Gf wont give bj?

 
first of all i said i may consider "being pegged". but thats beside the point. Your ass naturally expels shit and your mouth naturally ingests shit. I think its fair to say its a lot more logical to put skin in your mouth than plastic up your ass. If you think its the same thing than you should take a survey of how many girls would rather give a blowjob compared to having anal sex...
 
 
clearly though as you stated, its your personal preference you dont like to give blowjobs. purely mental. its not really physically, considerings its not that different from making out with somebody (but frankly, quite a bit different than shoving a rubber dick up your ass).
 
I think not wanting to give a blowjob to someone you LOVE says a lot about someone mentally

 

I think someone forcing their sex partner to do something they do not want to is saying a lot about someone's mentality as well.
 
It does not matter why someone says no, it is the fact they said no.

 

You keep mentioning "forcing someone"...nobody is forcing anyone to do anything. Deep breath sweetie

The question remains...why not try it?

"Because I said so..." (Folds arms, stomps feet) sounds childish.

seem very against it...and we are just trying to understand why. You can remain against it. We aren't trying to change your mind...just understand it that's all. You probably have a very interesting reason and I'm interested in understanding.

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I guess the question is has she ever done it?  Were the results bad?
 
I have a friend from college that would not go down on a girl.  No matter what.  You could almost make him puke just by talking about it.  Turns out he had a very bad experience and had no desire to ever do it again.

 

Did you guys know there used to be a polygamist tribe that engaged openly in public group sex with each other but thought kissing was disgusting and unnatural, and considered it offensive? Seriously, they thought it was a perverted fetish.
 
I'm lying but you totally believed me right? Right? If you can believe that, what's so hard to believe about someone not wanting to give a blowjob?
 
If you didn't believe that, well, whatever, I'm stupid as fuck.    

Anyways, yeah, if she doesn't wanna do it she doesn't wanna do it. Ask her why she's not into it, if there's anything you can do to make it more enjoyable for her, yada yada. Try to figure out the problem so you can fix it, don't just accept "I don't want to" as a reason.

If you try to be reasonable and she just says no, or says it isn't something she enjoys and keeps refusing, it means she isn't gonna do it, and you shouldn't keep pushing because you aren't gonna change her mind. If it means a lot to you find someone else who is as into it as you are.

 

 
This all really depends on how bad you want your dick sucked, if it's a deal breaker or end all be all, end the relationship and find a chick that suck you until your eyes roll back.  But the down side is she may not have the other qualities that you clearly love in your current girl.  Truth is no one can have it all, sometimes you can but most times there are trade offs.
 
Sometimes you get:
 
Girl (A.)
 
1. A woman you can talk to
2. Laugh with
3. Cuddle with
4. That's thoughtful
5. Has a good relationship with family and friends
6. Awkward in bed and doesn't like to suck a dick
 
And other times you get:
 
Girl (B.)
 
1. A woman you argue with constantly
2. She's intelligent, but says sarcastic and hurtful things
3. Selfish
4. Great sense of humor
5. Has a dysfunctional family
6. Terrific in the sack, and can suck a dick like a porn star
 
There are endless permutations to this mix and match, but it all depends on what your priorities are and how patient you want to be with her.  Maybe you should ask her how she feels about her sexuality and sex in general.  Is it something she can overcome and how hard do you want to work on this for a BJ?  In my old age I've learned that you cherish the things that are good, cultivate what can be and accept what can't.
 
Very seldom does shit shake out how we want, ya feel me?

 

Just stick it in her mouth

 

Maybe she'll let up if you get her in "the moment", but i honestly dont want anyone thats not too good at it. I dont tell my gf but she sucks at it so i really dont ask lol 

 

Obviously, we can't get inside her head and know the answer to this question.  Are you saying that she's never tried doing it with you at all?  Has she said whether she's tried it with anybody else?   Maybe your penis is just too big for her mouth, and she doesn't want to gag, it's not like there's a one-size-fit's-all rule in nature.  Or, like others have said, she could be just selfish.  

 

It is not selfish to say no to a sexual act you do not wish to do.

 

Hey, I agree but there ARE selfish people that only think of themselves.  It takes a little time and effort to perform fellatio, and quite possibly she just doesn't care about her partner's pleasure.  If there's something wrong with his hygiene, or it's physically very difficult for her to do, then I don't blame her.   If she's disgusted by fellatio, then he has choices of living without it, waiting to see if she changes her mind, or finding somebody else that is more compatible, sexually.  

 

don't eat her out, hold out until she gives in to a blowie!
and make sure you're clean and shaven down there if you aren't already.

 

but i think its kind of selfish of her to take and not give


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Have you even gone down on her? If you force her to do something she doesn't want or enjoys, then obviously she's going to suck at it. But it's also not fair how she isn't willing to please you.

 

at this point even if she does do it, it'll be a pity blowjob with all sorts of attitude involved.
 
won't be worth it imo..
 
rub one out or find a new girl if it's that important to you.. but you'll never get a good heartfelt blowjob from this chick.

 

Sex is not a game .. or a way to manipulate people.
 
It is a physical pleasure.
 
Agree on acts that are pleasurable to both of you.
If you don't like going down on her then don't.
 
You just have to be upfront with your partner right from the start about what you need sexually if it is that important to you. There are many people out there and you can find someone who is compatible with you sexually.

 

If she doesn't swallow, she doesn't love you. Jesus, where do you guys find such useless women?

 

I'd just stop going down on her if it bothers you that much bro. Relationships are all about give and take (pardon the pun) you just have to find a balance that works for you both, if you can.