how to break up a long relationship on good terms?

[Demari]

lets say you've been with somebody for 4 years, and you still like them but due to whatever circumstances you've realized you just want different things in life, do you think it's good to try and stay on good terms or just end all contact any way possible?

my problem is that i actually tried to end it on good terms atleast twice but it never really 'stuck' if you know what i mean (kind of like that seinfeld episode where george is trying to break up with this girl who won't let him)

i think if i just said its over and cut off all contact it would be for the best, but might make me look like an asshole..

has anyone ever ended a long relationship on good terms? i think it can happen, but in certain situations it's just impossible

[xXMelkorXx]

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[Anony]

how to break up a long relationship on good terms?

Impossible, never been done.

j/k

[Terentarno]

It really can't be done. I went out with this girl once who was seriously obsessed with me. Eventually, as I predicted, she complained that I shouldn't smoke pot. Being the devoted stoner I am, I explained to her that I'm not going to change and she should accept me for who I am. So she broke up with me. Then told me she loved me and regretted breaking up so we got back together. This happened about three more times, until I told her she annoyed the shit out of me, and that I was sick and tired of her all together. She is STILL obsessing, and won't leave me alone. So I guess when you end a relationship, they pester you forever, or they despise you. In my opinion, to end a relationship on good terms involves both parties wanting out of the relationship. This usually means they have someone else in mind, or someone else already in their pants.

[Collie_man420]

Well begin to distance yourself slowly. dont be (in any way) a jerk or rude. just drop some signs, but be as nice as possible about it, so she'll know its coming. that's all the advice I can give you, even then what you want to happen most likely wont.

[Highbinder]

Originally Posted by Anony

Impossible, never been done.

j/k
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I would have to agree..

[SpencerSpencer]

I would love to know... going 2 year relationship with a person Ive known for 7.

[tea.mochi]

I would say just don't lose your head.
Like, if you just keep your cool during the whole thing, and if she looses her head and you're being nice, she'll look like the ass and not you.
Other than that its more a matter of getting it done and over with.

[muzikman88]

Originally Posted by Terentarno

In my opinion, to end a relationship on good terms involves both parties wanting out of the relationship.

That is your answer.

If you've already tried nicely, but with no luck, then you have to just cut ties. It's obvious you want out and they do not. It's not fair to you to be in a relationship with someone you're unhappy with, and it's also not fair to them.

You may look like an asshole to the other person, but to anyone who knows the situation, they should understand. If they don't, then fuck them.

[Chaohinon]

Confess to her that you're a white nationalist, and have spent the past several years in clandestine preparation for the coming of the Great Race War.

She'll leave on her own terms.

[motorheed]

lmfao^^^^^^

tell her your gay & fancy a roll with her brother

or just go with the 1st answer "hire a hitman"


not going too happen bud,just split & get on with life.

[hoodtalker_1]

be cool, try and be friednly the whoel time. just distance yourslef and give them SPACE

[NevrADullMoment]

^^
Ha! You could make her hate you soooo much that she will do the job for you. By the time my ex. got done with me I was glad to break it off.

*Edit* Damn Ninjas.

[ynotle]

I recently broke up, it was a 3 1/2 year relationship. The thing is we were really good friends before we started going out, so when we broke up we had that to back it up. We still hang out, watch movies, smoke weed, talk and shit but there is no romantic or love interest, at least from my behalf. The thing is you have to really know why you feel like you do and then be able to explain it to someone else, being that you´ve known this person for 4 years MIGHT make it easier. I told my ex that I was pretty fucked up, didn´t know what the hell I wanted out of life and felt like shit about being like that in a relationship cause I barley knew what I wanted for myself, let alone another person, and needed time to myself to see just what I want (no excuses, just the truth).

I could have gotten lucky cause she said she loves me enough to be willing to let me be happy, even if that means not being my girlfriend. But if you care for her than just say what´s on your mind and hopefully she´ll understand. If you don´t then just make something up or tell her you´re bored and you´ll eventually call. Or something.

If you´ve tried and it hasn´t worked, then maybe you´re better off just finishing things once and for all.

[Stonedgobln420]

Straight up tell her its not working out. Don't waste any more of either of your time, and don't play B.S avoiding games, girls hate that shit.

Once you just get it over with, it will get better, and she will hopefully appreciate you being honest and not dragging it out.

Good Luck.