Good Idea? Bad Idea? PARENTS READ!

mainframe · #1 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 03:40 AM

I love my dad alot, and I feel I can talk about a lot of things with him. I've smoked pot a few times before, but I kind of want to tell him. Should I ask him what he thinks about it? What should I do? I dont like having to keep secrets from him? Any suggestions from dad's or parents on this forum?

thanks

Bud Head · #2 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 04:04 AM

You know your dad, so what do you think he would say?

If we tell you to do it and he getsreally upset then what?

Only you can make that decission!

Give it some really good thought before you decide!

sensimil · #3 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 04:47 AM

well coming from a 22 year old... NOT a parent, NOT a dad...BUT, how old are you exa ctly? i mean...my dad kind of found out when I was about 17...then I kept it quiet...and recently...maybe 19 and on, he knew, but I no one ever said anything cause I was keeping my head on straight with school, work etc...then real recent, he just totally out knows..I started getting tired of hiding it so much.. I wear "legalize" shirts around the house, and Im high a lot around him...lol...but every situation is different..I mean *you really gotta think about what is reallyt going on...we only know so much...you know?
but thats my story and im sticking to it..

XxJWxX · #4 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 05:02 AM

Yeah go for it. Never know, he could be completely cool with it and maybe even let you grow

Harmonic · #5 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 05:44 AM

dude dont outright tell him! damn if you want him to find out, leave a pipe lyin around or somethin for him to "accidentally" find. dude, dont tell him.

XxJWxX · #6 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 06:18 AM

I disagree, its more mature to just straight up tell him. Dont take no for an answer. If anything he should respect the fact that you were honest with him, rather than him finding a pipe around thinking you were trying to hide it...He might take that offensively. Just be open with him.

D9_THC · #7 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 12:26 PM

I agree with XxJWxX...

Be honest with him. It sounds like you're quite open with him...

daiseyduked · #8 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 04:22 PM

how old are you? your age may make a difference but i think you should. tell him you didn't want to keep it from him and that you've only tried it. he'll respect that. i think you should go to him honestly. that's what parents want. they want to know what's goin on in your life. that's my opinion, i smoke so your dad could very easily be upset over this and maybe not. if you want to be honest with him do it.

good luck!

KB_124 · #9 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 04:37 PM

Dude, Im in the same situation.. Only it's my uncle i want to tell first. My Aunt and uncle have been like parents to me for as long as i remember. I dont live with them but we are really close. I hate keeping secrets from them. One time i was caught after I had a party with my dad gone. They just saw all the empties the next day when I was at school (fuckin cleaning lady came a day early and told them) They were a little disappointed but said that I learned my lesson. I didn't drink more than 3 or 4 times in the last year. Now I don't think I would have a problem telling them if it wasn't for the fact that I do horrible in school (even before I started smoking, I honestly don't think one has anything to do with the other) I think when I eventually do tell them, im going to just bring it up somehow and ask there opinions on it. I know that if i start talking about it they are going to know something's up, and probably just ask me. But im afraid I'll just get nervous and say no...ya know what I mean? Anyway I would say if you and your dad have an honest relationship and get along good, then keep it honest..But that's just my opinion, I don't know you dad.. Of coarse in some situations it's just better to let sleeping dogs lie.

elabrahamql · #10 (**permalink**) 10-04-2002, 06:01 PM

some parents prefer having their kids smoking safe at home, than having the possibility of getting caught by the pigs. (well, i would)

think about that, it`s just one of the many valid arguments you can discuss with him.

peace.

what`s ypur age again??

mainframe · #11 (**permalink**) 10-05-2002, 04:00 AM

Well...I'm only 15, and I've only tried it a few times, but I dislike keeping secrets from my dad and if I tell him that I want to try it, like people at school say its fun, I want to know his thoughts. Thanks for helping me out.

SmokeyDaMan · #12 (**permalink**) 10-05-2002, 04:11 AM

Hey,
I'd say bring it up non-shaulontly(however it's spelled). Be like yeah, "This kid came to school high" or "So and so was selling weed around town(but make up a name) if he laughs you might want to push towards it. But my case, I was with my friends last year and they were puffin cigs, which I deary hate cigs, it killed my grandmother and is killing my grandfather. I sprayed alot of calogne and he was like when he picked me up from their house "Damn your calogne is strong, you smell like smoke" I say "I wasn't smoking" which I wasnt and he gave me this warning:"Yeah you better not be smoking anything, otherwise you wont know the true meaning of punishment until then". Now dont get me wrong he is a good guy, not the abusive kind, but for some reason he sees smoking anything as a huge deal. So I decided not to tell hehehehe. Hope this enlightens your decision

later

genieadventures · #13 (**permalink**) 10-05-2002, 04:18 AM

I think the best thing to do is lay off telling him for a few years yet. You're still a kid at 15 and he may think that you still are young enough that pot may change your direction in life. I'd wait until you are 20or so before telling him(or at least out of schooling). Therefore you are no longer a kid but a young adult, a responsible adult who smokes POT!

I_Want_To_Grow · #14 (**permalink**) 10-05-2002, 06:26 AM

trust me man dont tell it sux when they know cuz they will see u high and talk shit like my mom always bugging me and my friends cuz we be wreeking and red eyed but i just tell her its a plant and i dun give a fuck. i used to get all A's now i get d's so i think weed does affect me i only day dream in school and think about smoking and stuff but its all good. and i dont know why u would just go tell them... u dont have to tell him everything, i mean.. . do u think he has told u everything he has done? hell no man if he lived in the 70s. dude was prolly on cain and shit and i bet he hasnt told u. i wouldnt let him find out till he just does some day. i know if i was a dad i wouldnt want a son that was such a pussy that he told on himself that he smoked. just my opinion though

Legalizeit · #15 (**permalink**) 10-05-2002, 07:52 PM

well, you know your father better than the rest of us.
but i personally would suggest telling him, but he may not like it.

and by the way, dont u have to be a certain age for this forum? i could be wrong eh

anyway, do what YOU think is right. i personally wouldn't let MY son smoke untill at least 16, because i am under the impression it is something you need to be responsible about, and since there is SO much responsibility, i think adding marijuana to the list of responsibilities is just too much untill you are older with a somewhat-steady job, doing well in school, other extra-curricular activities, and maybe bills to pay.

but whatever whatever, i dont even know you or your father, so ... i'm out

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#1 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 03:40 AM
mainframe Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 4	Good Idea? Bad Idea? PARENTS READ! I love my dad alot, and I feel I can talk about a lot of things with him. I've smoked pot a few times before, but I kind of want to tell him. Should I ask him what he thinks about it? What should I do? I dont like having to keep secrets from him? Any suggestions from dad's or parents on this forum? thanks

#2 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 04:04 AM
Bud Head Old School Stoner Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 10,792	You know your dad, so what do you think he would say? If we tell you to do it and he getsreally upset then what? Only you can make that decission! Give it some really good thought before you decide! __________________ If you can't own a John Deere, just get out of farming..

#3 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 04:47 AM
sensimil Visit the World! Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: 2,941 miles from the Jersey Shore Posts: 7,521	well coming from a 22 year old... NOT a parent, NOT a dad...BUT, how old are you exa ctly? i mean...my dad kind of found out when I was about 17...then I kept it quiet...and recently...maybe 19 and on, he knew, but I no one ever said anything cause I was keeping my head on straight with school, work etc...then real recent, he just totally out knows..I started getting tired of hiding it so much.. I wear "legalize" shirts around the house, and Im high a lot around him...lol...but every situation is different..I mean *you really gotta think about what is reallyt going on...we only know so much...you know? but thats my story and im sticking to it.. __________________

#4 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 05:02 AM
XxJWxX Old School Stoner Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,120	Yeah go for it. Never know, he could be completely cool with it and maybe even let you grow __________________ <font color=blue><b><i> Floatin in xTc..Waaht!

#5 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 05:44 AM
Harmonic Super Saiyan Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 119	dude dont outright tell him! damn if you want him to find out, leave a pipe lyin around or somethin for him to "accidentally" find. dude, dont tell him.

#6 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 06:18 AM
XxJWxX Old School Stoner Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,120	I disagree, its more mature to just straight up tell him. Dont take no for an answer. If anything he should respect the fact that you were honest with him, rather than him finding a pipe around thinking you were trying to hide it...He might take that offensively. Just be open with him. __________________ <font color=blue><b><i> Floatin in xTc..Waaht!

#7 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 12:26 PM
D9_THC Old School Stoner Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Aldershot, Hampshire, UK Posts: 2,010	I agree with XxJWxX... Be honest with him. It sounds like you're quite open with him... __________________ The anti-marijuana campaign is a cancerous tissue of lies, undermining law enforcement, aggravating the drug problem, depriving the sick of needed help, and suckering well-intentioned conservatives and countless fightened parents. -William F Buckley

#8 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 04:22 PM
daiseyduked *potpixie* Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Canadian Superstar Stoner Posts: 1,915	how old are you? your age may make a difference but i think you should. tell him you didn't want to keep it from him and that you've only tried it. he'll respect that. i think you should go to him honestly. that's what parents want. they want to know what's goin on in your life. that's my opinion, i smoke so your dad could very easily be upset over this and maybe not. if you want to be honest with him do it. good luck! __________________ The most beautiful experience we can have is the mystical,it is the power of true art and science - Albert Einstein Peace will come when each of us goes within,and realizes that we are all equal aspects of God;then we can all sit together in harmony - A Spiritual Warrior

#9 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 04:37 PM
KB_124 Old School Stoner Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,682	Dude, Im in the same situation.. Only it's my uncle i want to tell first. My Aunt and uncle have been like parents to me for as long as i remember. I dont live with them but we are really close. I hate keeping secrets from them. One time i was caught after I had a party with my dad gone. They just saw all the empties the next day when I was at school (fuckin cleaning lady came a day early and told them) They were a little disappointed but said that I learned my lesson. I didn't drink more than 3 or 4 times in the last year. Now I don't think I would have a problem telling them if it wasn't for the fact that I do horrible in school (even before I started smoking, I honestly don't think one has anything to do with the other) I think when I eventually do tell them, im going to just bring it up somehow and ask there opinions on it. I know that if i start talking about it they are going to know something's up, and probably just ask me. But im afraid I'll just get nervous and say no...ya know what I mean? Anyway I would say if you and your dad have an honest relationship and get along good, then keep it honest..But that's just my opinion, I don't know you dad.. Of coarse in some situations it's just better to let sleeping dogs lie. __________________ Last edited by KB_124; 11-02-2003 at 03:50 AM.

#10 (permalink) 10-04-2002, 06:01 PM
elabrahamql this is my brain in drugs Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 150	some parents prefer having their kids smoking safe at home, than having the possibility of getting caught by the pigs. (well, i would) think about that, it`s just one of the many valid arguments you can discuss with him. peace. what`s ypur age again?? __________________ en el cielo no venden cawamas!!! en el cielo no venden cawamas!!! pura marihuana, pura marihuana pura marihuana para ser feliz!!! (cantar al tono de la virgen de guadalupe)

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#11 (permalink) 10-05-2002, 04:00 AM
mainframe Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 4	Well...I'm only 15, and I've only tried it a few times, but I dislike keeping secrets from my dad and if I tell him that I want to try it, like people at school say its fun, I want to know his thoughts. Thanks for helping me out.

#12 (permalink) 10-05-2002, 04:11 AM
SmokeyDaMan ONLY YOU can hit my bowl! Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 107	Hey, I'd say bring it up non-shaulontly(however it's spelled). Be like yeah, "This kid came to school high" or "So and so was selling weed around town(but make up a name) if he laughs you might want to push towards it. But my case, I was with my friends last year and they were puffin cigs, which I deary hate cigs, it killed my grandmother and is killing my grandfather. I sprayed alot of calogne and he was like when he picked me up from their house "Damn your calogne is strong, you smell like smoke" I say "I wasn't smoking" which I wasnt and he gave me this warning:"Yeah you better not be smoking anything, otherwise you wont know the true meaning of punishment until then". Now dont get me wrong he is a good guy, not the abusive kind, but for some reason he sees smoking anything as a huge deal. So I decided not to tell hehehehe. Hope this enlightens your decision later

#13 (permalink) 10-05-2002, 04:18 AM
genieadventures Swollen Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 90	I think the best thing to do is lay off telling him for a few years yet. You're still a kid at 15 and he may think that you still are young enough that pot may change your direction in life. I'd wait until you are 20or so before telling him(or at least out of schooling). Therefore you are no longer a kid but a young adult, a responsible adult who smokes POT! __________________ hello mr. cannibus, I'm THC 00=<

#14 (permalink) 10-05-2002, 06:26 AM
I_Want_To_Grow Banned Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 137	dont tell! trust me man dont tell it sux when they know cuz they will see u high and talk shit like my mom always bugging me and my friends cuz we be wreeking and red eyed but i just tell her its a plant and i dun give a fuck. i used to get all A's now i get d's so i think weed does affect me i only day dream in school and think about smoking and stuff but its all good. and i dont know why u would just go tell them... u dont have to tell him everything, i mean.. . do u think he has told u everything he has done? hell no man if he lived in the 70s. dude was prolly on cain and shit and i bet he hasnt told u. i wouldnt let him find out till he just does some day. i know if i was a dad i wouldnt want a son that was such a pussy that he told on himself that he smoked. just my opinion though

#15 (permalink) 10-05-2002, 07:52 PM
Legalizeit True O.G. playa Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 79	well, you know your father better than the rest of us. but i personally would suggest telling him, but he may not like it. and by the way, dont u have to be a certain age for this forum? i could be wrong eh anyway, do what YOU think is right. i personally wouldn't let MY son smoke untill at least 16, because i am under the impression it is something you need to be responsible about, and since there is SO much responsibility, i think adding marijuana to the list of responsibilities is just too much untill you are older with a somewhat-steady job, doing well in school, other extra-curricular activities, and maybe bills to pay. but whatever whatever, i dont even know you or your father, so ... i'm out __________________ on dogs, shit done changed... ~~ And I'm down with the shit too But the stupid motherfuckers wanna try to use Kung-Fu Instead of a Mac-10 he tried scrappin Slugs in his back and, that's what the fuck happens when you sleep on the street Little motherfuckers with heat, want ta leave a ***** six feet deep And we comin to the wake To make sure the cryin and commotion ain't a motherfuckin fake