im scared to be in a relationship

[RollinBallz]

because the last time i did, the girl that i love left me and went for my best friend...now im scared to be in relationship because im scared of that happening again....right now i could be in a relationship but then the only thing holding me back is fear of being left or cheated on again...=( any advice/feedback would be appreciated

[justawhiteguy]

choose friends you can trust or dont put too much trust in your peers. watch who you bring your lady friends around too.

[turnoffyourmind]

just go for it man. everybody's not the same, relationships aren't always going to have the same outcomes.

let me just say, your way of thinking about this situation is like saying because i hit a bowl once and got ash in my mouth, now i'm scared to ever hit a bowl again because i think every single time, i will get a mouth full of ash...not very good reasoning is it...

[RollinBallz]

Originally Posted by turnoffyourmind

just go for it man. everybody's not the same, relationships aren't always going to have the same outcomes.

let me just say, your way of thinking about this situation is like saying because i hit a bowl once and got ash in my mouth, now i'm scared to ever hit a bowl again because i think every single time, i will get a mouth full of ash...not very good reasoning is it...

yeah i know...but im just afraid of getting hurt again, u know?

[SleepyShoegazer]

Then suck it up, or be alone.

[iz88]

not to be cliche, but pain is what lets you know you're still kickin. There's only one way to find the love of your life, and that would be to love her. I went through a similar situation a while back, a new relationship really gave me the confidence to get over it, and move on.

Take it slow, give what you take. You don't have to throw yourself mind,heart, and body at every girl walking by til someone takes you. just be friends for a while and work into it. You'll figure it out. good luck dude

[thrice54]

You need to face that fear man! Take it like a man, being hurt can be a bitch, but that's not cool of your friend or your ex anyways so clearly you deserve better. Which means that some girl is going to want you. You just have to find her could be anyone and you'll never know unless you talk to them.

[dirtybongwaterr]

Originally Posted by RollinBallz

because the last time i did, the girl that i love left me and went for my best friend...now im scared to be in relationship because im scared of that happening again....right now i could be in a relationship but then the only thing holding me back is fear of being left or cheated on again...=( any advice/feedback would be appreciated

Well then I guess you're gonna be all alone for the rest of your life.


...My point is, stuff happens and you just have to keep moving forward. Get over your ex and these fears she instilled in you

[thrice54]

I missed the last part of what you said OP. I'm not even high just tired.
I'm kind of in a similar situation trying to get over an ex and have someone to move on to if I want to. I'm going to go for it though, because I know if I just brood over the past I wont be happy. Move on man and enjoy the new things life brings your way. A new relationship can be such a amazing trip full of so many kinds of natural highs and experiences.

No need to worry about the past. A lot of people are actually good don't allow one experience to destroy your faith in humanity.

[camcannabis2727]

Play the field, and when a really great girl comes around don't introduce her to your friend.

[Kaya girl]

You shouldn't be in a relationship unless you know its the right thing to do. Especially if you've been hurt before, you can sometimes hold onto that with someone new if you don't learn to forgive them. Personally, I feel like forgiveness is something that is essential to everyone's happiness and success in relationships. Now I don't mean forgive her and go after her again, I just mean if you have it in you to forgive her for your own good, it'll help you feel better about who you are, like you conquered it and it no longer will bother you and hold you back in this new potential relationship.
One more thing is that you can't expect that your new girl to do the same thing as your old one because then you'll always be preoccupied with checking up on them to make sure they're not gonna hurt you, and in turn that could hurt them cuz they won't feel like you trust them. You have to trust in someone in order to be in a relationship and if you talk it out, maybe it'll help you trust them more and you can get into another happy relationship and move on.

[Mutombo]

Same exact thing happened to me. I was bummer out for a few weeks but, got over it. I have no fear of getting into another relationship though. The way I think of it is that any future relationship couldn't end as badly as my last one and I'm being a lot more picky this time looking for a gf.

[Novek]

never love a girl more than she loves u.

[wattupyo]

Originally Posted by RollinBallz

because the last time i did, the girl that i love left me and went for my best friend...now im scared to be in relationship because im scared of that happening again....right now i could be in a relationship but then the only thing holding me back is fear of being left or cheated on again...=( any advice/feedback would be appreciated

I know exactly how you feel! I was only 16 when i started dating an 19 year old graduate. I was with him for almost a year and he was about to go to college out of state and promised to wait for me. He proposed and everything! *eye roll
we didn't last another month before i found out about the new girl

That was a long while ago, and i dreaded about it for a bit, but i got over it. I was 17, young, and dreading about a guy in a different state cheating on me. I even feel stupid thinking back at how long i let it hold me back.
I wish I would've realized sooner that just because one guy did that, doesn't mean all of them will. For you, just because one girl did that, doesn't mean they all will! You'll be happy you tried to get over it faster. the quicker you move on, the better, trust me.

[Malenki]

Originally Posted by RollinBallz

.right now i could be in a relationship

No you couldnt, not a good one, Your still thinking about this other bitch. The problem is the other bitch. Never ever let the other bitch win. Your letting her right now, she should be dead to you!!!

When I was in your situation, well it was a bad time. But I met the coolest angel then, shes my wife. That happened cause we both really wanted it.

My point is letting this other bitch effect you so much might make you miss that one bitch that you actually need.

So smoke one.

PS if you have a kid with the bitch then man up