I've just been thinking and it seems to me like kids are just growing up way to fast these days. For example, my first set of friends are all married and have kids now. At the age of 22. So I started hanging out with a younger crowd 19-20 and now all of them have very serious significant others and are moving in with them and shit. I mean if that's what they really want more power to them. I'm 23 and I don't even want to think about marriage or kids yet. Once you go there there ain't no going back. I want to stay young and have as much fun as I can and its not just my friends kids in high school are getting pregnant and shit. So what do you guys think. Are kids growing up to fast, and why is it happening? Why are they missing the beat years of their lives?
If anything, people today probably get married and have children at an older age than ever before. On average, of course. I got married at a young age, and it didn't go too well. We didn't know each other as well as we thought, we didn't love each other like we should have. I was lonely, I badly wanted a companion. I had only been in one halfway serious relationship before, which was fun while it lasted, but obviously didn't end well. I was estranged from my family and had recently lost my childhood best friend, I think those things compounded the loneliness. I think she just wanted to be married, like some women (and probably a few men) do, and I was the first decent guy who wanted to as well, but I wasn't the guy she really wanted to be married to. Too much focus on marriage and not on the actual person you're marrying? But that's just a guess at it. People in the 15-21 or so age range are also notoriously impulsive, due to the prefrontal cortex of the brain not being fully developed yet. Which I was also very guilty of at that age. But a lot of people get married and/or have children at a relatively young age, and have no regrets about it. I think it varies greatly from person to person. It's wise of you not to rush into serious things that you have mixed feelings regarding.
I've never had this issue. Yes, like most teens I've gone through the whole 'longing for companionship' but I'm sure it has to do with their actual upbringing. If all you ever do is glorify marriage and romance like they do in the media, then of course your child is going to end up glorifying this as well. Some do it out of infatuation, others for their own status and social reasons. While I don't promote getting married and settling down at the age of twenty, I don't encourage anyone (still in their forties) to fear 'responsibility'. Working brings money and money brings all the food and possessions you want! Find someone else and it gives you twice the chance of saving up for something big! Living on your own is called living free. Sleep in as long as you want and wash those dishes whenever you feel like it. Wank in your room with the porn blared and leave the door open!
Its seem like kids (even up to 30's) are divided into 2 catogries - Settle down and have kids (which is stupid) - Or be single and fuck around (hell yeah)
Na mate, just different people do different things. Its always been that way. Sent from my GT-I9100 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Part of kids growing up to fast can be credited to the Internet. I've seen it happen to my sisters. They hear or see people laughing about something and they have the ability to look it up. They can learn about whatever they want and can be exposed to many "funny" videos on YouTube. These videos may be funny to the age range of 16-22 but aren't meant for a 6 year old.
Pay attention to what the kids watch and you will see why. If desensitization isn't the answer, then watch the up bringing. And if that fails, blame public schools. If that's not it?
Isn't that what most people consider their "end game"? To make children and repeat the process that they went through... All it does is create more people, but we're not even certain what kinds of people are being made. Do we even need more people? Everybody feels so fucking entitled to just pop another soul out and of course everybody is equal right? Having kids doesn't make you anything other than a biological predecessor. There is joy in it, but for fuck's sake at this rate?
Gotta learn parenting skills before you even consider raising a child. That's one thing that always pisses me off. people are like "Lets make a baby!" and then they find out a baby is a fucking black-hole of money and life.
Bitches' kid down the road is menstruating already she's only 8 years old ....fucking glad I'm not the father ....lol Some free advice that will save you bulk cash ...get a vasectomy now, b4 you ge that first car, should be law, as when I was 21.. 2/3rds of my buddies had created bastards, and will be paying bigtime for the next 18 years thats 39 yo if you are 21 now ....FUCK THAT!!!!!
Fucking crazy, kids at my high school in grade 9 are using molly, morphine, ecstasy, ketamine, speed, valium cocaine and more. Wtf these kids just got out middle school...
You're gonna be the guy that everyone wonders "when is Gman finally gonna grow up". I have friends like that and it is pretty sad that they haven't been able to move on in life.
meh, im 20 fairly young in a fairly serious relationship and its not about me trying to settle down or grow up too fast. i just found someone that i'm compatible with at the moment and if we do make it and continue these feelings for each other till the end thats awesome what a beautiful relationship we were able to hold together over the years. but its not completely what i'm expecting to happen, i know feelings change and people change and its not likely it will last forever. but fuck man i'm here, happy, enjoying and sharing my life right now with someone i love and connect with on a different level. whats it to ya? why does someone else's happiness bother you so much?