Alright. So, I've been dating this girl for 11 months now and I've come to realize, I might not love her. I love the fact the shes there for me when noone else, the fact that I honestly feel she wouldn't cheat, and I feel secure and comfortable with her. but we are honestly two whole different people. Literately the only thing we have in common is we like to smoke, eat Munchies, and watch movies together. Everything else is like we are two completely different people and get on constant little fights all the time.. Wether it be over something jealousy or just something stupid. I'm kinda getting tired of it. But here is the thing, no matter how many times we have been on and off, every time we break up, the thought of her being with another guy KILLS me, so I wuss out and end up taking her back. Theres a problem though, she is honestly the only girl ive been with (im 19) so... I personally really really REALLY want to go out and experience new girls and see how much better I could be at "playing the feild" like I used to. But like I said, no matter How hard I try, I always end up taking her back.. Is it love? What do you guys think I should do? Thanks for reading -keep tokin'
With magnets opposites attract. I know we ain't magnets were humans but still it kinda relates. But I hear you mon I found a girl that I love we been dating for 7 months now and we have lots of fights but same with me It would kill me to see her with someone else so I'm staying with her because I feel like between me and her it's one of those love with some hate relationships.. But I know we care and love cause we never cheated and never will and to me she's amazing so I would tell you to just stay with her mon.. Or maybe talk to her and ask for a break and then go out do what you want for that break and then return to her if you really think and feel you should. Sometimes a clear conscious in a state of relaxation and peacefulness can come up with some of the best thoughts you ever had.
IMO if you have any doubts, it won't work long term. Trust your gut, it might suck in the short run but it's right in the long run. I have the same issues all the time, date a chick for a little, realize it isn't all that and move on. Get depressed/think I made a mistake, but it's fleeting. If your main reason for not dumping her is your own insecurities (she will be with someone else) that is possessiveness, not love.
Dude. You're fucking 19 and this is the first person you've been with. Go out and experience being young and in your 20s and if you two are meant to be together things will work out.
I think this is one of those moments where your minds saying yes but your hearts saying no. When I have this problem I usually go with my first instinct/gut feeling.
haha the first paragraph you wrote, basically put the way I feel on in words.. But I'm guessing the only problem with a break, is her doing shit. Which is hypocritical as fuck but still.. I feel like once she sleeps with another dude, all feelings will be gone. You know?
yeah bro I feel that and exactly like breaks are okay but it's still not that good.. But hmm maybe like still be in the relationship with her but not take a break but just don't talk to each other for a few days- a week ya know? So you both can clear your minds and relax or If you have the money go on vacation with her? Maybe you two just need to get away from others and just be on vacation in a nice place where you two can just work things out kinda I don't know I'm just brainstorming for a fellow mon haha
I know, I know. The messed up part is I KNOW I could be gettin' it right now from a bunch of girls. But feeling and shit haha I just wouldn't want her to do the same, you know?
Let her go. Everyone deserves someone who WANTS them undoubtedly. Let her go and go experience what you will. See if the grass is greener. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
You can't have your cake and eat it too. I don't want to sound rude here but I'm going to be blunt, it sounds really selfish of you that you want to go about and fuck other girls but the thought of your girl doing the same is too much? I understand that you care about her but the feeling of you wanting to be with other girls isn't just going to randomly go away some day.
yeah I know, it is extremely selfish! That's why I never went through with it because at heart I knew I still wanted her.. You don't think high school sweet hearts could happen?
High school sweethearts definitely can and do happen very often. As a matter of fact I hear that a big percentage of people meet their spouse by the time they're in high school. That being said it takes a fair amount of commitment of course. It seems pretty simple here. You cannot stop yourself from thinking the grass might be greener on the other side right? If you really care about this girl you would let her go right away. Nobody deserves to have their partner think like this. Like I said every one deserves a fair chance at being with someone that wants them undoubtedly. Just as you deserve to go explore whatever it is you want to. Just know you had it coming if she does the same and or finds a partner. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
I honestly think that that its like hitting the lottery to find a girl that is 100% faithful and would HONESTLY never cheat. Because now a days you can never trust. I've heard and seen one to many fucked up cheating going on, that it makes be believe its almost impossible to find a 100% loyal girl... And it sucks ..
I think u just fucked urself and now that she might move on you regret it, u expect her to be ok with u moving on when ur the one who broke up? I think u both should just move on because what was the point in breaking up f u can't move on and see her be happy with someone else? Be happy for her seein as u wanted to break up be happy she's happy Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
She prob was happy with u but u ended it so now she's gunna move on Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
So your fear pretty much comes down to the thought of some other dude banging her. Let it go, you're young and you still don't know what's out there yet. I'm sure you'd find someone that shares more in common with you than getting high, eating muchies and watching movies. There's much more to experience than that. Ask yourself if you can imagine spending your life with this woman. If you reply with a groan, she's probably not the one for you. However, if the thought makes you happy, then it's a matter of spicing your relationship up a little.
This relationship has nothing to do with love. It's jealousy based on insecurity. You want to keep her on a shelf until something better.comes along. When it doesn't work out you can just take her down, dust her off and on to the next prospect. Yes, it is incredibly selfish and very destructive. She is your security blanket and you are using her shamelessly. Before this turns ugly you need to cut her free. She is going to find someone before you and you are going to take it badly. Move on. Be single for a while until you sort yourself out. What you are doing is wrong and you know it.
I feel like you might know OP and this situation personally? Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
no I was jus giving my thought/ opinion based off what I read lol was trying to think of the most logical scenario of what might'v happened Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I'd say you did very well, cause I honestly thought you were there! Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum