Here's the situation, my dad just found out that i smoke yesterday (on my 19th birthday, WHILE i was skiing). He called and told me to get my ass home, spoiling the trip, and i had to drive 2 hours back thinking about what to do. He told me that he knew i was lying about a lot and i spilled the beans about smoking behind his back for the past 3 months or so. I decided to try and move out secretly today because he said he wanted me to spend the day at my grandmothers. I woke up at 6:45 right after my dad and step mom leave for work, i start to pack all my shit and im almost done when i hear my dad walk in. I told him that i am moving out today and he went into a small rage, which is quite rare for him. he told me that this was the worst mistake of my life, that im doing it just to smoke weed, and that i will not have the extra guidance that i could receive at home. So i got through that, finished packing, and got out of there. So i arrive at my friends basement where im staying, and everything is awesome, i moved all of my stuff in and it will work for a while. So my friend and i decide to find sum bud and get an incredible hookup on a zip of loud for $240. pretty awesome. so we go and smoke and i havent smoked the past two days because of all this, so i got HELLA high. I look at my phone and see i have 5 missed messages from my stepmom, telling me that im immature and cant handle life, and that i let my friend convince me to leave just to party. This coming from such a nice lady, i never thought she had a mean side. I then receive a text from my dad asking for the address. I immediately replied to him with it and he said "whos that?" back, so i told him my friends name. Then he said "should i stop by?". at this point my friend is about ready to strangle me because hes paranoid and his mom just had a situation similar to this with parents coming to their house. As im contemplating how to get out of this, i realize it doesnt say dad, but dan. lol my dad was still unanswered for his question of the address. so i ask him what he needs it for? then he tells me that he is going to BOMB it. no joke, idk if it was bc i was high or not but it scared the hell out of me, i didnt realize he was joking. so he then says that he is my father and needs to know and that i need to switch over my title to just my name and get my own insurance! I got really overwhelmed and the high got spoiled fast. I told him that i have to respect the privacy of their home but he is insistent on me telling him the address. i still havent told him, do you think i should or not?
Im confused, he wants to put your car into your name only to where you would be the sole owner? If so, I would try to stay on his nice side I guess, but I wouldnt tell him the adrress at the moment until you can get a guranteed explantation from him as to why he needs it and what for, and to make sure not to delete the texts he sends you about it.
But yea, also, that does seem like kind of a rash decision you made to move out over something like that, but its your decision man
This helps the situation doesn't it?, as far as your situation, bro make up with your family, life's way short. I understand your situation, i would say make things right with with your family but your a big boy, get a job and a real place and start your adult life, mmj can be a part of your life but you need to get all your other priorities right first
Odd. everyone on the forum yesterday was all for me moving out. i may have overreacted and thought they were more mad than they really are, but i still have a lot of family to tell and its hard having them know about me smoking. its a tough thing.
Well your 19 so you can do what you want.....he can come to your friends house but that does not mean you have to go with him...so the choice is yours...your legally old enough to do as you wish, on that note....I think you should give the guy some slack...Im sure hes just uneducated on weed and doesnt want you going down a bad road in life..he just wants whats best for you I think....so maybe try to educate him on the herb a little.
Yeah man, leaving a good situation for a 'moving on with my life' situation can always be risky but hey, if you got a good situation and you ain't enjoying the hell out of it you might as well be without it, for the perspective of it all.
Well, I'd say you need to make your decision independent of the weed; if that's the issue at the center of things, you need to reconsider your priorities. I enjoy my reefer, but there've been times I set it aside for years in order to keep everything else on the rails.
I have a steady job that gives me about $500 per month, which is tough to live on. I dont think he will accept any answers for why its safe, he believes in the gateway effect and honestly, ive tried other things, and im quite content with weed. When i used to live with him, i always had to make lame excuses up for why i was out and it was always stressful bouncing back and forth, especially because my friends live 20 mins away and now im right beside them, saving gas
Thats what my dad was saying, and too be quite honest, its not only that and i know it. its about having the freedom to go where i want, with whom, basic stuff and then the weed on that,
This whole post was just a series of incredibly immature and irresponsible, not to mention, highly disrespectful actions on your part. This is why ignorant people think weed is so bad. I cant even begin to give you advice. Good luck in the fast food business. Because yeah, weed > family, stability, and everything else Go ahead and retort with your grand plans for life. Unsubscribing from this thread now.
Dad sounds stupid... Educate him on the herb. The studies. Sit his ass down and talk like a fucking man. You're 19. You're "legal" dude. Reliable for your own shit. Tell him he sounds like a hypocrite by wanting the best for you but is being a bigot with arrogant ignorance. I'm blitzed, hope that helped though lil homie.
it distresses me to see such strong opinions in both ways. i honestly hate that it happened this way, and that it seemed disrespectful, but when i was talking with my dad i told him i loved him and that it wasnt their fault, and i wish they knew it wasnt just about the weed. it sucks.
I think you made bad moves, especially doing it behind your parents back that is low. If you want to be a man and accept responsibility you should have sat down and talked to them. Also, $500 a month is nothing. I would try to make amends with your family or if you want to stay moved out find a full time job.
It was tough to try to find the right moves, if they were even there. i felt like if i stayed i would miserable and if i left my family would be miserable, so perhaps it is a selfish thing to do. i wish i knew how to calm them down and not have them all worried. and i work part time because im a college student, but i did work at a pawn shop that let me work whenever, so i may go back when i have free time.
think about the future man, in a year from now will you be able to sustain yourself? think bills, food, extra spending $$. If the answer is yes then go for it, what do you have to lose? Mend the relationship with your parents but show them its not just because of weed you moved out, its because you're an adult and can make your own decisions.
actually i just figured it up, and i could have about $6 a day after i pay for rent ($150 for a backhouse behind my friend im currently staying at), gas for my car, and insurance. i think thats doable.