Got caught for blazing, my life is literally over, advice and help needed.

Alright, so basically i have been burning for the last 3.5 years and i have been caught twice before and of course took the punishment for that. I was grounded all of last summer after they found my 2g's and pipe in my bathroom underneath the sink, the time before was back in grade 10, i left my fb on and they read through my posts and msgs and found out i burned.

Anyways, so yesterday my dad said he was going out of town and would be staying over night. Heres the bad part, i had to watch over my little sister which i do all the time, so she was just watching tv and what not. I take very good care of her, made sure she was fed, and etc. Anyways, so i thought since id be home alone why not take the opportunity to blaze with some friends. It was like 8 so i called up so friends, and we started burning the kush in my garage. Their was about 5 guys and i, burning from a pipe and some joints. Anyyways, its like 9ish and next thing you know my friends like yo, some car just pulled up in the drive way. I go inside to see its my dad and IM LIKE OMG WTF IM DEAD. i tell the guys to dip from the backyard, so they hop the fence but 3 of them just take the gate like dumbasses, and my dad sees them. He questions them and they go. He comes inside, smells the garage looks at my eyes, smells me... and thats when it all goes wrong.

He was very very upset, like beyond upset especially thinking of it like this. I'm from Bangladesh, 18 year old girl, it is socially unacceptable for females in our culture to do exactly what im doing. My dad didnt grow up in Canada, and so he has this mentality different then parents of this western culture. Anyways, so he rages and goes straight for me, as in he pulls my hair throws me to the ground and says do you have no shame. He of course was very upset and usually subdues to physical anger. He questioned me on how i payed for these drugs, several times calling me a drug addict, and insisting i have no shame. He then went to the living room and was about to smash my laptop but my little sister screamed and pleaded for him to stop. She then hid the laptop in her room. He then proceeded to break a glass and then beat me some more. ( he doesnt beat mee all the time, only if i really fuck up) Anyways, so im mother fucking stoned, in quite a bit of pain, and hes just yelling his ass of telling me im a peice of shit and what not. So he goes outside to find those kids, and i was like shit i need to hide or else thigns good get worse. I hide in my sisters room under the bed. He goes looking for me all over the house and its an hour before he finds me. He then pulls me by the hair and says starts sayign i need to get out of the house, tonight. He cools off a little and tells me to instead clean my entire room right now because it looks like the room of a drug addict.

My little sister this whole time at this point is screaming and crying and all the violence she just saw, and is sitting in my room pleading for my dad to stop hitting me. He comes into my rooms and breaks my mirror and tells me to clean it up as well as my whole room. He then takes a hanger and hits me a little bit more, and then starts hitting the fan in my room. My little sister was going to call 911, as she said ' im going to call 911' my dad takes the phone, steps on it and smashes it saying dont ever say your going to call 911 or this is what will happen. So i continue to clean my room, and he is asking for my cellphone. I told him i didnt have it when i really did, because i knew if i gave it to him he would smash it to pieces. I went to bed, and my mom came home. Shes aware i blaze and isn't upset about it and says shell try to deal with the mess and to just give my dad time to cool off. She says im dumb for doing it in the house, and i agreed. So anyways today my dad cancelled my cellphone, cancelled my gym membership and refuses to pay for anything of mine anymore. I'm an A student, 90's in all my classes which are the sciences and maths and ive been accepted to university and suppose to be going in the fall. He refuses to pay for my university anymore and is contemplating not sending me because he believes im a drug addict.

I feel pretty miserable because i feel all of this is well deserved, especially the fact im burning in the house while my little sister was around whom is 9. Im grounded until furthur notice (months and months) and confined within my room. I am not allowed to come downstairs when my dad is around so.... yeah.

All in all, what can i do guys, ive worked so hard to build up the trust i broke with my parents from the previous time i got caught. My dad just doesn't understand that weed i'snt effecting my life negatively at all and that at the end of the day i won't stop. The only thing i can do is be more cautious and never blaze in my house again but like im literally miserable. Its me senior year and now i wont be able to enjoy it anymore especially with what has happened. If i apologize itll be dumb because its my 3rd time getting caught... so wtf can i do ..

Edited by suner52, 19 May 2012 - 05:00 AM.

your dad is a prick

Shit I would just call the cops next time he does that, a grown man shouldn't beat his daughter, I don't give a fuck where you're from, how you're raised, or any of that. I don't even care that its family, its not like you can fight back, and its not like you fucked up really, I mean seriously its just some ganja.

Teach him Western culture, get a friend to beat his ass and say thats what happens when you hit a woman.

I would start things off by not smoking weed

dont smoke in your house and you wont get caught if your smart. also your dad shouldn't be beating you you need to tell your mom or someone else about that. also you should really think about whether its actually worth it to smoke if you could potentially get hurt if your caught

Your dad's fucking crazy..

Weed is not the issue. Your abusive father is. A father should never lay anything but a loving hand on their child. Get help. Report this to the police. Take pictures of your bruises for evidence of this beating.

If you wanna make sure your sister is taken care of, you will find a way out for you two to get out. Don't justify his actions. He is WRONG. Get help.

If i were you i would put a hit out for him.

^ Trust me, Dr. Cooper knows his shit, this man is a man of SCIENCE.

If you can't tell the cops tell a school counselor, do you guys have those in Canada? The ones at my school were really "about that action" and would go out of their way to help alot of kids.

^ Trust me, Dr. Cooper knows his shit, this man is a man of SCIENCE.

If you can't tell the cops tell a school counselor, do you guys have those in Canada? The ones at my school were really "about that action" and would go out of their way to help alot of kids.

Thanks dissect . This shit shouldn't fly.

It will only continue, and by hiding it and protecting him, you are allowing it to continue. Every bruise on your sister.

School councelor would be a good place to start. Not as scary as the police. They will take care of you.

Get the fuck off this site minor.

i'm 18.






And to everyone else, like honestly i know this is crazy but he's really not abusive and he doesn't hit me like this whats so ever. He only does so when i really really fuck up, and to him smoking weed in the house is the biggest fuck up. The last time he reacted like this was when he found my 2g's and a pipe, or when i threw a party in the house and he came home. Which i feel are all well deserved i guess. Oh and he has never beaten my little sister that was a typo!! i meant to say me not her*

listen to DSC. get help asap.

i'm 18.






And to everyone else, like honestly i know this is crazy but he's really not abusive and he doesn't hit me like this whats so ever. He only does so when i really really fuck up, and to him smoking weed in the house is the biggest fuck up. The last time he reacted like this was when he found my 2g's and a pipe, or when i threw a party in the house and he came home. Which i feel are all well deserved i guess.

doesn't matter. there's no excuse to hit your child. at all. not even a little bit if they "fuck up."

don't stand for that shit. i had an abusive father and i haven't spoken to him in 7 years, fuck that guy. seriously don't overlook this.

As for the action you should take, I would have agree with Sheldon.
Going to your schools counselor is a good start.
Someone should really fuck your shit stain of a father up until he learns a thing or two about respect.

Edited by validtoker, 19 May 2012 - 05:11 AM.

No son or daughter ever deserves to be hit. Period. You are justifying his abuse.

By ignoring this, you are the direct cause of his future actions. Emphasis on future.

Weed is not the issue. Your abusive father is. A father should never lay anything but a loving hand on their child. Get help. Report this to the police. Take pictures of your bruises for evidence of this beating.

If you wanna make sure your sister is taken care of, you will find a way out for you two to get out. Don't justify his actions. He is WRONG. Get help.

This is totally right, do not let him get away with it. It is wrong for a adult to hit their kids, I could never do it to them. I mean where is the saying unconditional love come into play??

As for the action you should take, I would have agree with Sheldon.
Going to your schools counselor is a good start. Someone should really fuck your shit stain of a father up until he learns a thing or two about respect.

Everyone;s saying this but at the same time i would also have to tell the school counselor that he was upset because i was smoking weed, which is illegal and the school counselor would then think im fucked up. I honestly dont feel like hes abusive, hes given me everything i've ever wanted and treats me really well, he was just overly upset. If for instance i did take legal action, things would be horrible he is the sole provider of our family and makes a fairly high income. He has to pay for my older sisters university tuition, my tuition costs and etc, so i feel reporting him to anyone would be unjust for our family and such. I just don't feel like it would be right. At the end of the day i only blame myself.

Ya know, I understand a little spanking or something like that, its not that bad.

But when a guy pulls you by your hair, smashes a phone and your mirror, that is actually abuse. You didn't deserve it, and what if it gets worse for your sister? Think about that.

And whats up with women always blaming themselves? Woman up! If you don't want him in legal trouble talk to him about it.

Edit: And counselors understand kids smoking weed, trust me lol and they know it doesn't justify violence.

Edited by Dissec, 19 May 2012 - 05:15 AM.

If your life is literally over..... how are you posting?


Fuckin ghosts and shit

If your life is literally over..... how are you posting?


Fuckin ghosts and shit

i lol'd

and yeah, your counselor isn't going to care that you're smoking weed. being a counselor they should understand that it's normal for teenagers to be experimenting with drugs. i'm pretty sure they aren't going to disregard your dad's abuse because of it. actually, i'm 100% positive it wouldn't matter. completely irrelevant.