I can't get girls

[CasinoCloudz]

Don't get me wrong, ive gotten a girl.

Key word is A Girl, ive had sex one time with one girl and thats it. Some girls tell me im good looking but all the girls that i really want and try to talk to seem like they are not interested in me at all.

My self esteem is really low and i usually consider everything i do or say socially akward but my internal thoughts wouldent drive away a sign that a girl likes me. Its just that i dont get any of them.

I honestly don't know whats wrong, whether its the way i act, look, or talk or anything it just pisses me off.

Anyways, thats why im a pussy and cant get a girl

Any responses?

[VeiledReality]

The only thing I caught from your thread is that you may not appear very confident.
You said you have low self-esteem and trust me girls catch on to it quick.And it is almost always a turn-off for them.

You need to at least appear like you think you're hot shit,it's what I've been doing my whole life lol.Of course don't be arrogant or a deuschebag either.

I'm not too into myself just like you,except I make sure I'm the only one that knows it.

Try making all the moves yourself and letting the girl come along for the ride,it's usually what they want you to do anyway.

[thrice54]

Women are most interested in a guy who has a happy life regardless of them or not. You can seem like you need them. Live you life in a way the conveys that you entirely enjoy every aspect and women will want to be part of it.

[D_420]

Instead of asking yourself why you're such a pussy , ask yourself why you're so damn sexy.
Be confident , it's a really attractive trait. And remember , people aren't happy because they're successful. They're successful because they're happy.

[CasinoCloudz]

Another factor is my relationship with my friends, a lot of my friends are assholes and most i dont even like. There are a select few that are fun but i mean like 1 or 2 so here i am trying to share stories and shit when i realize that the only stories i have about me and my friends are ones that make me or someone else look bad.

I can't pretend to be happy with my life if theres not even one thing i can look forward to being happy too.

[randomstoner]

just be real any girl that is worth being with will respect that dont hang out with friends who you dont realy care for if you dont like the way something is in your life than change it into something you do like dont stress to much about it dont be desperate just find inner peace and the girls will come to you like moths to a lamp

[GirlyS]

Keep your head up and remember, if you believe it then it's true. Just believe you are an awesome person and everything will fall into place.

[coldcheese]

how old are you dude? if you were having trouble getting girls in highschool or college, don't even worry about it man. i mean unless you're trying to be a player, all you really have to do is just live your life. relationships come and go. and honestly i feel like you're better off just doing things for yourself and eventually a girl you ADORE will come along into your life and you'll be happy you waited. i've been single for about 3 years, my last girl friend was my first real relationship. so i've basically only been in one good long 2 year relationship back in high school.
all i'm saying is if you really just want to find that "one" girl, just let her come into your life. trust me, she will eventually.
but if you're looking for more of like a fling or hook up, you just have to really put yourself out there and let people know you're willing to date. don't put yourself down just cause you don't have much of a history with girls or sex.

i hope this helps, man.

[Icky Thump]

date rape

[JV420]

Confidence and being able to hold a conversation.

All it takes.

[alicedee07]

Originally Posted by CasinoCloudz

Don't get me wrong, ive gotten a girl.

Key word is A Girl, ive had sex one time with one girl and thats it. Some girls tell me im good looking but all the girls that i really want and try to talk to seem like they are not interested in me at all.

My self esteem is really low and i usually consider everything i do or say socially akward but my internal thoughts wouldent drive away a sign that a girl likes me. Its just that i dont get any of them.

I honestly don't know whats wrong, whether its the way i act, look, or talk or anything it just pisses me off.

Anyways, thats why im a pussy and cant get a girl

Any responses?

Let me tell you something, looks don't matter jackshit. If you don't feel good about yourself inside, it doesn't matter if you are Brad Pitt. You won't get girls. My response is kinda long but read it if you think its worth it.

There's no such thing as low self esteem. That was just apart of some bullshit movement in the 80s to try and make kids feel better. What many of us believe to be self esteem is someone's sense of self worth, how we view ourselves.

And let me tell you, everyone has something they don't like about themselves. They just approach it differently. Even some cool, macho, pimp guy who gets laid all the time has something that he feels bad about, and may approach his problem by trying to compensate for it by getting tons of girls.

So your first step to getting girls is to accept that. That we are all humans, we are all unique, we all have different things to offer, and we all have things other people will either like or not, and we all have insecurities. And you are one human of billions.

So because we are all unique, the first step to getting girls is you need to find out who you are. What makes up your personality. How do your actions reflect on your personality? To gain a better understanding of who you are, think of the closest people in your life whether it is friends or family. What do you think they like about you? What do you think they dislike about you? What kind of person do they see you as? These people who are close to you obviously like you for some reason.

Once you figure out why they like you, you will begin to learn the good things about you. Because like I said. You are a human and there is good and bad to all of us. Everyone will see this, even women. Don't preoccupy yourself with what you don't like and can't change. We are who we are in this world. Some little things we can change, but the building blocks of our soul we cannot change. Embrace the good things about yourself. Love yourself for who you are, and others will love you for that as well, including women.

Most importantly, accept that in this world, people will either like you or not. So you cannot preoccupy yourself with those who don't like you. As long as you like who you are, you won't care about those that don't like you, even women.

Another cardinal rule, you will never be able to get EVERY single woman you want. Just like a lion hunting its prey in the open savannah, it knows in its mind no matter how good of a hunter it becomes, there will always be a few buffalo able to evade it. Embrace these truths, and you will have no fears talking to girls.

[alicedee07]

Originally Posted by CasinoCloudz

Another factor is my relationship with my friends, a lot of my friends are assholes and most i dont even like. There are a select few that are fun but i mean like 1 or 2 so here i am trying to share stories and shit when i realize that the only stories i have about me and my friends are ones that make me or someone else look bad.

I can't pretend to be happy with my life if theres not even one thing i can look forward to being happy too.

You are going to have to change this if you want to start getting girls. You are no different than any human. We all have something to be happy about. It's just that we tend to take for granted what we already have. If you find yourself unworthy of anything, no girl will find YOU worthy. I'm sure you are a really cool guy with many great thing to offer to anyone, but you probably just don't realize it. You need to find out who you are like I said.

[skatealex2]

I was thinking of this today, I've had sex once too but honestly I wouldn't change myself for anyone so once I meet a girl that seems to be on my level of thinking than I might make an attempt at her.

there's this girl in my class that seems to always notice me but i can't bring myself to hit on her because i have nothing to say, although if something ever came up where we had to interact maybe something would happen. i'm not sure what i'm trying to say, but ive come to the conclusion for me that when shit happens it will happen. im sure if i ever meet a girl that is on my wave length and i can relate to her, i may want to put in the effort to hit on her, otherwise i don't give a shit- im happy living in my mind and i have plenty of good friends.

Just gotta go with the flow I personally have never bought into all the 'rules' and games people have for hitting on girls

[GirlyS]

Originally Posted by skatealex2

I was thinking of this today, I've had sex once too but honestly I wouldn't change myself for anyone so once I meet a girl that seems to be on my level of thinking than I might make an attempt at her.

there's this girl in my class that seems to always notice me but i can't bring myself to hit on her because i have nothing to say, although if something ever came up where we had to interact maybe something would happen. i'm not sure what i'm trying to say, but ive come to the conclusion for me that when shit happens it will happen. im sure if i ever meet a girl that is on my wave length and i can relate to her, i may want to put in the effort to hit on her, otherwise i don't give a shit- im happy living in my mind and i have plenty of good friends.

Just gotta go with the flow I personally have never bought into all the 'rules' and games people have for hitting on girls

There are no rules, that's why you've been successful. When you're flirting the only thing you have to remember is be confident.

[fkXthtXsht]

its okay kiddo, everyone has a time in their life when they dont feel confident enough to strike up a convo with a guy or a girl, and if they get turned down or if they dont have a sworm of girls on their jock they internalize it. There is probably nothing wrong with your looks or your attitude, the only thing i can think of that you should change is your confidence, from what you wrote. If you believe in yourself then it shows. Just go out there and be genuinely happy, get your self esteem up and you will see a change. Everyone has something they dont like about themselves, but if you accept it and see it as an awesome thing then so will the people around you. There are probably girls who are interested in you, but because you think you are doing something wrong, or because of your self esteem you dont see that they are actually digging you. Im sure you will find a girl who is totally in to you, and you will feel like the greatest man on earth.