Would you want to know if your spouse cheated on you?

Let's say you're married for 20 years and your spouse had an affair that's resulted in the conception of a baby.. would you want to know about the affair that occurred?

Yes only so that I could leave him. Someone who keeps that big of a secret from me while we are in a committed relationship means that they cannot communicate with me.
And if there's no communication there's no relationship.

Arnold?

Yes only so that I could leave him. Someone who keeps that big of a secret from me while we are in a committed relationship means that they cannot communicate with me.
And if there's no communication there's no relationship.

BAM, someone already posted my answer.

That kind of behavior is unacceptable. Not unforgivable for some, but definitely unacceptable.

Honesty about actions is more important to a relationship than the actions themselves.

Yes.

But, luckily I got strong ass genes. All family members look alike.

If I had a child and it wasn't mine, we'd know the first day.

Oh yeah I'd definitely want to know so I could LEAVE them!

Even if you and your spouse have young children together? You'd want a divorce?

eh, I'm back and forth on this question.

On one hand, what you don't know can't possibly hurt you.

But being with a skeezer is also rather shitty.

Even if you and your spouse have young children together? You'd want a divorce?

That all really depends on each person. Some are willing to stay with a cheater, others aren't.
If it were me, I may still love them, but I certainly wouldn't respect them. So yes.

Does keeping the secret keep the cheater from being in the child's life? If so then it needs to come out. Or is the mother the cheater and the husband is raising another man's child?

The secret protects the cheater more than the spouse. This would be awful for the spouse to hear, but s/he deserves to know who s/he is married to. And the young children deserve to know what kind of people their parents are. And the illegitimate child deserves to know who his/her parents are and be open about it.

I would wanna know because of Zeddy's reasons.

However, if there was not a child involved I'd rather not find out.

Let's say you're married for 20 years and your spouse had an affair that's resulted in the conception of a baby.. would you want to know about the affair that occurred?

Jesus fuck dude, thats a heavy concept.

Yes ofcourse I'd want to know , and I would break it off right away.
I've expierenced cheating and it's one of the worste things ever.

Then whose responsibility is it to tell about the affair? For instance, if the cheater is willing to keep the lie, should the "other person" intervene?

how can someone claim to love you and lie to you everyday? If it was me I would need to know so I can leave your ass to find your baby daddy. The type of person I am means it would never work out, I don't have trust issues but after this kind of situation I could never trust you again.

I'm thinking of the Maury show.... Nuttybong0...... you are NOT the father.
Then I go "Aaaawwww shit" while doing the Ray Lewis dance.

they say ignorance is bliss...they're wrong.

Situation kind of happened to me...although it was cheating, we had broken up for a couple days and she had slept with two other people (didn't know about it until later)...a couple months later, find out she's pregnant, baby was conceived AROUND the time of the break up...to this day I still don't know 100% my daughter is mine. But after two years, and a current bitter custody dispute, I don't want to know. Does it bug me sometimes? Of course, but I love that little girl with everything. When she's old enough to understand, I will explain the situation to her, and let her decide if she wants DNA testing done.

And btw, I'm not with her mother, she actually cheated on me various times in the relationship I came to find out towards the end.

of course you would want to know!
punishments should be handed out accordingly
ive got a set a of town square stocks, just for this purpose