[cowboysaxman]

I really understand!!

One of the many reasons we moved so far from Calif. was to put distance between our youngest(My stepson, but I've raised him since he was 2, He's MINE!!). His Dad NEVER calls or writes, his Mom (father's) is the only contact we have.

Two summers ago we sent him back to see them (required by court, but His Dad only made use of his visitation this once). When he came home he told us they wouldn't give him his Meds. (He's Asthmatic, and has ADHD an ODD) because they didn't think he needed to take that "crap"!!! He was VERY sick, his asthma was RAGING!! His Dad was gone most of the time he was there(off with his friends!!) and something happened involving their swimming pool that he REFUSE'S to talk about!! Was being watched by 2 cousins, that left him unattended is all we can get out of him, but he was PETRIFIED by water , until I've just recently got him comfortable with swimming again!!

His Dad has even gone so far as to suggest (TO our BOY!!!!) that I adopt him!!!! I've wanted to for a LONG time, but I want it to be my Son's decision!! NOT mine, and NOT his flakey freakin' father!!!! T (our Son) still loves his father thru it all, but NEVER asks about him, just his Grandparents occasionally.When T does talk about his Dad he is so confused, and heartbroken it tears me apart!! How could a man ignore his SON!!!!!!!!!


It's REAL hard not to trash his Dad, but T already knows whats up, and I'm sure your boys do two. Some of what seems so bad though, will happen at home, even if we can't admit it to ourselves!! Such as wanting to "experiment" with smoking and such. It just pisses us off when we get the news second hand, as we're SURE that wouldn't happen if they were home!!

We DO know what you're going thru, even if my reply wasn't clear!! Keep on Keeping on Lady, it sounds like you're doing pretty Damn good, all things considered!!