Lost a good friend over weed

[Nugs]

Last year when I started college, I met a really good friend, C. Me and C would chill all the time and blaze up until about Christmas this year. At that point, he stopped talking to me me completely, and I was baffled by it. He started hanging out with a completely new group of friends. I thought it was because of lacrosse season, but then I heard friends of mine telling me that he stopped talking to me because I smoked weed, and he stopped. I have asked him about it a couple times and he's beaten around the bush and said things like "It's not a big deal" or "It's just not what I want to be doing right now".

I totally respect if he wanted to stop smoking, but I have no idea why we stopped being friends. In the past few months, I've tried extra hard to be nice to him whenever I see him and avoid talking about weed completely. I ask if he wants to hang out and he just says he's busy every single time. He just shrugs me off and says the minimum amount of things he has to say. I really want to yell at him, but I just stay calm and act like it's cool.

Overall I'm just really mad/sad about it. I know for sure that weed is the only reason he doesn't like me anymore, but I'm willing to hang out with him and not smoke and do other things. Another good friend of mine, N, recently started a long tolerance break and told C that he quit. C had also been ignoring N in the last few months because he smokes too, but all of a sudden since he heard he quit, he started being all buddy-buddy with him again. I'm going to confront him the next chance I get once and for all and settle it though, I need to know what the deal is with him or else move on.

Nothing life changing, but it pisses me off, he was a good friend of mine. Has anyone else has similar experiences where someone changed their view of weed forever and started giving you the cold shoulder?

[thatcrazydude]

make em some brownies if ya know what i mean, but that sucks man some people are jsut ignorant like that

[Anony]

I disagree.
Sounds like you need to approach him very calmly and friendly and say this;

"I'm willing to hang out with him and not smoke and do other things."

Maybe he doesnt know this unless you say something?

Otherwise maybe hanging out with you just reminds him about smoking, or is worried youll offer it to him, in which case would be sad considering it sounds like your willing not to do either of those things.

I had to drop a friend when i quit smoking last year because he would always ALWAYS offer it to me even though he knew I quit. Sad, but had to do what I had to do as my will power fades sometimes.

[keef420]

bro the same exact thing happened to me..


me and my best friend for like 7 or 8 years ago just lost all connection to each other

a year or 2 ago we were chillin and shit and i went home after smoking w/ him

i get home and get on aim and instant message him and talk to him and tell him that i was still pretty baked from when we had smoked and then got into us talkin about gettin xanax and adderall and shit

and so we get done talking and idk if u guys know that this is an option in most versions of aim but you can see the conversations that you previoussly had with someone when they instant message you even if thye xx'ed out of it


well one day after school i im'ed him to see what is up




and his mom was on the comp.

and all of the recent convos had popped up and she read it all...

everything you can imagine she had read!



so then next thing you know he isnt on my myspace anymore b/c he was like #2 on my top friends and so i figured that he deleted me which was true

his mom made him delete me on his myspace, aim, and phone

(watched him and made sure he did!)


called my parents and said what we had been tlkaing about and doing


then talked to me about how drugs are bad and how i am going to be a loser with no money ever b/c i would have to spend it all on my addiction


and all i say is yea uh huh b/c i dont want to argue with her



and so next thing you know my best friend started hanging out w/ all of these weird ass straight ass kids


and completely ignored every attempt of mine to talk to him

idk what his mom did but it pisses me off how one day someone can be the bestest of friends and then the next be enemies and avoid each other...


i mean i can hang out w/ out smoking weed or doing any drugs in that case


so yea..


pretty much i see him once in a while and say whats up


nothing real long..


and yea i just get so many memories whenever i see him b/c we used to do everything together

we even started smokin weed, drinking, and rolling together


8 years

and then all of it is gone

just b/c of one BITCH!!!!!!!!

[What'sThatSmell]

There is no way you can convince him to hang out with you while still smoking weed, unless you do it without him knowing.

Some people get so anal about getting a 'fresh start' to a new life for them self they're willing to do just about anything, even throwing away friends.

[Nugs]

Yeah, my friend comes from a closely knit family too, I could see his mom doind that to him too. haha.

[keef420]

well he used to be tight as fuck about drugs, etc.

i just dont know what his mom did that he cant hang out with me at all now.

and it sucks why just throw away good friends like they are garbage...


shit sucks..
but o well i cant really do anything

[Nugs]

I also heard he drinks a lot now instead of smoking, which is the most hypocritical thing you could do.

[keef420]

hah yea lol...


my parents are like that..


dont drink and smoke but my mom used to smoke all the damkn time and my dad is still a drunk

lol.

[tylerdurden1991]

Originally Posted by keef420

bro the same exact thing happened to me..


me and my best friend for like 7 or 8 years ago just lost all connection to each other

a year or 2 ago we were chillin and shit and i went home after smoking w/ him

i get home and get on aim and instant message him and talk to him and tell him that i was still pretty baked from when we had smoked and then got into us talkin about gettin xanax and adderall and shit

and so we get done talking and idk if u guys know that this is an option in most versions of aim but you can see the conversations that you previoussly had with someone when they instant message you even if thye xx'ed out of it


well one day after school i im'ed him to see what is up




and his mom was on the comp.

and all of the recent convos had popped up and she read it all...

everything you can imagine she had read!



so then next thing you know he isnt on my myspace anymore b/c he was like #2 on my top friends and so i figured that he deleted me which was true

his mom made him delete me on his myspace, aim, and phone

(watched him and made sure he did!)


called my parents and said what we had been tlkaing about and doing


then talked to me about how drugs are bad and how i am going to be a loser with no money ever b/c i would have to spend it all on my addiction


and all i say is yea uh huh b/c i dont want to argue with her



and so next thing you know my best friend started hanging out w/ all of these weird ass straight ass kids


and completely ignored every attempt of mine to talk to him

idk what his mom did but it pisses me off how one day someone can be the bestest of friends and then the next be enemies and avoid each other...


i mean i can hang out w/ out smoking weed or doing any drugs in that case


so yea..


pretty much i see him once in a while and say whats up


nothing real long..


and yea i just get so many memories whenever i see him b/c we used to do everything together

we even started smokin weed, drinking, and rolling together


8 years

and then all of it is gone

just b/c of one BITCH!!!!!!!!

you and your friend sound alot like me and this kid ive known since pre K y'know
smoked tour first bowls together and shit like that
but one day we got caught by mom and shit and i was like oh fucking shit im never gonna get to go outside again and shit

and to my surprise my mom was completely cool. i swear to God i went from scared shitless to the happiest and the most shocked i think ive ever been
but i got lucky

i hope your friends mom removes whatever shoved up her ass

im noone to give advice but if it was me i would just tell him i know your mom doesn't like me man but i dont want to lose touch so if you have to like pretend you dont know me to your parents and shit thats cool but when you move out or at school dont be a douche

[keef420]

yea thanks bro..



but his mom is one of those people that actually believe those bullshit commercials and the media avbout drugs and shit and thinks that her son is gonna end up like that

which is complete BULLSHIT

lol

but yea i have tried that but for some reason he just walks away or makes up a stupid as excuse on why he canty tlka to me


his mom brainwashed him

[LegitBaller]

OP, your old 'friend' sounds like a real douche, i say forget 'em man. get some new real friends and have a great time living your life, and show this kid how you're having a blast gettin' high without his ignorant ass. if you let him know its affecting you, your just falling into his trap, reverse it and he'll be the one posting on an internet forum why he lost a friend to pure ignorance.

[keef420]

yea..that what i try saying most of the time..

and i have been partyin my ass off...

lol

[WEEZYx420]

I lost a friend from weed before. This was back in 8th or 9th grade. I am now graduated and been graduated since 2006. But I know the dude is still around, I don't know if I should try talking to him.