Do opposites attract?

I wanted to hear people's opinions on the life long battle of, do opposites really attract?

In my opinion, opposites do not attract. We look for people who have the same qualities as us because we believe these to be the best qualities, that is why we possess them. Just thinking about someone now who is the opposite of me already pisses me off, and I've never even met them. But on the other hand, if I were to be with my complete equal it would end up in two passive, lazy, spontaneous, people-hating loners being in a relationship, how on earth would that work?

What do you guys think? Do people need to be opposite in at least some qualities, completely opposite, completely identical?

opposites definitely attract. at least in my case.

they say you never like your own reflection

Of course. I'm an example. My wife is very shy and so. I'm 6'2, she is 5'2. I'm the leader kind of guy. You would page me easily for the TYpical Bimbo kind of guy like. But I prefer nice, shy and quiet !

Those quite ones bring hell to the bed !

In addition we compliment each other. She has the peaceness, I dont have but I want and I have the power and the attitude that she wants but don't have.

Ying&Yang !

Edited by zeroshawdow, 06 July 2012 - 08:33 PM.

opposites definitely attract. at least in my case.

they say you never like your own reflection

True that ! Lol

I don't think thats all true..somewhat yes
We look for people with most of the same qualities
but there are still things about them that
are complete opposite from us..
ex: the shy guy with the outgoing girl
me an my ex were waaay to much alike
which is probably one of the reasons we arent together
2 stubborn people does not = a good thing lol

No. Not necessarily.

Some people will swear by it and use their own isolated case as examples.

Some people will look at their spouse, who is metaphorically a mirror image of themselves, and laugh to disagree.

There's no set example that every couple happens to fall into.

Attraction causes attraction, simple as that.

Anybody who says anything else is a sentimental guarding their own lives with biased emotion.

The beauty of the forums. Is all "personal opinion" for the laughs most of it. Why some of us makes it so serious ?

Live, Love & Laugh !

I think what they really mean by "opposites attract" is make to female. Opposite personalities than mine never attracted me ever.

Although most people say that opposites do not attract and studies show the same, I have to disagree. I find it is very possible for opposites to attract. You can find the other persons beliefs, lifestyle and habits intriguing, which helps attract you to them ect. To each his own, but I think it is very possible.

According to Meyer-Briggs opposites (in terms of introverts and extroverts) do attract. The ideal mate for the INFJ personality (mine) would be ENTP or ENFP. My boyfriend is INFP, ideal except for the fact he is an introvert like myself.

The idea of being with an extrovert terrifies me. I like people well enough, but I do not want to be around strange masses all the time. Going to parties, going out to eat, having friends over is a major source of anxiety for me, and I only do it once and a while. I need time where I can just recharge my internal batteries, and I would not be well suited for someone whos batteries charge by being with people.

i'll take you back to highschool for me. i was a stoner, drank with my friends, smoked cigs and i was about a sophomore.

well there was this girl i've had a crush on since eighth grade, and she was the complete opposite. played softball, straight edge, basically a goodie-two-shoes.

so we dated, for about a month. then the topic of 'partying' came up. i told her what i did, and we instantly lost all connection we had. i didn't have much into this girl, but i did care for her. but it didn't work out.

so in my experience, no. but i can't speak for everyone.

According to Meyer-Briggs opposites (in terms of introverts and extroverts) do attract. The ideal mate for the INFJ personality (mine) would be ENTP or ENFP. My boyfriend is INFP, ideal except for the fact he is an introvert like myself.

The idea of being with an extrovert terrifies me. I like people well enough, but I do not want to be around strange masses all the time. Going to parties, going out to eat, having friends over is a major source of anxiety for me, and I only do it once and a while. I need time where I can just recharge my internal batteries, and I would not be well suited for someone whos batteries charge by being with people.

sounds like you described me... hooray for another introverted person

I think opposites do attract, but that does not necessarily mean that they are compatible.
No matter how similar my boyfriend and I are, we have some differences. But those differences make it more balanced. When I see a situation one way he sees it another and sometimes I really need to hear that because that's just not the way I would have come about it.

In the past I have had boyfriends that were in every single way opposite of me. We had a great time but there wasn't enough common grounds between us to keep a healthy balance in the relationship. So to me there should be at least a something other than difference to keep a relationship connected.

According to Paula Abdul they do. Loll

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Wow, I just noticed the meaning of "She likes it neat, and he makes a mess". Childhood memories ruined.

Edited by hhbhagat1417, 07 July 2012 - 05:29 AM.

to a certain degree opposites do attract, we need someone to help balance us out. at least thats the way i see it

not saying we have to be polar opposites but being able to complete one another is good, think yin and yang. i might be better at somethings than she is and vice versa

I don't always look for qualities i possess, I find a lot of things attractive

I feel if there is an attraction, there is no boundary on what defines the two being similar or not. Labels are just that... labels. Nothing else.

I feel as though they do attract to a certain extent, but you still have to share common characteristics.....

I'm primarily introverted, this girl I'm talking to is primarily extroverted. I was the smart, quiet stoner in high school, she was popular and outgoing.

That being said, since we've been chilling, its been enjoyable. We each have a very sarcastic observational humor about us and it cracks me up. Plus, she's not a prude, she likes drinking and smokes MAD weed.........and on the occasions that my cousin Molly or my one really rich cousin who has a pet Yak, come into town, she's down to hang out with them as well. =) Long as its not an all the time thing. Which is awesome, got her head on straight.

So yeah to an extent, they do attract. But you have to have some common ground.

To an extent.

A lot of it is bullshit. Why would you want to hang out with someone who you have little in common with?