help needed, especially from girls.

So there is a girl in my school that I really like, I tried once to go and have a talk with her, it was like half a year ago, but I rushed too much, by sitting next to her, and already asking her out and her number in like 3 minutes, she answered that we can see in school and stuff first, but I got so embarrased from that conv, that I never talked to her, because I was scared (I thought I had ruin everything, kinda embarrased I was). (im 21).

Now, half a year later she still goes into one of my classes and I still like her, and after the classes she sits alone on the sofa at school, which I think is a hint for me to go and sit next to her and talk with her, but I havent had the guts to do it

Always when I enter the classroom, I can read from her eyes, something like : "Oh, its him!" or similar... eyes tell alot... Problem is also that I dont know what she thinks... maybe she likes me? maybe she dont? maybe she is in love with me secretly ? She is very shy also, so she probably wouldnt never come to talk herself....

Now I found her FB, but I havent had the guts to add her, because maybe she will think im somekinda freak, for not daring to talk with her in class, and now looking her up on Internet, or maybe I am just paranoid... Dont know should I add her on FB, and start from there, or should I first go and try to talk to her at school....

Other plan of mine was that, next week we end our school course and we get to go to summer vacation, and I probably wont see her again this summer... so my idea was, maybe I should write to her on FB, after we end the course and spread up... like for example, ask her directly what she thinks of me and ask her would she be interested in me or not ?
I know its weird and sucks yes.

Sounds like your 15. Not 21

Sounds like your 15. Not 21

what would a 21 yr old do then ?

Dude, don't think of what can go wrong. Do this, and you certainly have a chance with the girl of your dreams.

Go sit next to her when she's alone, just force your body to go even if your mind is screaming no. Talk to her, about whatever, don't really matter. The point of it is to become her friend first, then later that day add her on fb and chat. Just put yourself in her life, cos right now you have no part in it, and in a week your window of opportunity will close. Summers a mad time, people always hook up.

She seems like a nice girl so she's not gonna blow you off if you say hi to her.

If you decide to do this, update please

Dude, don't think of what can go wrong. Do this, and you certainly have a chance with the girl of your dreams.

Go sit next to her when she's alone, just force your body to go even if your mind is screaming no. Talk to her, about whatever, don't really matter. The point of it is to become her friend first, then later that day add her on fb and chat. Just put yourself in her life, cos right now you have no part in it, and in a week your window of opportunity will close. Summers a mad time, people always hook up.

She seems like a nice girl so she's not gonna blow you off if you say hi to her.

If you decide to do this, update please

awsome response, thanks. Yes, she really is nice.

what would a 21 yr old do then ?

Balls up and try to accomplish ut before summer vac. why cant you see here then? And just the way you wrote the story

So whats stopping you from talking to her ? Aside from nerves ? Or is it just nerves ?

I'm 21 So i'm kinda interested in whats holding you back ? For me it's a bunch of shit. First of all i have light Asperger's syndrome. I got diagnosed as a child but i never got treatment because theirs not alot they can do for me. Plus if it goes on record people can use it against me said this doctor

I'm not good at communicating with people never have been. It's hard for me to talk to a 30 year old guy..... Let alone a hot chick. I also have alot of other shit going on. I'll stop rambling but my point is in the back off my mind i'm like ''Oh shit'' Even if she said yes i gotta explain how i managed to fuck up my life so badly.... yada yada yada you get my sad and pathetic tale.

What this is all leading to is this. I'm in a similar situation as you man. However i have no clue how long i've been creeping her out lol..... could even be a year by now. I'm at work she works their as well. I'm a cleaaner she works at red rooster. I don't know why i'm so obsessed with this chick but it pisses me off...... It's hard to explain. The good thing is she hasnt made a complaint or anything yet.... so i'm all good

However whats doing my head in the most... More than all this shit above ^ Is some times i can her looking my way lol. This is a total mind fuck for me because now i'm not even sure if she's looking at me to see if i'm looking at her (most likely) or she kinda likes me too. I seriously have no clue at this point and it's gone on for so long now going up and saying hi would be wierd as fuck. PLUS I DONT WANT SHIT TO GET UGLY allthough in that case i would deserve it

I seriously have no clue at this point and it's gone on for so long now going up and saying hi would be wierd as fuck.

dude, I feel excactly the same :S and whats stopping me from going to talk with her,besides what u mentioned,is my nerves and I guess paranoia, I mean, knowing that I have no idea what she thinks about me, makes me think weird stuff. for example, maybe she thinks im weird or a freak... im just thinking maybe I scared her off last time I tried to talk with her for the first time.... and now I shouldnt go and try anymore... but maybe its just in my mind.... I remember that after the first time I talked to her, later on I could see her with random guys sitting at school and chatting, just right when I showed up, perhaps she wanted me to make jealous ? because usually she is ALWAYS alone... and only after that I saw her with some other guys.... god damnit.

Edited by HelloFriend, 09 June 2012 - 12:39 PM.

dude, I feel excactly the same :S and whats stopping me from going to talk with her,besides what u mentioned,is my nerves and I guess paranoia, I mean, knowing that I have no idea what she thinks about me, makes me think weird stuff. for example, maybe she thinks im weird or a freak... im just thinking maybe I scared her off last time I tried to talk with her for the first time.... and now I shouldnt go and try anymore... but maybe its just in my mind.... I remember that after the first time I talked to her, later on I could see her with random guys sitting at school and chatting, just right when I showed up, perhaps she wanted me to make jealous ? because usually she is ALWAYS alone... and only after that I saw her with some other guys.... god damnit.

I Know it's easier said then done but just talk to her man. You seem like a pretty cool guy and you don't have the distractions that i do. You just gotta tell yourself you can do this. You Can do this !!! sounds lame but if it works. It's worth it.

I don't even have any friends dude truth be told. Had a falling out with them back in early 2011. My life is pretty complicated as you can tell by now. So that's why i'm so hesitant talking to people these days. I don't know how people would take it if i told them who i really am. But i KNOW they wouldn't like it

* didn't pass highschool
* smoke weed everyday
* no car or licence
* no friends

LOL pretty fucked up on papper. I cant even imagine how most chicks would react to me after hearing that. But whatever it is what it is. I made my bed and i'm lying in it.

My point is...... dont be like me allthough despite what i said i'm still a happy person and i work so i'm not a burden to tax payers lol

Edited by the cole phelps, 09 June 2012 - 01:08 PM.

I Know it's easier said then done but just talk to her man. You seem like a pretty cool guy and you don't have the distractions that i do. You just gotta tell yourself you can do this. You Can do this !!! sounds lame but if it works. It's worth it.

I don't even have any friends dude truth be told. Had a falling out with them back in early 2011. My life is pretty complicated as you can tell by now. So that's why i'm so hesitant talking to people these days. I don't know how people would take it if i told them who i really am. But i KNOW they wouldn't like it

thanks man

You are cultivating life time regret by not persuing her at all. You were way to forward b4, yes she makes you nervous. But you have to get your shit together, and make a small gesture (you already expressed interest) SHOW IT, DONT SAY IT.
A small gift, a book you just couldnt put down. Do something in context(better than what I just suggested) dont give her any reason to disrespect/ look down on you. Also consult close, non judgemental females in your life for better advice than mine. The girl of my dreams asked me out, but I couldnt say yes, lifelong regret sir.

Edited by Hanu, 09 June 2012 - 02:22 PM.
Spelling, sure its still off

Worst comes to the worst and she says no, if you don't speak up instead of regretting speaking to her you'll regret not speaking to her, suck it in and just be friendly with her and act yourself.

Get a little drunk you'll have so much confidence that you'll Definetly at LEAST get her number

You are cultivating life time regret by not persuing her at all. You were way to forward b4, yes she makes you nervous. But you have to get your shit together, and make a small gesture (you already expressed interest) SHOW IT, DONT SAY IT.
A small gift, a book you just couldnt put down. Do something in context(better than what I just suggested) dont give her any reason to disrespect/ look down on you. Also consult close, non judgemental females in your life for better advice than mine. The girl of my dreams asked me out, but I couldnt say yes, lifelong regret sir.

I know but it's so hard...... FUCK !!!!!!!!!

I should toke before going to talk with her and act like I havent smoked anything because sometimes weed makes me very social and gives me good ideas, I loose my fears and I will know instantly how to flirt. lol

Just talk to her IRL man! Then ask if she has a facebook and add her. You are over thinking this way too much.

If she digs you, you should be able to talk about ANYTHING.

I only read the first paragraph. Sorry.

Stop being scared of talking to a human being.

Just relax and go talk to her. It bugs me when people waste so much time with such trivial things. She will either like you, or she won't. The only thing you're losing right now is your time and sanity.

Man,you've done the hardest part,which is breaking the ice and you even managed to ask her out!

She didn't shut you down or deny you,she just doesn't know you well enough to go out with you atm.

That was basically an invite to get to know her better.

Do it now before it's too late and just don't think about it!

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.-Wayne Gretzky"-Michael Scott

I should toke before going to talk with her and act like I havent smoked anything because sometimes weed makes me very social and gives me good ideas, I loose my fears and I will know instantly how to flirt. lol

That's not always a good idea dude, sometimes it'S gonna make you even more paranoid

Yummybud, is that you?