FWB.. Bad idea?

I never text or call the day after sex

I don't want to seem clingy as fuck. Plus it's a fwb.


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Don't feel regretful...if things feel awkward with this guy, just confront it.  "Hey - I don't want this to be awkward.  I had fun the other night but let's just leave it at that."...or whatever.  People in general appreciate honesty.
 
Also - don't think too much about this.  Girls overthink everything, all the time. It's just what we do :/

 

If he never makes the first move then you should. Idk why he wont though.. If youve made it clear that you both wanna fuck then yall should be golden.


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Yeah, FWB doesn't mean you hang out all the time or stay in contact constantly.
 
My FWB situations I will cut it off really fast if the person tries to make it more than the agreed upon FWB.
 
This is why you shouldn't try and have a FWB situation with someone you have feelings for. While I disagree with KITC in saying women can NOT disconnect (I'm a female and have had clingy fucking dudes and girls that just couldn't disconnect after, while i can) but in every situation it turns out that they had more than just "let's bone" feelings and were hoping that the FWB would turn into more.
 
You CAN NOT (not saying you did/are) go into a FWB hoping for more or that they'll catch feelings etc. because that's the fastest way to ruin the dynamics, and also a friendship if you had an actual friendship previously.

 

Just tell him that you feel that way, and that it wasn't that he was bad in bed

 

Suck his dick! Suck his dick!


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I say go for the D. All he can say is no and when you think about it, there are worse things to say. That's male logic though.

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He's bullshitting. Lots of guys cant keep that type of stuff off their minds even if they tried. Stop acting like you don't think you're good enough for him.

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sounds like he's trying to pretend like he doesn't know you want a relationship. Shy people are tricky to read. You have to talk to them a lot too get them comfortable enough with you. Honestly it's safe to say he feels the same way you do.

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From everything I gather so far, you really like this guy but you're trying to convince yourself that you don't for some reason. In your mind you want it to be purely aesthetic based casual sex, but there is definitely some hidden emotion behind your voice. That's why you have a whirlwind of emotions the day after sex. It seems like he does not want any kind of relationship, especially since the sex was kinda sprung onto him randomly, while you do. The fact that you say you've talked about the bounds of your relationship/FWB makes me think that you're trying to protect yourself mentally. The more someone has to justify their actions, the more uncertain they are about the actions they are doing. When this happens (cognitive dissonance), we try to find ways to mentally block/compensate for why we did or thought that way. Friends with benefits is not a bad thing necessarily, but if you really just saw it as FWB and nothing else than you never would have posted this thread. It wouldn't have concerned you enough to contemplate your choices to the point of over thinking. 

 

Life would be soo much easier if girls just came up and said fuck me. If we go up and say let's fuck its "sexual harassment". I hate how girls don't want to say anything but when we do we could lose our jobs or end up in court. If a firefighter with a 6pack says let's fuck he gets pussy but if some normal looking guy says let's fuck he gets yelled at or worse. No wonder guys are afraid to straight up ask a girl to do a natural act with them

 

he may not be seeing anyone in the relationship sense, so while it might irritate you that he doesn't have the same feelings, you shouldn't be pissed or call him/assume he is a cheater..

if you regret it don't do it again, but you shouldn't feel like you disrespected yourself if it's what you wanted. I think the problem lies with you feeling more than either you want to admit or that you even realize.

definitely stop now though, you have too many feelings for him for it to be a NSA situation.

you did nothing wrong, you just know now that maybe it's not your thing or in this case you like him too much. sorry you're regretting it but try and see it as a lesson learned?

 

just do it. seriously. you're not a 'slut' lol just be safe and discreet of course and you have to mentally prepare yourself, life if you get too attached, you can't have him, and you have to know that. that was my problem for a long time is I always got butt hurt.
best way to initiate anything, I swear to god, just grab him and kiss him lol it will go from there

 

what if he's not replying cause he seen this thread and was like damn this chick is crazy.

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