This may be a long read but I don't know where else to turn to. I known my gf since summer 2012 we hooked up and started going out January this year. Let me mention she has a drug history (bad drugs) got her kids taken away. She doesn't handle money well, she's 23 years old and has the health of a senior. She's always hurting and complains that she doesn't feel well and that's due to the health choices she makes, fast food, drugs and no exercise. Anyway I lost a job back in February because she turned off my alarm and she just recently walked away from her job. She shoplifts from stores to make her money. But let me just say I was with her because the sex was good, she was chill and liked to smoke weed cuddle and watch movies, I felt we connected and had alot in common. But we started fighting alot because of money, she always wanted things we couldn't afford and got really moody. Background on me I'm on felony probation paid off everything, ready to be terminated hopefully within a month. Then my felony will be removed from my record. So right now its difficult for me to find work, I also have cancer and can't do harsh labor. After I'm off my goals are to get my CDL, then look into getting my pilots license. I want to see the world and go to big EDM concerts. Above all become financially independent and do my hobbies. She on the other hand wants to settle down because she had kids but still makes poor choices. Doesn't want to return to nursing school and finish one more year because they randomly drug test, can't even stay clean to pursue a career. So anyway heres what happened she leaves out of town with her friends not this recent weekend but last and stays not letting know what's she's doing or what's up. When she came back she said she cheated on me. She didn't go into detail but I wasnt positive if she just made out or had sex. My dumbass forgives her. She leaves again last week for a full week, tells over the phone while she's drunk that she went down on a dike. I hung up and messaged her to get her shit outta my house and I was looking around gathering stuff up and I found the letter card she wrote me for Valentines day and cried. She came back yesterday morning after a whole week gone and we made up. She came clean telling me she went to Vegas and was with the dude she cheated on me with. Then told me that one weekend she had sex without a condom with the guy. My dumbass forgives her everything is strait, we had sex I used a rubber until she got checked. She took a nap and I was on Facebook, saw on my news feed she liked and commented a picture of the guy she fucked said "lookin pretty sexy boo! " And this was after we fucked So I woke her up and told her to get the fuck out. She cries, calls me a pig, piece of shit and doesn't want anything to do with me. She said "don't look at me, don't call or message". I was really hurt because she played the victim. She's gone now but I'll still worry about, her I wanted to at least stay just friends, but she made dumb choices. I don't know what to think, I'm really sad and don't know if I was right or wrong. I think I'll message her in a week to tell her I still care about her and I hope she gets her shit together. But I cant have her pulling me back and doing stupid shit I don't agree with. Right now I'm gonna do me.
I think you've given this broad too many chances. Im all for second chances and whatnot but at some point you gotta realize shit ain't worth it. I mean, she cheated on you multiple times. Time to move on, bro. Best of luck.
^this^ Although I don't approve in calling women broads, she's been a real cunt to you. This post really stood to upset me, due to the fact that you kept taking her back. I won't bring up the drugs, or the kids, or the way that she can't handle her money right. Even if none of that happened, she still cheated on you. And you took her back not once, or twice, but three times up until you saw the Facebook post. I'm glad that in the end you saw that she was just...bad for you really. But I'm afraid that with your history of forgiving and getting back together, the second you cave and call her to come and get some of her shit, you'll want her back again. Which I really hope that your not weak enough to do that. But if you are so be it I guess. Sent from my SPH-L720 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Yeah she broke your trust multiple times, theres no recovery from that IMHO same reason why I havent talked to/seen my father in 15+ years, some people are selfish to the core
Moments like these really bring to light the full spectrum of human disappointment. It's very commonplace for women to see men as the instigators of broken trust and relationships, but here is a guy with much more on his plate than most in the negativity department, and he's still trying to do right by this fucking slut who still ends up berating him for her legs being open 24/7. Unbelievable. I commend you sir on taking the higher road multiple times because you felt that you had a connection with this girl. Forgiveness is a dying sentiment in this world, and while many people may look at you and say "you're dumb", we've all been caught up in the vortex of burying our significant other's shit deep down (and I think most of us would kind of get off on our woman going down on a dyke, but for fuck's sake at least share the experience), just to try and keep the ship afloat. Relationships are work, and sometimes you cannot help but think that if you put in more work, or try to do this, or adjust that, that it'll all work out for the best. In this case, I am actually glad that it didn't. You deserve much better than that, and I think that without the slutty ball and chain, you will be able to pursue your goals and ambitions unhindered and with clarity. Women love an ambitious man, and blowjobs in a plane would definitely be something to brag about. You'll be fine in your own time. All the best.
Move on. I know its hard, but you'll be happier for it. Find a girl who respects you more. She cheated on you multiple times, does not respect you, does not take care of herself or help you out. You can do better op. Its not your job to fix this dysfunctional broken people, even if you really have feelings for them.
She sounds like a terrible person who is so far gone. Kick her to the fucking curb bro. You do NOT and NEVER will need someone who cheats on you and treats you like garbage. I just hope for your sake that you don't ever forgive this girl again. The first time she cheated on you she ruined everything and that trust is gone.
Well its my first weekend without her. She hit me earlier for the rest of her things so I guess I'll see her again soon. I'm just still really disgusted about her cheating, but idk if we're in a better position in the future we could try again. I feel empty without her, maybe she's the one. This is honestly my first break up. Does it always feel like the end of the world? I know all it takes is time, but damn! 3 Sent from my VS920 4G using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Someone plz tell me things get better, I never been so hurt. So as of yesterday she posted on Facebook that she's in a relationship with another female(not the one she cheated on me with) and a bunch of females commented Asking " what about dylan" (the guy she cheated on me with). So she said she's serious about the relationship with the female and from what I know, when females do this its a phase and an act of rebellion. Then this morning the guy commented and said "shes really with me". I never been so hurt and disgusted. She immediately finds a rebound, won't let me deliver the rest of her belongings and is lagging on picking it up. So sad :-(
Put her shit on the curb. Gotta look out for yourself now. She made her choices. I know you are hurt now, but things will get better. .................................................... I dont do drugs, I set plants on fire and breathe.
3 words: Fuck. That. Noise. Its the darkside of love man, it can be so beautiful in one take, and some hideous abomination in the next. Its gonna hurt for awhile man, unfortunately not anything you can do but wait it out, your heart will heal. Up until you meet someone new, even after youre over her, she'll probably be on the back of your mind occassionally, its just natural when you have a connection with someone.
take a page from my book and be o solo mio, other people only complicate shit, ain't nothin to worry about when the only one youre lookin out for is you... then again im just a bitter a foreveralone, however you choose to proceed, good luck, g
I don't think you really want her anyway, the drugs, the health problems, money problems, children problems; seriously this girl has nothing going for her from the sound of it. Why do you want to be with someone like that? The fact she cheated on you time and time again should only make getting over her that much easier; she's a broken person that you can't fix. You can do better and you know that, don't put up with someone like her; hold your head up high because you're free from a train wreck my brother.
Dude, no. NO! I understand you are hurt for the first time but listen to yourself. This girl just completely fucked you over w/o any regard to your feelings whatsoever..and you may want her back? Do not ever talk to her again, well maybe in 5 years when you are successful, in a great relationship, and she is begging for you to come back. Then you can finally tell her to fuck off for good while laughing in her face. And fyi there is no "one". Focus on you.
Yeah, as others have said, it's time to MOVE ON from this chick. Don't even look back, you know it's right, your dick doesn't make the decisions.
if ive learned anything about breakups its that your only medicine is time and with time you will get better and you will think of her less and less don't worry man keep your head up
Thanx people, idk if I'll ever find someone again. Its hard to forget about when we were happy together. But now I need to remember and put down why I left and why she wasnt good for me. Time time time in the end I hope I'm ok.
If it's your first break up yeah it will probably feel like it's the end of the world. It did for me, You will see in time that this is an opportunity. An opportunity to go out and do all the bad ass shit you weren't able to do when you were with that girl. So go do it and forget about this chick, you are better off without her. You will find another one, just focus on you for now