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KraziHare · #16 (**permalink**) 10-28-2002, 12:26 PM

StonieJo, Just about everything I wanted to say to you about this has already been said, but perhaps i can still lend a different perspective. I'm not a father, but I remember being in a similar situation to your sons. My father married multiple times and had at least 7 kids altogether (possibly more, I was the second, my sister the first). Well, though I've never actually met my father there were times when I wanted very badly to go meet my half-brothers and sisters. I was sure they would like me and care about me like those in my immediate family. I was really, really wrong. I went to one of my stepmother's house and the enviroment alone was foreign and scary to me. It didn't take me long to realize that these weren't people I wanted to be around. They were abusive, mean, and more than willing to take advantage of me (I was always quite gullible). I don't know how much this information might help you but I have the feeling that your sons are in a similar situation. As unpleasant as my experiences with these people were I kept going back, giving them chances they didn't deserve. I'm not saying you should step in and neglect them their father, in fact I've always had the feeling that I would be a much more 'together' person if my dad had had any kind of positive influence on my life. You might just want to rethink this if it doesn't get any better. As for child support, my dad never sent a penny to my mother until he died from a heroine overdose (sad, no?). Don't expect your ex to send anything if he hasn't already. You should take action, listen to Cowboy and look up any local (or national) agencies that can help you. Most of them are non-for profit and will be more than happy to rip your ex a new one (in the legal sense

) Good luck and good karma (whichever's more important to you, or both)

stonie jo · #17 (**permalink**) 10-28-2002, 07:51 PM

.......update? Nothin' new really. School's in now and things have settled down, considerably. #2 managed to get himself (and me basically) on probation for two years. After his last visit with the probation officer, I don't have to worry about them goin to thier dads. He told me I am NOT to let them go there because some of the things #2 told him proves that they could be in danger. That took care of itself. #2 has improved alot on his behavior, especially at school. Of course having the probation officer ready to cart him off to juvy has inspired that, I think. #1 has been slacking on his grades - he's gettin' ready to get his computer, phone priveleges, and general life - GANKED!!!! Damn that boy!!! #3 is still my sweet little angel baby!! He's my good little boy!!! NOT!!!!! You should hear him when he thinks I'm not listening!!

critter · #18 (**permalink**) 10-11-2003, 11:34 AM

pompus ass here really but l banned myself.lol.So whats the story 12 months on my friend.l really like you

stonie jo · #19 (**permalink**) 10-11-2003, 06:11 PM

HA!! 30 pounds later.............(fat not pot)

I love them boys and they love me.

That's all I got- and none of you can have it - it's all mine!!

Hee, hee, heee!!!

SereneSmoker · #20 (**permalink**) 10-17-2003, 04:30 PM

I know its none of my business, but I is good to hear that you have everything in order Jo, may good karma come your way. I know how it is to have a family that considers you not a member of the family.

stonie jo · #21 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 05:48 AM

My family started gettin' all wierd like 5 or 6 years ago. I used to be, like the black sheep. Now, it turns out, I ain't all that bad! It's really wierd.

eatinbyaretic · #22 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 05:50 AM

from what ive read about you jo, you seem like a tight parent, i wish my dad would have been a lil more like you. maybe we wouldnt be at eachothers throats these days

stonie jo · #23 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 06:02 AM

Actually it seems like I'm bitchin' at the boys about somethin' all the time. If I don't watch it they are playin' me before I know it. It's the parents curse. My mother cursed me, I have cursed my boys. You know the "I hope you have 10 that act just like you". So far so good. They were generally pretty good kids up to the teen years. 15, 12 and 7. The youngest boy is pretty mellow so far. It's still early, yet!

eatinbyaretic · #24 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 06:10 AM

with the good parental abilities it seems you have they will turn out wonderfully. the only reason it would sound like your bitchin is cuz ive heard some of the stuff you said from my own parents. My mom had me when she was 16, so im kinda glad i dont have any kids yet, cuz it was hard growing up, bein 7 and worring about if im gonna get some grub in my stomach

stonie jo · #25 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 06:23 AM

(Change of Avatar!!)

Sounds like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders. Your parents had to have done something right. You'll find you will continue to drive each other crazy all the time. It's 'cause you love each other.

eatinbyaretic · #26 (**permalink**) 10-19-2003, 06:30 AM

You'll find you will continue to drive each other crazy all the time. It's 'cause you love each other

^^^^ lmao i hope so

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#16 (permalink) 10-28-2002, 12:26 PM
KraziHare Likes Carrots Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Somewhere... probably Posts: 2,426	StonieJo, Just about everything I wanted to say to you about this has already been said, but perhaps i can still lend a different perspective. I'm not a father, but I remember being in a similar situation to your sons. My father married multiple times and had at least 7 kids altogether (possibly more, I was the second, my sister the first). Well, though I've never actually met my father there were times when I wanted very badly to go meet my half-brothers and sisters. I was sure they would like me and care about me like those in my immediate family. I was really, really wrong. I went to one of my stepmother's house and the enviroment alone was foreign and scary to me. It didn't take me long to realize that these weren't people I wanted to be around. They were abusive, mean, and more than willing to take advantage of me (I was always quite gullible). I don't know how much this information might help you but I have the feeling that your sons are in a similar situation. As unpleasant as my experiences with these people were I kept going back, giving them chances they didn't deserve. I'm not saying you should step in and neglect them their father, in fact I've always had the feeling that I would be a much more 'together' person if my dad had had any kind of positive influence on my life. You might just want to rethink this if it doesn't get any better. As for child support, my dad never sent a penny to my mother until he died from a heroine overdose (sad, no?). Don't expect your ex to send anything if he hasn't already. You should take action, listen to Cowboy and look up any local (or national) agencies that can help you. Most of them are non-for profit and will be more than happy to rip your ex a new one (in the legal sense ) Good luck and good karma (whichever's more important to you, or both) __________________ Nonfamiliarity makes you scared to see the beauty in front of your eyes, you're thinking narrowly. Everything is an unpredictable occurrence if you've experienced everything except the purpose.

#17 (permalink) 10-28-2002, 07:51 PM
stonie jo Old School Stoner Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 710	S-O-S......... .......update? Nothin' new really. School's in now and things have settled down, considerably. #2 managed to get himself (and me basically) on probation for two years. After his last visit with the probation officer, I don't have to worry about them goin to thier dads. He told me I am NOT to let them go there because some of the things #2 told him proves that they could be in danger. That took care of itself. #2 has improved alot on his behavior, especially at school. Of course having the probation officer ready to cart him off to juvy has inspired that, I think. #1 has been slacking on his grades - he's gettin' ready to get his computer, phone priveleges, and general life - GANKED!!!! Damn that boy!!! #3 is still my sweet little angel baby!! He's my good little boy!!! NOT!!!!! You should hear him when he thinks I'm not listening!!

#18 (permalink) 10-11-2003, 11:34 AM
critter Old School Stoner Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: the land of oz Posts: 2,762	annual report please pompus ass here really but l banned myself.lol.So whats the story 12 months on my friend.l really like you __________________ smp. smoke more pot

#19 (permalink) 10-11-2003, 06:11 PM
stonie jo Old School Stoner Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 710	HA!! 30 pounds later.............(fat not pot) I love them boys and they love me. That's all I got- and none of you can have it - it's all mine!! Hee, hee, heee!!!

#20 (permalink) 10-17-2003, 04:30 PM
SereneSmoker Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Indiana Posts: 210	I know its none of my business, but I is good to hear that you have everything in order Jo, may good karma come your way. I know how it is to have a family that considers you not a member of the family.

#21 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 05:48 AM
stonie jo Old School Stoner Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 710	My family started gettin' all wierd like 5 or 6 years ago. I used to be, like the black sheep. Now, it turns out, I ain't all that bad! It's really wierd.

#22 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 05:50 AM
eatinbyaretic Vodoo Ninja Master Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 328	from what ive read about you jo, you seem like a tight parent, i wish my dad would have been a lil more like you. maybe we wouldnt be at eachothers throats these days __________________ YaY I'm HigH !!!! Keep tokein tokein tokein

#23 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 06:02 AM
stonie jo Old School Stoner Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 710	Actually it seems like I'm bitchin' at the boys about somethin' all the time. If I don't watch it they are playin' me before I know it. It's the parents curse. My mother cursed me, I have cursed my boys. You know the "I hope you have 10 that act just like you". So far so good. They were generally pretty good kids up to the teen years. 15, 12 and 7. The youngest boy is pretty mellow so far. It's still early, yet!

#24 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 06:10 AM
eatinbyaretic Vodoo Ninja Master Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 328	with the good parental abilities it seems you have they will turn out wonderfully. the only reason it would sound like your bitchin is cuz ive heard some of the stuff you said from my own parents. My mom had me when she was 16, so im kinda glad i dont have any kids yet, cuz it was hard growing up, bein 7 and worring about if im gonna get some grub in my stomach __________________ YaY I'm HigH !!!! Keep tokein tokein tokein

#25 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 06:23 AM
stonie jo Old School Stoner Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 710	(Change of Avatar!!) Sounds like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders. Your parents had to have done something right. You'll find you will continue to drive each other crazy all the time. It's 'cause you love each other.

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#26 (permalink) 10-19-2003, 06:30 AM
eatinbyaretic Vodoo Ninja Master Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 328	You'll find you will continue to drive each other crazy all the time. It's 'cause you love each other ^^^^ lmao i hope so __________________ YaY I'm HigH !!!! Keep tokein tokein tokein