk maybe we'll see how it goes." Got out of that idea asap just asking for trouble. I'll fuck her in my dorm room instead. I was just pointing out there are guys, even a dog like myself included, that will live with a girl with no intentions of banging her.
Maybe she knows the predicament you are currently faced with and she knows that if she gets you to like her enough and lead you on long enough, she will be able to use your paranoia (her living with another guy) into you asking her to move in with you. And that the guy she's staying with just now is only temporary. Just a thought.
My neighbor and guy best friend for 10+ years lived with me for a few months when his family was having problems and I would have never done anything with him. It wasn't until I met my current bf that I asked him to move out a few weeks after that because he was uncomfortable with it. Ever since then things have been great Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Hold on! What if he doesn't want to live with her? He probably wants to make sure this works before he provides for her