Ugly gals are the ones who will make a happy home but an ugly family picture. Hot gals tend to be huge bitches and whores, make life a fucking nightmare.
Option C - date neither and find someone who you find attractive both physically and mentally/emotionally?
Been there done that... Just tell her that your not ready for a relationship..that she's an amazing person but ur not ready for a commitment and you would really like to stay friends...which probably won't happen if she's in deep..but if that works boom you can hit her up eventually as a booty call but just have that knowledge that she's a friend with benefits Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
sort of puts things in perspective, about how difficult it is to find one with looks AND personality on a scale above that of a dishrag
It all depends on who youd be most happy with. You dont want to bring this girl around your friends so with her you probably wouldnt be going to parties and doing things together with friends you would do with attractive girls, amd making some great ass memories. Personally id go for good looks and decent personality. That or break up with her and go out and find or wait for a girl with it all, looks and personality.
I personally couldn't do it...stay with the ugly chick I mean. Maybe as I get older I'll change but right now I know I would just end up cheating or ending it after a long time. Might as well end it now if you already have those feelings. You'll live and learn. Just tell her you aren't ready for a serious relationship. I'd rather be alone than with someone I'm not happy with...looks or otherwise.
Think down 10 years down the line, what would you rather have? 1) Sexy girl who cares so much about her looks and takes 2 hours to get ready to go out. Flirts with other guys... 2) Your girlfriend who honestly sounds perfect despite her looks. I know of guys who have thinning hair or who aren't the skinniest guys, but the personality is all that counts and I even find guys that don't look sexy are "sexy" to me.
You're right, it is superficial but its kind of difficult to stay with someone you just aren't attracted to physically.
If you're not attracted to someone it won't change. It isn't superficial, honestly. I mean- you have to be attracted to someone to be in a relationship with them. Your feelings won't change. Personally I think you should move on, maybe you'll regret it, maybe you won't. But next time- don't settle. Find your perfect girl. Find her! She's out there! Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Attraction usually goes further than just looks. There must be something that you aren't picking up on yet. You're right about ending the relationship, but you're a fool if you think looks matter as much as you're stating (please, gene pool selection?!). When you fall for a girl her looks will keep you staring and her personality will keep you coming back. Don't compromise because there are many great women out there that can meet both criteria. I hate to judge but just from this post it makes you sound shallow and I bet you're not a shallow person normally (could be wrong haha).
You dump her, and you really like her. You'll probably regret it. Are you insecure in any way? Often insecure people 'rate their own worth' in whoever they are with.
If she's really nice and you get along well, I'd say stick with her. She may be average looking, but way above average as a person and companion to you.
My wife isnt the most attractive woman, she know this too, but her personality out shines most people i know and she has a heart of gold. She is also my best friend, these women are hard to find mate. But if you want a trophey on your arm then break the girls heart. And if your friends cant accept your girlfriend for who she is they aint your friends.
This... ...and this... ...and this. If you're more concerned about what your friends think about her than how she treats you, makes you feel, etc., you might not be ready for a real, grown up, relationship (which is not a judgment, it's fine. You should do what makes you happy.) And be prepared that you may never find a better girl than her. You might find a girl who is better looking than her that isn't able to suit your needs otherwise, but apparently that's acceptable because at least your friends wont judge you. I feel bad for her, man. So bad.
I've had countless sharp-looking women, including 2 wives, and they're all history. I'm sure at least half of it was my fault but it is what it is. But I've always been attracted to good-looking sluts and that doesn't help. In 2005 a woman I was dating and I broke up, and to smooth the bumps I started dating another woman that was not attractive to me -- in the beginning, middle, or end, lol. I was just lonely I guess. She was real nice, trustworthy, a good cook, a retired school teacher and lived a few miles from me. As time went on she became more and more unattractive and I didn't know what to do about it. One time she was blowing me and I went limp, haha, that's how bad it was. Another time I was fucking her and I faked a climax just to get it over with. WTF, never did either one before or since. After about 6 months she could sense something was wrong and confronted me one night. How do you tell her? I sat there for quite a while trying to figure out what to say. I don't remember exactly what I said, but something about not being interested any more. No way could I tell her she didn't turn me on -- she was too good of a person for that. Relationships are difficult enough (impossible for me) when she turns you on. If there isn't a good amount of "zing" then it can't last. Women seem to love first and lust second, and are capable of falling in love with someone without lusting first. We men are just the opposite. No lust, no work.
But it's not ok to use someone, or allow them to develop feelings for you based on the mutual assumption that you actually care for her, knowing from the beginning that you don't find her attractive. That's selfish.