Nervous around girls....

[SuburbanKMK101]

Originally Posted by ZergRush

....lol @ this thread.

lol @ at cho face, muttthaffuckaa..hahah..im high..whats up zerg?

[hurricaneMIKE]

Hah. I'm sooo fucking chill talking to girls. Its like... almost entertaining to me. Its fun having conversations with different ones, seeing what works on who, and what to say and what not to say.

Once you've figured a couple out, you'll know what to use when you try to talk to her friends and whatnot, because she more or less thinks pretty much like them. I'm just generally a funny motherfucker, and i can make them laugh. But my problem used to be i made them laugh too much. They just thought of me as that "funny guy-friend". So I had to tone it down some. When I'm interested in a girl now, I let it be known. I act more 'sensitive' towards them. I'm not afraid of showing my feelings to these girls, because they tend to think of it as "sexy" when they see that you're vulnerable and have feelings and emotions as well. Then its all up to if you dont fuck it up too quickly, or at all.....

[darkshade619]

I would honestly tell you just to act like yourself. Don't feed her any bullshit, don't get nervous and think of her as anything other than just another person you're sitting there talking to. If you're a little shy, she may like it. Or she may not. Either way, just try again. Keep letting her know what it is about you that she would like. Every girl is different, so the same strategy isn't going to work on every one of them, but you'll have more luck if you're just real with them.

[4ction]

Don't resort on using drugs to bring you confidence... eventually it will worsen your condition.

If you're at a party just get a good buzz going but I'd advise against getting hammered and having your go at chicks because you need to develop that 'base' from which to talk to girls. If you can only hook up hammered, then it might be more difficult to hook up sober or keep a cool conversation flowing. My theory anyway.

I like that 3-second rule i gotta try that.

[funk420]

Just tell ur self that u are a good man and dont look for it--it comes to youlol

courage bro---its just a women--there wants and needs are the same as ours. sooner or later u will be having a fling with 3 or 4 diffrent girls just to get out your aggresions--its fun as hell too..lol

[Demonballer]

I had this problem for a while also. Then I took some psychology classes a few years back and that gave me a much better understanding of how peoples minds work and how to manipulate conversations and there responses to ones of my liking.

[sometimesitrip]

I fucking love girls. When they come in my work I always end up talking with them more than guys a lot of times. Just be yourself, confident and funny and theyll wanna hang out/talk to you. Also doing drugs can wicked increase your confidence, uppers are the best id say (if there on them too its even better) but just dont be too obnoxious and rely on them all the time. And the 3 second thing and picturing them naked sound like good ideas to me, that way youll want to get some ass and will want to talk to them even more.

[metalstonerking]

used to have the same problem

Talk to them, like you would anyone else

They;re normal and human just like you

Add in little bits about your talents and hobbies, but not too much

Just see what they're what up

When the nights over, get her number so you can hang out sometime

wait until the next weekend, or maybe a day before, and call her up to make some plans

You'll get it man, practice

[bigtee212]

Originally Posted by Eyes

I'm sort of like that. I'm fine around anybody, I act natural, but whenever a girl attracts my attention for some reason (being smart, funny, beautiful etc.) I don't know what to say. Or, I make a complete ass of myself.

ya dude its like that for me. im fine around guys of course, i have a few friends that are girls and im cool not nervous at all around them, and in a class i can chat with a chick fine, but if theres a girl around in a class or what not that i dig i turn into a nervous ass and really act like a fool

[Ars moriendi]

Originally Posted by 4ction

Don't resort on using drugs to bring you confidence... eventually it will worsen your condition.

If you're at a party just get a good buzz going but I'd advise against getting hammered and having your go at chicks because you need to develop that 'base' from which to talk to girls. If you can only hook up hammered, then it might be more difficult to hook up sober or keep a cool conversation flowing. My theory anyway.

I like that 3-second rule i gotta try that.

thats bullshit

unless your an addict by nature showing yourself a side you were afraid you lacked is all it takes to do it naturally

if you get a helping hand your body will adjust to that output on it's own by the simple fact that you know you can

[cant hang]

Originally Posted by -mu

Get some practice. Use the "three second rule"... You see a girl, ANY GIRL you like, and you walk up to her, and say "Hi". Just like that. Don't wait, don't pause, you have three seconds. Practice on loads of girls, everywhere you go. It doesn't matter if you crash and burn, or get a slap in the face (better!), it's just fun, and there's nothing to lose.

DO NOT USE DRUGS OR ALCOHOL TO IMPROVE CONFIDENCE! It's a short-term strategy that usually ends up back-firing in some way. Save the weed for when you get her home.

It's a game, yes. I've always been naturally good at it; I can chat away like they were my sister or a life-long friend (droping subtle hint, here). It's a confidence thing. Practice gets you that.

This isn't the place to get help, really. But there are some places you might find very useful. Like here...

http://www.fastseduction.com/

-mu

that site is complete bull lol

[AndyPL]

Here's my excellent advice on talking to girls.

Hanging out (and doing other fun things *wink wink*) with girls shouldn't be some challenge that you have to overcome. Don't feel you have to be out to impress them. Girls are great and fun to be with in all sorts of ways. You just need to relax!

Think about your guy friends who you hang out with. When you see them, are you thinking about how should impress them and show them you're cool? Of course not, you just relax and go with the flow! Same with girls, you don't need to get your "game on", just be natural. Some girls become friends, some become more. If you try and force it, nothing'll ever happen.

Even if at first you stumble with your words and come off like a dork... don't sweat it! Learn to laugh at yourself a bit. Just remember that you don't really need to impress anyone. If you can be comfortable with the very fact that you're a shy guy who's no good with the ladies (or at least perceive yourself that way) and stop seeing it as a problem that needs a solution, you'll learn to relax and good things will happen!

And remember, in every man hides a player

EDIT: Also sorry but taking drugs in order to improve your chances with girls is just terrible advice, for obvious reasons.

[wd2006]

I guess the problem is that I dont really know any girls also, I guess in class I can use the advice I get from the sites to stop thinking of them as some kind of thing and just like people. But its hard, because the mind and body react diffrently. My mind wants to be calm but sometimes I feel nervousness and anxious feelings.

I guess saying Hi to girls will probably be very scary and make me scared but is that what I have to do?

Do i have to try and talk to random women and say hi to them or try and talk to them in class in school.

Because other than class there is no other place that I can talk to women and not look like I am hitting on them. My friends dont know any girls.

[-mu]

You don't get it. Women WANT you to be hitting on them. They expect it. If some girl catches your eye, and you hers, and you do NOTHING, she goes home thinking "What's wrong with me?", or perhaps, "what was wrong with him?". Even if she's not interested, she'll probably still be a little flattered.

What they don't like is some creep hitting on them for the sole purpose of sticking his penis in her; she wants that too, just not as reason #1. If you can let her see your funny/sensitive/creative/true side, whilst at the same time, projecting your inner alpha male, you've got it made. You have lots to offer; no need to be bashful. Sure, some women like guys to be a bit shy, but mostly they want to see your strength, wherever it may lie.

And take a look outside, bro! They're everywhere! In the streets, at shopping malls, parks, swimming pools, beaches, leisure centres, offices, drama clubs, pool halls, everywhere! You have three seconds!

-mu

[WookiesAreCool]

I have the same problem, but that's why I'm going to a school with a population of 25 thousand, that's like 12 thousand girls I can practice this shit with.