I can't get girls

[Sp0okI3]

ya man you jus gotta take it as it comes rule of thumb be happy smile its a big turn on wen walkin around keep ur head up like thats were it belongs jus start talkin bout somethin random women like wen you talk bout them so ask them some questions n the rest will flo oh n i used ta ave this problem dnt think before you say somethin jus let it flo cuz 9 times outta 10 your going to think its stupid n ususally more often then not its not jus be yourself n be happy best advice you can get

[Fubar24-7]

brother man the best advice i can give to you is" if you cant change something, change the way you think about it"

if its trouble MEETING girls, just ask them simple things like, "hey do you know where i can find this store?" and then you ask them their names, and then give them complete eye contact and a slight smile. they fucking love it. honestly the way i go about things is i just make my eye contact and make SURE they know im looking, give em a smile and walk up to them and say, "i couldnt help but to notice you looking at me. hi "

honestly just be you my brother, and people will adore you for you. when in contact with them dont even ACT like you like them if they are a friend, just small little hints will get the point across.
i.e."im having trouble picking out what to wear". you" well i think you would look great in a little black dress." them "oh i dont think i look to good in black" you "no way your skin would compliment with the black dress in my opinion" them "awe thank you". you " your very welcome"

conversation is key, be yourself, and people will follow.

[Generic_User645]

Sup. Yeah i have the same problem - i have been told im good looking, but i know my look is quite marmite, and have social anxiety which makes things that tiny bit worse. I get looks off girls all the time, but i never know how to approach them casually as if to say "yeah im attracted to you and i think you are too" and i just end up being their friends because i end up talking about homework/education to break the ice. I CAN hold a cnoversation and am regularly described as witty charming etc but ONLY if they talk to me.

For example, there is this FIT girl who is quite shy herself, but always looks at me in some affectionate way when i see her. I have neevr spoken to her, due to us both being shy, and i wuoldnt know what to do. She seems perfect, quiet, modest and not a slag and is soO pretty i could die, easily out of my league. I see the other boys hit on her and she just seems really embarassed or is like "no, go away", yet still gives me that look. I give her an awkward smile and she gives me one back. I need some help.

And the girls who know me as a "friend",who im attracted to, just see me as "adorable/cute", because im that pathetic. I just get along with girls (all my new friends are girls) better than my male brethren, but only in a friendy way.

[skatealex2]

Originally Posted by Generic_User645

For example, there is this FIT girl who is quite shy herself, but always looks at me in some affectionate way when i see her. I have neevr spoken to her, due to us both being shy, and i wuoldnt know what to do. She seems perfect, quiet, modest and not a slag and is so pretty i could die. I see the other boys hit on her and she just seems really embarassed or is like "no, go away", yet still gives me that look. I give her an awkward smile and she gives me one back. I need some help.

same thing has been happening to me in one college class but i can't get myself to talk when i have nothing to say and im not into pick up lines . but i always notice me and this girl occasionally looking towards each other, she even gave me an odd kind of look on the way out of class kind of like a

[MJ_Expert]

Originally Posted by Generic_User645

Sup. Yeah i have the same problem - i have been told im good looking, but i know my look is quite marmite, and have social anxiety which makes things that tiny bit worse. I get looks off girls all the time, but i never know how to approach them casually as if to say "yeah im attracted to you and i think you are too" and i just end up being their friends because i end up talking about homework/education to break the ice. I CAN hold a cnoversation and am regularly described as witty charming etc but ONLY if they talk to me.

For example, there is this FIT girl who is quite shy herself, but always looks at me in some affectionate way when i see her. I have neevr spoken to her, due to us both being shy, and i wuoldnt know what to do. She seems perfect, quiet, modest and not a slag and is soO pretty i could die, easily out of my league. I see the other boys hit on her and she just seems really embarassed or is like "no, go away", yet still gives me that look. I give her an awkward smile and she gives me one back. I need some help.

And the girls who know me as a "friend",who im attracted to, just see me as "adorable/cute", because im that pathetic. I just get along with girls (all my new friends are girls) better than my male brethren, but only in a friendy way.

Dude if you give a girl a smile, and she smiles back, you have NO excuse not to walk up to her and spit game.

As for OP, sorry but idk, you just gotta get ya confidence up I guess.

[Generic_User645]

Originally Posted by MJ_Expert

Dude if you give a girl a smile, and she smiles back, you have NO excuse not to walk up to her and spit game.

As for OP, sorry but idk, you just gotta get ya confidence up I guess.

You're right, but i fear i may be wrong or just vain and will completely balls up and embarrass myself.

[MJ_Expert]

Originally Posted by Generic_User645

You're right, but i fear i may be wrong or just vain and will completely balls up and embarrass myself.

But dude if she's starring at you, and you are sure that she smiles at you, (well if it was me) I'd seriously start walking towards her and say "see somethin you like? " she can either say "Yes, no, or maybe" if she says no you can just laugh and say "I was messing around then go back to your seat", if she says yes (most girls wouldn't) then you can just reply like "Oh, was it me? (then they might say maybe, lol)" and continue from there, if she says MAYBE then all you have to do is engage in a conversation with her about anything, and a maybe means yes, yes means yes and so does a maybe, but the maybes are more like "Ya I like the way your lookin but I wanna get to know you first" so ya.....still NO excuse, lol the only way you'll embarrass yourself is if you say something dumb, just take time to think before you speak or reply to what the girl says. If she says something and you think you might say something dumb so you think about what you're going to say and you reply to her question late, just laugh and say sorry "I just remembered something I have to do when I get home" and then say what you thought of.

Good luck, and Good luck OP.

[EsotericXistenz]

I used to be the SAME way, you just got to realize people are people don't change your actions or words because your afraid of looking stupid or whatever. Be yourself and eventually you'll attract someone.

[chickenarmy]

You gotta get over girls before you can be cool with them. Bitches does not equal happiness. There is def more to life. Get in a cool place with yourself and your life and then the bitches will follow.

[BuffaloGanja]

[S for Shoota]

Originally Posted by alicedee07

Let me tell you something, looks don't matter jackshit. If you don't feel good about yourself inside, it doesn't matter if you are Brad Pitt. You won't get girls. My response is kinda long but read it if you think its worth it.

There's no such thing as low self esteem. That was just apart of some bullshit movement in the 80s to try and make kids feel better. What many of us believe to be self esteem is someone's sense of self worth, how we view ourselves.

And let me tell you, everyone has something they don't like about themselves. They just approach it differently. Even some cool, macho, pimp guy who gets laid all the time has something that he feels bad about, and may approach his problem by trying to compensate for it by getting tons of girls.

So your first step to getting girls is to accept that. That we are all humans, we are all unique, we all have different things to offer, and we all have things other people will either like or not, and we all have insecurities. And you are one human of billions.

So because we are all unique, the first step to getting girls is you need to find out who you are. What makes up your personality. How do your actions reflect on your personality? To gain a better understanding of who you are, think of the closest people in your life whether it is friends or family. What do you think they like about you? What do you think they dislike about you? What kind of person do they see you as? These people who are close to you obviously like you for some reason.

Once you figure out why they like you, you will begin to learn the good things about you. Because like I said. You are a human and there is good and bad to all of us. Everyone will see this, even women. Don't preoccupy yourself with what you don't like and can't change. We are who we are in this world. Some little things we can change, but the building blocks of our soul we cannot change. Embrace the good things about yourself. Love yourself for who you are, and others will love you for that as well, including women.

Most importantly, accept that in this world, people will either like you or not. So you cannot preoccupy yourself with those who don't like you. As long as you like who you are, you won't care about those that don't like you, even women.

Another cardinal rule, you will never be able to get EVERY single woman you want. Just like a lion hunting its prey in the open savannah, it knows in its mind no matter how good of a hunter it becomes, there will always be a few buffalo able to evade it. Embrace these truths, and you will have no fears talking to girls.

Greatest post or greatest post ever?

That hit it on the nail, /thread.

That was a genius post

[GGrass]

First, you gotta stop telling other people you can't get girls.

[GinandJuice]

Originally Posted by Icky Thump

date rape

lol yeh that will help

[Postal Blowfish]

All you can ever do is try. What rules you more? How well you approve of yourself, or how well other people approve of you? If it's the latter, then you'd better find a way to make sure you are happy with yourself regardless of what other people think. Why do you have low self-esteem? Why aren't you confident? Meditate on these questions and make it your life's goal to address them. You are going nowhere until you're comfortable in your shell.

So just keep trying, but also try to understand why you are feeling the way you do and find a way to be satisfied with yourself. You can be the most attractive person in the room and go home alone if all the women that meet you end up thinking they're going to have to babysit you or teach you how to live life. You have to do these things for yourself, first.

[GinandJuice]

Originally Posted by Postal Blowfish

All you can ever do is try. What rules you more? How well you approve of yourself, or how well other people approve of you? If it's the latter, then you'd better find a way to make sure you are happy with yourself regardless of what other people think. Why do you have low self-esteem? Why aren't you confident? Meditate on these questions and make it your life's goal to address them. You are going nowhere until you're comfortable in your shell.

So just keep trying, but also try to understand why you are feeling the way you do and find a way to be satisfied with yourself. You can be the most attractive person in the room and go home alone if all the women that meet you end up thinking they're going to have to babysit you or teach you how to live life. You have to do these things for yourself, first.

thats sum good philosphy on life rite ther