Love, Like, and Trouble

[pomangro]

G.C., the pomangro has a problem. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years, and love her very much. You don't stay together that long if you don't.
There is also a girl at my college who i have known since i was like 12, and i think she is just swell. I liked her then, and upon reconnecting with her, i think i like her now. Then i fucked up. We were supposed to chill; but a family member of hers was sick, and me, being the jackass i am, asked if she was lying to get out of chilling. I think i did this because i was upset..she got mad...told me it felt like i was a jealous boyfriend..i felt terrible. I struggled with this for a while, and concluded that the best thing to do was avoid her. The next day at school i see her walk by, so i hide. The funny thing is, she had spotted me all along, and caught me red handed DOH!
I explained everything to her, reluctantly. When i told her her eyes watered up a little and she covered her mouth..i think she was smiling. Then i walked away and every time i see her now it is just so damn awkward. I feel like i have nothing to say. What do you all think i should do about this situation? I have no desire to be with her, i'm happy where i'm at, but still, i'm confused.

^^ sorry about the book

[Postal Blowfish]

So, did what you tell her include the fact that you're into her?

And are you sure that was a smile?

Maybe she's had a crush on you forever.

[pomangro]

My exact words were-
"I really care about you, and sometimes it's difficult for me to articulate those feelings. I can't do it how i'm used to, ya know" then she kinda nodded

I think she was smiling and trying to hide it. Maybe she was trying to not spew vomit all over me, i don't know. It is a shitty situation though, because she is awesome, and i feel i ruined our friendship by saying anything. Kind of a bummer.

[Postal Blowfish]

If you don't know wtf and think you've ruined your friendship then it seems you're in a corner. Find a good moment and lay it all out. If it's a bust, you might have to move on, but if you think you've ruined things you must already be considering that you have to. If it's not a bust, then it's a win scenario obviously.

Thus, if you are convinced you may have stepped in it, you have little to lose by approaching her honestly and hoping for the best. The alternative seems to be living forever in this awkwardness between you two.

As I said before, if that was a smile on her face with the damp eyes, it could be that she has always had thoughts for you. You never know.

[fkXthtXsht]

my boyfriend and i have also been together for 5 years!!

well anyhoo im sure that chick knows about your current relationship and that you wouldnt do anything to mess it up. just tell her exactly what you wrote :

"I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years, and love her very much. You don't stay together that long if you don't. "

and then tell her how youve always had a special thing for her, but you just want to keep it the way it has always been because she is an awesome friend. and also i think if one of my guy friends told me what you told her, my eyes would water and i would probabaly smile also. its very sweet. but just like you, i would keep it at that

[Postal Blowfish]

sheeeeeeeeyit. i somehow missed the whole already committed line.

if you're happy in your relationship then ignore anything i've said.

[pomangro]

The commited part is what makes all of this so hard. And yes, she knows about and respects my relationship, which might be why she didn't really say anything when i kinda spilled my guts to her. I haven't seen her in like 2 weeks, so i think she turned the tables and is avoiding me. I'm just going to hope that time will return things to normal.

Thanks for the input you two, i appreciate it. I really couldn't talk to anyone i know about this for security reasons.