Girl problems need advice

[SenorDingDong]

Mans and womans, Im having some girl problems right now and all my friends are sick of hearing about it so im goin to tell all you stoned mofos the deal to see your take on the whole thing, cuz its seriously rackin my brain.

So I met this girl last christmas and shes pretty much the quintessential girl I look for. Super chill, hot, down to earth, and we share all the same personality qualities, hobbies, music, etc and basically its just so natural to be with her. I didnt know this before but shes had a major crush on me since she first met me -- even when she went back to school and had a boyfriend, she said she still couldnt get me out of her mind.

Fast forward to this summer: she was working where I was, and before you know it we started hangin out and things were getting hot and heavy after awhile and things were just amazing, like everything we did, and we were pretty damn connected, like the real deal. She broke up with her boyfriend as they were on the rocks to begin with but he never got out of the picture because he was such a persistent little bastard and called her like 10 times a day.

So right before she went back to school she said no matter what she has to try to work things out with her old boyfriend because he came first and she said things still could be worked out and she feels bad she left him in the dust. I said thats fucked because she found something better and life goes on but shes so stubborn she said the only way to know that is to find out herself.

Now here I am after 3 weeks of her away at school. Weve been talking everyday and I basically assume shes back with her old boyfriend (she never came outright and said it) which pisses me off, and i cant understand her deal since she said they are two completely different people and have nothing in common except that they go to the same school and have the same group of friends. Plus she says she still thinks about me alot and misses me and that we have something more than a summer fling and we are on a deeper level than her and her boyfriend and shit like that just confuses me. I dont know about you but I just cant see that relationship lasting, but fuck if I know.

Ive never really had problems letting go of a girl before. I dont know what my deal is but I cant get her out of my friggin head and I dont want to lose her and want to try to do everything to get her back even if it means keeping half of the strings attached for awhile.

Ha, so im a wreck right now, I dont know whether to cut her off completely or keep her around until she figures things out.

Someone help this poor bastard out!! haha

Thanks yall

[Crossbreed]

simple question: do you mind being on the rebound?

[toker69]

just wait dude... she will come to her senses eventually... keep in close contact and everything will turn out fine

[Perfekt]

Im almost in the exact same situation. This girl that I have liked for a while, broke up with her BF and we were gonna try it, but not me as a rebound but she said she was gonna be single for a while etc.

But I think she has got back with her BF but not confirmed yet. I am just tired of waiting you know? If she is back with him, for me atleast im done. I have lost enough sleep over this stuff.

But at your situation, if you think she will eventually pick you over her current BF, then stay with it, but do not invest a shitload of time into her and then get owned...sucks!

GL

[duby]

you really only have two options. sit back and wait for her relationship with the ex to die completely and make a move, or make a HUGE gesture like something out of the movies to sweep her off her feet. just show up one friday night at her school all dressed up and ready for a night on the town. bring flowers, and if she doesnt keep any really nice clothes at school talk to her parents and pick something up for her to wear. go out for a nice dinner, and finish the night with a session in a nice hotel, etc, etc.

[hippycracker]

Ok after reading that..it sounds to me like shes definately back with her ex and still has strong feelings for him. She wouldnt have told you that shes gotta try to work things out with him if that wasnt the case.

Sure, you could wait..but for how long? Bottom line, if shes gonna be with you, then thats what shes gonna do. If shes gotta work stuff out with her ex..well, so be it. Obviously this girl has no idea on who she wants and its not fair to you or her ex cause it kinda sounds like shes playing both sides.

IF thats the case, she doesnt deserve either of you. Good luck!

[ILoveTheChron]

dump her and move on.

theres plenty of other girls out there

[Empryie]

G's up Ho's down

[roguewave]

Dude, she is digging on some other guys root ,

Give it up and find some one else even better. Maybe she comes back to you one day, maybe not. In the mean time while she is making up her mind, find a hotter one with better parts and fahgaddabouttit...

[Poobles]

Let her go man...if she calls THEN worry. But old love will always have a chance before new love. That's just how it works most of the time, sorry. Hope you do well.

[Rockerinetown]

im in a simmilar deal

so me and this chick crazy hott down to earth and she smokes mad tree so me and her where hangin out the WHOLE summer her boyfriend never called or anything but the thing is HE WAS EMO so she didnt want him to like kill himself over this and now i think she felt bad for him and i think they might be back together punk ass emo kid meh she will relize that stoners and emo kids dont get along

/babble over

[smoked stoopid]

basically... man dont let this chick destroy u like it appears she is... shes given u this whole confused crap that she needs to see if theres anything still there with her ol bf... BS man... B fuckin S ... if i were u id jus start hookin up with other women or testing the waters elsewhere... and if later she comes around and all the sudden now wants to be with u then ul be in the position to either be with her.. or deny her like she did u because u already found someone else who doesnt play mind games with u...

give the women a taste of her own medicine its hightime us fellas start playin the gurls with the mind games like they do us... theyre always in a position to turn a man down because shes got other options already out there... do the same..

now having said that...

do what u feel is right to do in your heart. if shes worth it too u and the possible heartbreak then i guess go for it.. but all we can do is give u different point of views... its up to u to piece together ur own.

stay up bro and i hope shit works out well for ya

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Originally Posted by smoked stoopid

basically... man dont let this chick destroy u like it appears she is... shes given u this whole confused crap that she needs to see if theres anything still there with her ol bf... BS man... B fuckin S ... if i were u id jus start hookin up with other women or testing the waters elsewhere... and if later she comes around and all the sudden now wants to be with u then ul be in the position to either be with her.. or deny her like she did u because u already found someone else who doesnt play mind games with u...

give the women a taste of her own medicine its hightime us fellas start playin the gurls with the mind games like they do us... theyre always in a position to turn a man down because shes got other options already out there... do the same..

now having said that...

do what u feel is right to do in your heart. if shes worth it too u and the possible heartbreak then i guess go for it.. but all we can do is give u different point of views... its up to u to piece together ur own.

stay up bro and i hope shit works out well for ya

Couldn't have said it any better. However I do have some additions... Hmm.. can i say it better? Eh, i'll just add this...

Ok, so this girl has some "confusion" that she so called pull out of her anus and into your face. Sounds kinda bad if you ask me... Because of that, I suggest you forget about her. Sure she was cool, but apparently she has something wrong with her if your perfect relationship is broken because of a previous boyfriend only to be told that it's because she kinda feels obligated? Either he's got a maaaaaasssive cock, or she's fucked in the head.

You know, just because everything else seems normal as hell, doesn't mean that there's not that ONE thing that causes someone to tick in a different way. People are weird, they are very intricate and you can't ever really determine what the outcome will be when you involve anyone besides yourself.

You can't assume anything in this situation - unless she tells you anything you'll never know. If you need closure, then surely you have her number and can call her and ask her. It's that simple. If she's really on your mind - when she knows, she'll either go "ga-ga" or "gone-gone." Maybe she's not the commitment type person? She could be with this other guy just BECAUSE she knows he's a flake. It's that tick thing i was talking about... Some people drive off other motivations - some are chemically imbalanced, some are logical as can be.

In your situation, I'd suggest you clarify your position with her and persue it heavily. If it's a relationship, then do it well. If it's to not be together, then stay away - don't cause any Springer shit.

Hmm.. i'm not sure if i said that better? But i think it's a damn good addition

[Yurburdcansing]

Lemme tell ya straight from a chick, you're being played dude. She's having her cake and eating it too. When they give that "I'm just so confused about what to do" crap,it's because they want the best of both worlds.
I know this because I've done it.
Ditch the bitch and find some sweet thing that would be all yours.

[JollyRoger227]

Originally Posted by Yurburdcansing

Lemme tell ya straight from a chick, you're being played dude. She's having her cake and eating it too. When they give that "I'm just so confused about what to do" crap,it's because they want the best of both worlds.
I know this because I've done it.
Ditch the bitch and find some sweet thing that would be all yours.

Couldn't have said it better myself, girls can be cruel

It sucks, but I'd just try to move on, cuz she'll just end up doing this to you again in the future.